I hobby to meet women I find attractive. Nutshelled....spending time with beautiful women whom would never give me a second glance in reality. Not that I'm horrific....im just average. I'm well mannered, sincere, courteous, good hygiene. But I can't change genetics or the aging process. I've had some really good encounters, and just as many awful ones...
There are several providers I have wanted to meet, but I have hesitated to this point, wondering if they would be able to clique with me.....simply put, because of the distance between us on the 1-10 scale. It obviously takes great talent to give the aura and illusion that these ladies give. But there has to be a threshold where they just can't find the ability to make up the ground...so to speak. I read reviews....and sometimes you'll see a woman who has stellar reviews have that one off review. The term " bad day" gets tossed around....
But maybe, those great reviews come from being with someone they find interesting for one reason or another. And quite possibly that " bad day", was the guy was just too old, or too unattractive to her for her to be able to put on that grand facade. These things run through my mind, and they've kept me from initiating contact with quite a few providers. Even though they have stellar reviews,  even though my heart races at the sight of their appearance. I consider myself fairly observant.... I've been able to tell when the lady has absolutely no taste for me. I don't need to make a donation to be humiliated. So....I don't know if anyone on here thinks like this, or would be honest enough to say.  But I think I would rather meet a lady with a stellar attitude, than a woman with dream angel looks....who just reminds you of what you aren't. Lol

The times I've left a date feeling not great and/or not into had literally nothing to do with appearance. Never, not once. 95% had to do with attitude, 5% had to do with miscommunication. This maybe sound weird or maybe not, but it's an aphrodisiac to be wanted, to be found attractive. When I can tell someone is into me, it instantly puts me at ease. Alternately, if someone is giving me mixed or unsure vibes, I started to doubt myself and it can become a slippery slope of missed signals. Also big surprise, we can tell when someone doesn't respect women in general and I have a hard time faking the funk.

 
Some of my best "regular" sexual experiences happened with people I was actually iffy about attractionwise, but pursued for curiosity's sake. My favorite clients are not "young, attractive hotties." I have some of those. We have fun on a much more friendly, chummy level which makes sense for the lack of age difference. But my faves are those who are caring in the physical and emotional sense, intellectually engaging, respectful, maybe a wee bit charming, are just good people to be around, and share very few similarities physically!  I've also really grown to love the fact that every date represents a window into learning each person's idiosyncrasies.  

 
 I don't for one moment doubt what you're saying. I've been around people who shown disdain for all clients/men/people. And that's their prerogative I suppose. But there are many of us who maybe got into this for one reason, but stick around because it's something we love and we're good at it. Learning how to vet prospective clients and providers is a hard lesson to teach, but an important one to learn. Don't be fooled into thinking you have to sacrifice appearance for attitude. Not true at all.  

 
Good luck!
xo

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Took all the fun out of replying to him. Well stated.

Most I know who can’t find that comfort zone to pull the trigger and take a chance usually have issues more so with there wallet then self esteem. Or they just don’t understand women care much less about appearance than men do.

I’m sure you could fix his problem.

This, this. All of this.

Some of my favorite clients are average looking at best, but they make up for it is so many different ways. A smile makes everyone beautiful.

I have great respect for women. I think they are the most graceful and beautiful wonder upon this Earth. Upon any visit with any lady,  it has always been my desire to provide them with a pleasurable and relaxing experience. That being said....obviously, a bad encounter is quite demeaning to me. I'm not sure how my wallet comes in to play in this equation... as I'm not one to " go cheap". I don't choose providers based on donation. I choose by whom I find attractive. I can't possibly know a woman's demeanor based on pictures. That's why I read the reviews...
But good review or bad, there are variables in there that you can't possibly know, and probably weighed heavily on that clients encounter. Age, income, general physical characteristics, their attitude towards the provider, and vice versa. I have looked at several providers whom I would judge a 10 on physical appearance, and age ranges from mid twenties to nearly 40. Of course....true age is almost always askew from advertised.

that will resonate with many

Giving credit where credit is due, these boards need more posts like this

Good for you!

It’s all about the experience for me.
 I think everyone is intimidated by beauty. You’re not alone.  
You should absolutely be contacting the ones you most salivate over! Usually during the formalities of setting up the date you can get a feel of personality and a sense of chemistry. So many wonderful women out there. Most I believe truly want to have a fantastic experience along with you. Don’t let your insecurities hold you back from the hottest time you might ever have of being with who gets you going most!

