I like three things in women: personality, personality, and personality.   But there is no real TER rating for personality, only beauty and performance.  There ae 40 women on my list of TER favorites.  There is NO way I can see them all.  I wouldn't ever try.

If I contact someone for the first time, and get no response, if she says she does not have a somewhat consistent incall, if her emails are grammatically illiterate, I move on.  I have no way to really tell me what her personality is.  I figure many other women have THOSE boobs.  But I don't' know if she has the personality. I want.

But if we meet one time and I like her, I will move heaven and earth to see her.  

No, I don't need convenience.  I just think that if something doesn't seem right at first, try elsewhere.  But if you meet someone nice, hang on.

Inspiration

Hi Norah,
Good question! Of late I've been using Twitter to make dates. I have found it to be more accurate & up to date as well as efficient. At the end of the day it's that feeling of connection, desire and lust that juice the motivation to keep trying to schedule. I've also realized that when the lady I've attempted to contact wants to meet me as much as I her, we can overcome the obstacles.  

Wish you the best👍🏾
Handson

I see a few regulars (IMHO the best in the area!) and I try to see new ladies every couple of months or so to try out a potential new regular friend.  When I do look and see someone special or who I have been watching, it's all about a time window and how much of a pain-in-the-ass arrangements are.  I look for someone who can meet , a week or so ahead, and confirm  their availability after looking at their ads/website, for the time I have available. An incall for that time is crucial for me.  If they are unavailable or too much trouble I politely move on.  I may of may not try again later.  A few will follow-up later with an email telling me when they are back or have an incall, most don't.  

I have a few friends who will arrange an incall for us but I normally book for several hours (I get the arithmetic) .  One of my LV/UTR friends has a fixed incall which is perfect if not a little far for me (I've driven through snow storms to see this special one!).  One high end local lady required a deposit (understandable for a first visit) and I moved on just because of the PIA factor/hassle/paper trail - our policies were in conflict.  Shame, she looked cool.

I prefer that the lady handle details and I'll bring cash and a bottle of wine to the party.  My regular lady friends are good to me that way, that's among the reasons they are regulars.

Personality helps, a whiff of attitude or "shortness" will guarantee that I won't contact them again.

of sending an email in the first place.

prompt response and professionalism is always nice

I would expect a large variation in effort... not only from guy to guy, but even by the same guy.  

My effort varies based on my desire. You ladies interest me to varying degrees and that influences my effort. There is no one thing that I can point to that makes me more or less interested. It's the whole package, beauty, brains, and attitude. If I think she has all three then I'll be more persistent. If one of the three is a little off, I probably won't.  

Solo mis dos centavos.

If someone strikes a chord, I'll make the effort to put things together.  Just as I do in regular dating.  

I tend to be drawn to the moonlighting type of provider anyway (college girl, musician, small business owner, etc), so spending time with them will almost always involves planning.  Sometimes getting a room.  All that is fine with me.  This is a leisurely indulgence.  I'm glad I don't have to treat like I do when I need to find the nearest Home Depot or whatever.

I'm pretty simple:

1) Big fake boobs, bigger the better
2) Toned body
3) BBBJ/CIM
4) Prostate massage
5) Tease and edge
6) Sweet personality

#1-3 can usually be gleaned from pics and reviews, sometimes #4...but a quality PM is like a quality BBBJ.  

#5, you just have to discover. A lady who thinks an hour session is 20 minutes of sex is a non-repeat for me. An ATF of mine will spend 90 minutes of a 2 hour session teasing and edging me with delicious BBBJ, HJ, TF, PM. She is a touring provider, and I have hopped on a plane or a train to see her even more in the NE corridor.  

#6 you also have to discover.

And hot fucking is also damn nice.  

One local lady I adore is more Baltimore-based, while I live and work in DC, doesn't have a regular incall and her schedule varies. I pretty much need to take a day off, book 2+ hours and tip for the room. But she rocks my world.  

