I have learned from my mistakes in the past. Always always set a specific time, even if you think you are only a half hour away or 45 min. then make sure it is confirmed. When vague things can be assumed or go wrong.
I agree with the other lady, do you know how many tines I have had a gentleman say they are on their way, and then nothing, no word, no call, no show, nothing. That is why I don't give location, I just give a general idea. I don't want then just getting info and not showing either. That weirds me out.
Yes, they ask if you are available, say they want to see you and are on their way, they are leaving. By not confirming, if something else comes up, then they have a way out, or if they change their mind, they feel well, I never really confirmed, I just asked. That way they don't feel they doubled booked, or were responsible or obligated.
Just be specific so there are no loop holes or way outs or miscommmunications that can be misinterpreted.
Sometimes I have been waiting for someone to call or email, and they were waiting for me. I thought we were set and they didn't. Once I say I am good, that means we are good. The guy may feel that just cause, he asked for a certain date and a certain time, and the lady said she was available, til he confirmes he really didn't make a date, he was just inquiring, and the lady may feel just cause she said yes that date and time is fine with me, doesn't mean to him, he is confirmed, til he hears from her that it is a definite. So, just be safe and double check everything before wasting time, gas, etc.
Spell it out! To be safe rather than sorry and not miss out on an opportunity for some fun!
Good luck to all. So, many people are on all different wave lengths and all think differently, which makes us all unique.
~kisses~ Erika
I know another thing is that I have to make sure a gentleman knows where I am for any particular day. They may ask if I am availble, and I have to ask where did you want to see me and did you want incall or outcall, since I travel all over and am not always in one spot, and trust me they don't always look at my schedule on my website or mu postings. So, please don't assume and make sure. You know what assuming does.
She may of thought you already knew she was only outcall for that day and thought you were leaving work in 15 to get to where you would be able to see her and call back with the exact location she would be able to visit. Who knows. I gave up trying to figure things out.
Sometimes we think we are clear and we are definitely thinking total opposites.
So, who knows... I guess this is a good example of living and learning and knowing how to not have that happen again.
Best of luck in the future.
I know the other day I wasn't going to drive to Laurel without the address and the confirmation. Especially when where I had to go afterwards, and where I was at when I received the email, was complete opposite direction. Here that guy was going to ATM before giving me address, and I was waiting to hear final word before heading. That was a whole miscommunication, but I was only out sitting at a Starbucks awhile. I figured he could go to the ATM while I was driving 45 min. there. So, guess this is one you will be able to laugh about later.
Luckily nothing bad happen. Think positive and give benefit of the doubt.
I personally had one where I set the time, made the drive, and on the second call some guy (probably her black boyfriend) answers. WTF? Then she calls back to say why am I calling from a different number? Again, WTF? Backpage is just so frikkin shady....