Eden

I just got a chance to look at your reviews and noticed you mainly use an agency (if your reviews are indicative of overall trends). I was at an agency so I hope no one takes offense to this, but it's 10x more difficult to connect with someone in the agency setting. On both client/provider side: you don't get the chance to engage them personally beforehand, you don't get to see their personality, and you're expected to be on at a moment's notice. There are ladies who excel in that setting, but it's hard. If you're looking for chemistry, maybe expand to independents who put their personality out there? You can absolutely tell demeanor and it's definitely not from reviews. Use your resources!

xo

That's definitely rock solid advice. I now frequent a couple of independent providers. But looking to expand my horizons...so to speak. My initial post did derive from interest in a couple of models I noticed....at another agency. They were definitely "eye candy", but reviews seemed mixed. That's what got me to thinking about these points in the 1st place. I shine in face to face settings. I'm very personable, with a good sense of humor. And I'm always respectful, and more interested at putting the lady at ease....rather than worrying solely about myself. I think you are right....for me to ensure I'm having a quality experience,  I'll need to steer clear of the agency ladies....or it will be hit or miss continuously.

And also sorry the good and awful experiences are equal for you. The vast majority of mine are wonderful experiences because I don’t set my expectations too high and most exceed them. If I were to overthink what they honestly thought of me I probably would never have had my first experience let alone all that came after.

Norah posted insight and understanding of what she feels about your OP. Now she made another very insightful post and observation from seeing your reviews.

It’s virtually impossible to get connect to someone from an agency without first taking the chance. But with independent providers you get a better understanding before dropping the envelope. I wouldn’t overthink whether they’re being sincere or just damn good at making you feel they are.

I can see some setting the bar of expectations higher for Indy’s but for me it takes away from the experience. I have seen several that had bad days. Many of those I repeated and I’m happy I did. And fortunately none of them disappointed my expectations by having another bad day.

I hope you can find more great experiences and learn to relax, not set the bar too high, be sympathetic if they are not running 100%, and not ask yourself if they see your looks, age, income, or profession making a difference or not.

Drop the gift and simply enjoy yourself.

Good advice as well. And no worries...I didn't take offense. Just wasn't sure if you meant " dig deeper " or having continuity rather than " one off" appointments. When I've found a provider that I've cliqued with, I've visited frequently.  That's usually only interrupted by their personal schedules  (i.e.: vacations, touring ). I never expect things to be earth shattering off of one appointment,  but the initial usually tells you if there's something to be built upon. As I don't frequent solely for physical reasons. I'm older and just not built to be with someone without some degree of thought or care for that person. Back on point....as I consider myself thoughtful and considerate, when I have had a bad experience....I take it to heart. Since my main concern is to give her pleasure and relaxation during my visits, and show her another degree of gratitude for what she gives me. It's viewed internally as a failure on my part. Overthinking seems to be my mantra. Lol. I adore women! So all I want to do is return to them some of the beauty they bestow upon this world.

and leading the interaction goes a long way. I find women respond to this behavior rather than the meek, I'm just happy just to be in your presence attitude. Show a little confidence. Also, some of these situations are a matter of personality match not their physical attraction to you/us.  

Of course, you'll know if it 's not going to work for both of you for more than one visit but that's easy to get over.

To answer your question about attitude or looks  I would say  I have to be attracted to her physically first (yes a certain type) then attitude would be second.

Lol.... yeah, no one has ever referred to me as meek.
Well mannered, but never meek.

Pick out a stunning provider within your donation comfort range. Go see her.  

If you get an ok vibe, and the session might have been off because you were nervous, go see her again. You won't be so intimidated the second time around, guaranteed. Maybe visit her a third time.

I say this because I was where you were back in the day. Once I started seeing gorgeous off the chart providers, I overcame that initial hesitancy. They are selling a fantasy, and you are the buyer. Think about this, just look at how much time, effort, and money providers put into their websites and advertising - this is all done to attract YOU!  

If they have ANY hesitancy about you whatsoever, you won't make it through their screening. Once you are screened, they WANT to see you. Think about that for a moment, then go for it.

The biggest factor also isn't your looks, its 1) being squeaky clean, brushing teeth and tongue and flossed and 2) being a gentlemen. Start the session with a hello, and ask them how they are doing and how is their day going.  No grabbing their tits like they are soccer balls. A good lesson I was taught, treat them like your balls. They are that sensitive. Squeezing them hard isn't pleasant for a woman.

 
Follow those basic rules and you're good. If you want recommendations for providers that fit your criteria in the DMV, please shoot me a PM.

You are 100% on point!!