I am sure she can, but do I want to be one...Not sure. Lately I have gotten numerous e-mails from other girls wanting me to mentor them. I freely give advice and love to network with other providers, but it is getting a little strange.

Girls I have never heard of nor find online telling me too much personal info, other girls cutting and pasting from my website to theirs (Damn copycats), and girls asking if they could work under me.
I have played with the idea of starting an agency, but since I do not have one random girls contacting me is a bit strange.
As well, some girls who are already in the industry claim their current clients are just "gushing" about me saying wonderful things. I am sure some of my regulars like me no doubt, but how often does a gentleman gush about another provider at a session? I cannot recall anything like that.

Am I just being acutely sensitive to this or does it seem strange?

Kisses,
Vanica

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Yes, it looks like a self promoting post, so it should be placed UNDER your original ad posted bellow.
You can add as many posts you want...to your weekly TER ad.

Mod?



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I don't share your view. I think it might a legit topic to bring up. Why do the guys always have to bring things up ?

Many girls make alot of mistakes. They want to learn what is correct and how to make things better.  They think their looks are enough to make it through a session. To be GFE is not an easy thing to do. It does not come natural to all providers. Some providers it takes a few sessions before the GFE bond is established. With addtional GFE sessions the provider feels she can trust the guy and be a real GFE.

In terms of copycats, people will emulate what works. The market is very competitive. I continue to be amazed what providers will do to satisfy a customer. Years ago things were not that way. There is an old saying "Try it you may like it".





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While it would appear self serving, I feel it is an interesting insight to what it's like to be a provider.

I also am interested in how a girl becomes a provider in the first place. So this may shed some light on the subject from her perspective. My interests are also self serving as I know someone who is showing interest in this profession and Vanica's insight and responses may help her decide how to get started.

As for telling other providers about how wonderful you are, no manners. I would never compare or praise another provider. If asked, I might share the experience, but by no means gush. Of course if it is because they have a Bi desire and are considering seeing the other provider or working together, this information might be a little more detailed.

So, I would like to see what happens with this thread as the Moderator reads it as an ad or a topic for discussion.

I was just telling what really happened, and mentioned that fact because to me it seemed STRANGE, and I thought it might be fabricated or an exaggeration on the part of the lady contacting me.

And being that I did not mention my availability, location, did not leave a link to my site, e-mail address, or phone number I do not see how it could be classified as an ad. I asked no one to contact me. Those are the elements (to my understanding) of an ad posting.

I guess a resolution to this would be to post under an alias, but that to me seems... dishonest and cowardly. I have never used an alias for a couple of reasons... One being no opportunity for PM (which is usually my #1 choice in replying to posts and others replying to me though) as well a bit of pride I guess. No need to hide my identity when I have something to say. I stand behind all of my statements.

And I searched and checked my posts and looked for that half dozen (6) posts you mentioned. I am big enough to admit that in the past couple of months. I had 2 post that are questionable, but still did not list any availability, link, etc. All other posts were either not at all ads, or spaced far enough apart that it respected the guidelines.

I have never heard of a guy gushing over another girl, so when the girls say that to me it seems strange. I just wanted to make sure I wasn't being over sensitive and that is was in fact an odd comment to make to another provider and came off to me as suspicious.

I remember a petite little popular lady who contacted me when she first got into the biz.  We had numerous discussions and we learned plenty from each other.  I always want to be available to lend a helping hand, but mentor, if you are talking in terms of the biz... not my bag of tea.

Clients and I have discussed other providers during sessions, but I live by the old axiom, that if you have nothing good to say, say nothing at all.  Sometimes we discuss the possibility of getting one of the ladies to join us, so it all makes sense to me.

xoxox
Anik

The first thought that came to my mind while i  was reading this was, wow this is pushing it even for "TER". Completly self promotion !
There is to much information in there about how good You Are "you are talking about yourself to much"
That to me is self promoting

Then there is a legitmate  question that you ask. should you be a mentor?
The only person that can answer that question is you? Where the people come from that contact you about mentoring can only be of value to you."not us" YET lol
The only thing i want to get out of this and find interesting is like slippry asked How do providers actually get into this buisness ?

Ladies enter the business through a wide range of avenues. I had one girlfriend say she read a book (the name of it eludes me right now) and that’s how she made her decision. Others answered an ad in the city paper. I had another girlfriend say her boyfriend got her into the business. Other ladies get into the business thought exotic dancing, friends, nightclubs, or word of mouth. I am sure there are other avenues as well. I think that asking how we came into the business can sometimes be a touchy subject. That’s just like asking you guys what bought you in to the Hobby. I feel that would be a very inappropriate question to ask.Truth be told, it’s none of my business. At the end of the day we’re all here for that big “O”. I know at least I am!  I think instead of asking what bought us into the business, you should be asking what do we like about being in the business. Ask this and I think the thread will have a lot more responses form the ladies….

You are correct, asking a provider how they got into the business - is none of my business. Of course it is something all hobbyist wonder and few actually ask. I have asked, but only after getting to know the provider well enough and having led to believe my asking wouldn't offend.

In this case, I asked how one becomes a provider which you answered well. I am not asking how you or Vanica got into this business.

I do have someone whom might need help getting started. If and when she decides this is what she wants to do, I will point her in the direction of information found on this site and others. I will leave it up to her to decide if calling a provider who might be friendly.

As for what do providers like about being in this business, I think it wouldn't get the attention this far down the posts - might start a new one later. Would help build her confidence (I hope) in deciding this was something she wants to do.

BTW - she is currently an exotic dancer who makes good $$$ - hope to take it a little further then a lap dance - LOL

Thanks Jayla

That's easy: I'm a loser who couldn't get laid otherwise, even by my own wife.

To offer my services - I'll F_ck You, just leave your wallet on the table before going into the shower honey...

Here are the questions literary embedded in my post

-Is having numerous random ladies e-mail you in a short amount of time with questions about the biz unusual?

-Is a girl telling you that she has a lot of clients talk about you unusual?

-Have you ever heard of a girl volunteering to work under another?

Sorry if my writing style is complex. I have never been a journalist and tend I read a lot of Joseph Conrad, Edgar Allan Poe and Shakespeare.

I have seen numerous instances where one gal will work "under the wing" of a more experienced established one.  Sort of becoming known and "learning the ropes", so to speak.  (Now leave it ALONE, Jeop.) lol

...desperate enough to take slipry up on his "offer"??  I, for one, am heading for the EXITS....

 Ponzone has LEFT the building!

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