Make it "worth it" to me (a value laden judgement) and I will jump through hoops to see you again.  

I guess I'm not so simple.

Time window/convenience of location, and price (if it isn't featured in her ads)...

 I assume that if a guy reached out at all, that the body type fit their profile...

Number one consideration is her appearance.  Am I attracted?  Does she take care of herself?  How is she put together: clothing, makeup, shoes.  I'm a boob man and love natural boobs but surgically enhanced are nice too.  I have to say that bad boob jobs are a turn off, (just being honest).  Clear, beautiful skin is a huge attraction for me.  Videos are helpful too, because I like to see how a woman moves and I look for someone who moves sensually.

Price point and location are also big considerations for me. I'm not one to tell anyone how much money is too much, but I know what I can afford so there's no use in continuing a long conversation with a provider who is out of my range.

Location is key as well.  It's nice to have a special friend close by and not have to plan an extra hour or so for the drive.

Maybe I'm one of the PIAs?  

Good question! I make initial contact very rarely, so when I do, it is because someone's ad make a very strong impression, and I am very motivated to meet. If I get an initial response that is positive, then I will be persistent and ignore delay or communication lapses once or twice. If I feel radio silence from the other side may be intentional, then I will not pester any further. But it's not about convenience, or immediacy;  it is really about the interest level and enthusiasm that comes through in the exchange. If no enthusiasm at that stage, how much would you expect in person, right?  Just my two cents.

In this current market there are alot of choices that change daily. Many of us guys have an ideal match in mind that fulfills out fantasy. Guys are visual creatures. So we gravitate to the pictures first, then look at the stats and then maybe if we are interested, read a few reviews.  

If all the items line up, then we try contacting and/or go through some verification stuff.  Then is when persistance is either a factor or not. If the guy only has a certain window of time or day he can party, he hopes to match up his schedule with hers. She is trying to juggle a bunch of requests that come from different medias (phone, email, website, PM, etc). That is if she is busy and advertises well or has a good rep and reviews. If it is our first visit, we may get rescheduled in favor of a a returning hero, or someone who books long time. If the reschedule does not work for the guy, he probably start the process all over or have a B plan already worked out in advance. Now for me, if it someone I have had my eye on for a while (on my bucket list), then I will be persistent till our schedules match.  

My hmble2 cents, for what its worth.

Probably an unsatisfying answer, but ... it depends.  I probably spend more time than is remotely sensible perusing the various TER / P411 / etc resources for where I live and where I travel, trying to make something fit into my schedule from a somewhat dynamic short list of possibilities.  Some of those are people I've seen before and liked, some are people I'd like to see because of a combination of optics and personality, and occasionally people who I want to see because some particular aspect just hits a button at the moment.

But, I might email once, get (what I perceive to be) a lukewarm response, and then just come back every now and then, or maybe never, as there are a lot of fish in the sea and even in the lagoon of the folks I'd like to see (to stretch the metaphor a bit).  But, sometimes, I'll come across a posting or tweet or review or something and it will light it up again.

And, well, I'm a guy, so sometimes one just has to see THOSE boobs in THAT pose.  I guess that's how we're wired.

* Kyle

Usually, I just move on. However, there was one exception that stands out in my memory.

I saw this incredibly cute and tiny Chinese-American woman's ads several years ago. They were erotic, but they didn't inspire me to contact her. She got a new photographer and redesigned her website and she suddenly looked not just erotic, but like this incredibly sophisticated courtesan and less cute than gorgeous. Basically, she took full control of the website, and it now reflected her personality.

A couple of years ago, when she was visiting my area, I asked for a date. As it turned out she was super-selective and was seeing almost no new clients, but the personality that shined through her website's text was at least as intriguing as her photos, and it turned out that she was charming, well-educated, and super-smart. She made me work for the date; I had to provide references from two completely new escorts (which I did), and there was a lot of back-and-forth that meant that I couldn't see her until a few months later on her next visit.  I am not sure if she was trying to discourage me or just get a better sense of me. Probably a bit of both.

