Question for you guys and girls.  When I give a reference, I simply state whether the person who I am referring is a good guy or not and would I see him again or not.

Lately, I have been asked for far more details, from hygiene to much more intimate details of our session together, things that I am not comfortable sharing, even with well known providers.  My answer should be enough without pressuring me for more.  Your thoughts????  Maybe I am overly sensitive on the matter!

Also, if I whitelist someone, that means I have seen him and enjoyed our time together!  Makes sense to me!!!  In any event, everyone have a great day!!

I usually just say, yes I have seen him and had no problems.

I have heard that some ladies who have had run-ins with LE and who asked for references in the past, have had those references contacted.

IMHO, give a "nice guy" or "not so nice guy" response like you had suggested.

BTW, I hate the cold weather!

I've gotten a few requests like that about providers recently.  I just say that she is legit or that she is very nice and leave it at that.  Wouldn't be comfortable going into details and wouldn't really appreciate anyone giving out details if someone asked about me.  Like you, I've had several follow ups asking for more info but I just ignore them.

I don't think you're being overly sensitive ... just careful.  And I think most appreciate that.

I for one appreciate when a lady lets me know

Yes he's a sweetie, or he's a blittle large make sure you bring your lube, or he's going to ask you to golden shower him, or he acts nervous but he's not a cop...etc there are p lently of details that we can't gauge nec. when we are speaking online/phone with a client for the first time.

I would agree that all that should be shared is whether we are a good guy or not, and if you would see us again.  That makes sense to me and seems to be a reasonable referral process.  More detailed questions would make me uncomfortable.

Not sure if you are being oversensitive or just cautious.  Have a fantastic day and happy hobbying!!!

I agree that intimate details should not be discussed.  At the same time, I always give a little extra information.  I will say something like he is very sweet and a normal GFE appointment.  Or, yes I know him, he is safe and is always 10-15 minutes early (or late).  Something like that is okay in my book and good to know.  Anything above and beyond that is not necessary.

If the gent has written reviews, all the extra (intimate) information we need is right here for us to read.

Best, Betty

a sincere desire she has in making the encounter the best possible.  True, professionally I think there is a normal "minimum" information exchanged.  But if a lady is trying to find out what things make me happy, anyone who I have seen is free to chat away.

I guess I assume that they will talk about whatever they feel like sharing anyway - good or bad - regardless of my opinion.  We guys sure as heck feel free to do it.  We write reviews about it.  LOL  I only care about certain personal info that some of the ladies know about me.  

In regards to anything related to the hobby, that is fair game in my book.  If it helps the lady get ready for a better session, great.  I would think that there would be an exception in regards to mutualy agreed upon "non-standard" private stuff of course.

Anyway, I can see that it can be uncomfortable, but each lady seems to have her own reasons for doing this, their own standards, etc.  I have no problem with you ladies supporting each other as much as possible and warning each other about my massive cock.  LOL

In my case, ask away Angelina

I have been fine with recieving a minimalist answer. Each experience may vary between providers anyway. I mainly want to know he is safe.

Unfortunately, I had a lady give me a hard time because I didn't give her a heads up that my client pops multiple times. She has a one "pop" per hour rule. I on the other hand do not. So why would I state that in a referral? He was a gentleman and that's all I reported. I also make sure I make a good effort to respond in a timely maner. We all appreciate that.

My policy is that if the referral is positive then I say so in the email. If it is negative or YMMV then I ask her to call me for details. I don't put anything in writing that I wouldn't want to have come back to me some day.
Also I find it strange when a lady asks me for a reference and in her note she says "You white-listed him on TER and/or OK'd him on P-411. Would you recommend him?" Of course, why else would i have white-listed him?

Hello! I have the same approach! Either I have seen him and would again, or haven't seen him,or wouldn't again.
If I have seen the guy and I wouldn't repeat I will explain why. But that's all I really say.

I value descreetness.

Giving details is not good. As others say, minimal information, keep it simple.

Yes you have met and no problem. Meaning you would see them again.

Yes you have met and would not see again. If asked why, you decide how to explain or simply say I would rather not.

No have not met. Easiest answer of all, even if you have met.

Anything more and it could be damaging.

Some will give details such as, he's so big. Then they won't say they would not want to see again. WFT?

Less is more. Let them decide from your reply and other information if they want to meet.

The best experiences are always left to the imagination.

Kind of a weird response from someone no one has heard of!!!  By saying I met someone for lunch/dinner is legal and leaves nothing to the imagination!!!  I am allowed friend, kast time I checked!!!  WFT is WTF...as my paranoia sets in!!!  BTW  seeing someone for a second lunch/dinner is not illegal!!!  

I know...  I am overly touchy these days;( and not in a good way!!!

The best experience is knowing who you are having lunch with...my spidey senses are tweaking!!!!

Sweetie,
T.M.I. = Too Much Information

WTF = What the F_ck

Leave it to the imagination - too much information takes away from the experience.

Too much information is also subjective.

You're likes may not be mine so why tell all?

I missed one - YMMV

And no, the last time lunch was illegal was when the patrons left without paying. Or were caught while enjoying their deserts


And if you missed it, Mary Jane - not what old timers use to smoke, but Spidymans GF

Sorry if I upset your dinner date

Not sure what you mean but I do not smoke anything!! and your dessert comment sounds like a veiled threat>>> Be Happy, be safe everybody!!!

I love blue eyes!!!!!b XO

I think your current policy is just fine!!!

Angelina:  once again your common sense is right on the money.  If Blue Eyes does not say it, then i will.  Lot of us here love you back!

The only reason I wouldnt see a guy again, is if he was extremely rude or disrespectful...and that would be something I would tell another provider checking up on him. Or YMMV..and I leave it up to the providers discretion.

I would agree with M.A.L. (I love that name! and your photos aren't bad either).

In general I think simple is best, but I think it is good to provide any relevant and important details, and or caveats. In the case of referrals I believe there is a responsibility to your fellow providers as well as (if he is) valued clients.

i.e.
Seems like a nice guy, but I have only seen him once.

An appropriate referral might save the guy from a less than stellar meeting, or get him one. If you feel there is something which should be shared (assuming you'll make a generally positive referral), and since he is asking you to refer him to another provider, I don't feel it would be out of line to discuss this with the guy first.

i.e. "He's gonna dive in and spend the entire session on DATY"