So I was supposed to meet with someone very, very early today.  
Despite my love for sleeping in he seemed like a nice guy so I made a point to be up at 6:00am just like I said I would.
We exchanged playful texts this morning and the last I heard he was on his way.
Apparently he was delayed and he say's that he couldn't call me to let me know because he was with family.

I understand that...I think we all should.
Life happens.  
I wasn't angry and just hoped that he was OK.

When I didn't hear from him within a reasonable time I went back to sleep.
I don't apologize for that.
I had a mid-morning breakfast engagement I was looking forward to and I figured I needed my rest.
It had to do with a lab coat and a stethoscope...

After a bit I was able to devote some time to my phone again .
I noticed  several calls and texts from the "gentleman" I was supposed to meet with earlier this morning.

Apparently he took it upon himself to come to my hotel anyway...over an hour late.
Once again I wasn't mad.
It seemed kind of odd but why should I be angry.
In fact I felt really bad about it.
Until...

...So I was listening to voicemails and reading his texts and his final text to me was, "I really wanted to see you.  What should I say on the TER review?'".

Now I may be a young, small town girl from Ocala but I know an attempt at blackmail when I see one.
It sucks that there's really nothing I can do about it.
Hell, I can't even figure out why I should have to.
What did I do wrong?

I wasn't late...in fact I was up hours earlier than I really like to be.
After the agreed upon time was missed, by a huge margin, wasn't it OK for me to go on about my day?

I'm new to this...you tell me.

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It seems a case of miscommunication to me.  It seems that he doesn't know that you can't review a person whom you haven't met. He may not be meaning to say, "What should I put in review" in a threatening way. Unless he is a known stalker, he probably doesn't know hobby etiquette, and showing up an hour late is not acceptable....

Did you screen this guy? Does he seem to be a reputable hobbyist with good references, or he is a newbie himself?

I did screen him.  He seemed really nice.  He is a member of TER and seems like he's been a member a for a while.  I want to chalk it up to frustration and disappointment.  It seemed really mean though.

Maybe he'll see this and add his point of view.

If your facts are all there is to the story, and I have no reason to question otherwise after the prompt, honest and professional emails that you and I shared yesterday, then I would say "just let it go".  Your inclination may be to see him, to "make it up to him" because you are just now establishing your reputation in the community and you are concerned, but my instinct is that if he is asshat enough to send you that text then he is not likely to be any nicer in person.  And certainly not when he has you isolated and naked in a hotel room.  Maybe just my paternal, protective instincts kicking in but thought it important to share my take.

And no, it certainly sounds like you went out of your way to accomodate him, he fucked up, didn't communicate as much as would have been desirable, and then got left at the hotel lobby with wood and nowhere to stick it.  So he took it out on you.  Again, is he going to be any nicer when he has you vulnerable?  

Just keep communicating with potential clients the way you did me yesterday and you will be just fine.  There are unfortuantely lots of hits and misses in this marketplace as we contract for the most intimate of services and the human element is necessarily a variable.  It is nothing personal.

Respectfully....

You know who I am.  

Screening works both ways.  I suggest you list and move your screening to P411 and/or Date-Check.  Both are professional.  
PM me how long you will be in DC area.

necessary, then I would say chalk it up to experience. This profession is risky, no matter how much precautions you take, unprofessional people always somehow end up passing the screening.  As long as he didn't have your hotel room number, there is very little he can do.

you will be best served in the long run to avoid posting details of your business situations on the public boards.  As a last resort, ask  questions like this on the 'Providers Only' Board.

Are you in the DC area right now"?

I agree, already PM'd her

is a wreck. He is mentally unhinged and should see a psychotherapist.

He probably wants another wife, more children, mid life crisis....

He can get sex fast with a provider, but isn't sure if provider can give him what he wants in life.  

He is conflicted, unstable.  He wants to see you, then he gets delayed, he cannot make up his mind.  

He needs therapy, not a provider.  

over their dicks to call/see you.lol you're gonna do ok regardless.

As far as your question, IMO it's all on him for botching the appointment. From the info given, you werent out of line at all.



Despite my love for sleeping in he seemed like a nice guy so I made a point to be up at 6:00am just like I said I would.
We exchanged playful texts this morning and the last I heard he was on his way.
Apparently he was delayed and he say's that he couldn't call me to let me know because he was with family.

I understand that...I think we all should.
Life happens.  
I wasn't angry and just hoped that he was OK.

When I didn't hear from him within a reasonable time I went back to sleep.
I don't apologize for that.
I had a mid-morning breakfast engagement I was looking forward to and I figured I needed my rest.
It had to do with a lab coat and a stethoscope...

After a bit I was able to devote some time to my phone again .
I noticed  several calls and texts from the "gentleman" I was supposed to meet with earlier this morning.

Apparently he took it upon himself to come to my hotel anyway...over an hour late.
Once again I wasn't mad.
It seemed kind of odd but why should I be angry.
In fact I felt really bad about it.
Until...

...So I was listening to voicemails and reading his texts and his final text to me was, "I really wanted to see you.  What should I say on the TER review?'".

Now I may be a young, small town girl from Ocala but I know an attempt at blackmail when I see one.
It sucks that there's really nothing I can do about it.
Hell, I can't even figure out why I should have to.
What did I do wrong?

I wasn't late...in fact I was up hours earlier than I really like to be.
After the agreed upon time was missed, by a huge margin, wasn't it OK for me to go on about my day?

I'm new to this...you tell me.

-- Modified on 11/2/2012 11:59:00 AM