We did finally get together for a few hours, and then two overnights in NYC and Austin and another date in my area. We are meeting again next week. She is securely placed as my ATF.

To be honest, sometimes it's scheduling, sometimes it's losing track. There might be a chance to see someone on a particular day and I pursue the most promising path after making two inquiries. Sometimes there's real intent but poor follow-up because my organization and memory in this domain aren't great.

1) Attractive escorts are a becoming a dime a dozen.  Right now, for example, I receive multiple e-mails/texts/PMs from ladies every week who are touring and would like to meet.  Most of them are very attractive.  I am more persistent with those ladies that have amazing personalities, are a good fit, and that I am likely to connect with on a higher, more meaningful level.  Physical attractiveness has become a gimme.  I am becoming more and not less picky.          
2) If a lady that I attempt to set up an appointment with is professional, sincere, and an effective communicator (responds  to inquiries in a reasonable time period, is engaging --- and her writing reflects intelligence, thoughtfulness, and a playful disposition), even if our schedules don't align multiple times then I will still follow-up with her at a later point in time.    
3) A few times I have followed-up with a lady who previously seemed very genuine and down to earth only to see a sudden shift in her personality.  Perhaps she is having personal issues?  Maybe she is mixing me up with someone else?  Maybe she has mental health issues?  I don't know and I don't need to know.  But that has resulted in me stopping in my tracks once or twice.  Similarly, if there is any hint of drama or indicators of any sort of drug use, then I would immediately cease and desist.  Also, if a lady doesn't seem interested in meeting me, then I wouldn't pursue her.    

There needs to be something beyond good looks.  An intrigue factor that makes me want to come back for more.  In your case, it's the wit and sass that keeps me intrigued.  I've just not been in the same hemisphere as you for at least a year.  So I follow your Twitter regularly with the hopes of one day experiencing some delirium in the nocturnum.

Absolutely not.

Mostly if I am paying, then I will to be a little more picky about services offered lining up with what I am looking for. That being said, I am huge on customer service so if you don't reply or I ask several questions in am email and you answer the first one but not the rest and I have to ask several times to get a straight answer. I move on...

Being with someone who is eye candy (only) is fine, once.

I like long dates - overnight or 24 hours, so I want someone I can talk to over meals and in-between times.

On the visuals, I am not a fan of ink (although small, cute ones can be sexy). For piercings, ears and navel are fine with me but anything else is at least a small minus (especially down-there piercings). Not a deal-breaker, but a bit of a turn-off. I am not a fan of implants either, but again, not a deal-breaker.

and shows interest in getting together and working things out, then I reciprocate the effort.  

But if she acts like she doesn't need me as a client, has more work than she can handle, or just otherwise doesn't seem to put in the effort, then I'm out the door and moving on to greener pastures.

Interest, customer service, and personality go a long way in increasing my flexibility and time/effort.

There is a certain type of obsession involved when I want to see a provider.  I moved on quickly if there is a lack of professionalism in communication or if the experience is not that good.  (I don't do this much in the first place.)  I went to see a well reviewed provider and she "forgot" the first meeting and wasn't ready on time for second (after giving me a discounted second appointment.)    I was coming on my lunch hour.  Needless to say, I won't repeat, and I shouldn't have made the second appointment but was thinking with my smaller head. My last provider wasn't as flakey but talked a lot about her ex-boyfriends and seemed very judgmental about some of her clients' desires.  So both providers showed a lack of professionalism.  If you're providing a service, even if the service is illegal, you should treat the customers appropriately.  I also appreciate a provider who answers her email, if she shows an email address.  Texting is important once the appointment is close, but email works better for me setting it up.   All in all I prefer someone  who is intelligent and personable rather than just good looking.   But I understand everyone has their bad days and there's lots of complaints providers have about consumers.