I want to share a story with you and ask Y'alls opinion as I am getting guilty feelings now and remorse. Should I confess and admit to what I did or just keep quiet and hope no one noticed.

At a recent encouter with a gorgeous lady that I would like to see again and have seen several times I had an incident. I showed up as an early 11AM appointment. All went well and I got naked. Just as we were about to get busy, the room phone rang and she decided to answer it. It was the front desk asking her if she was intending to check out as it was checkout time and the hotel was full. She told them she was staying. Then they told her that she needed to come down and give them more money as her pre-paid credit card was empty or something along that line.

So she got quickly dressed and appologized for the inconvience. I asked if I was going to get my full 2 hours, or should I leave too. She said no, that I would get my appointment starting when she got back and would I like her to get me a coke from the machine on her way back. I said yes, ok.  She picked up the envelope I had left on the dresser and left the room.

Thats when I started to panic. I was sitting naked on the bed and looked around the room and saw nothing. I went into the bathroom and only saw a wet towel on the floor, from where I had taken a quick shower. I looked in the closet and saw empty hangers. I was worried that I was being had. A case of Cash & Dash?

Then I saw her purse between the bed and the nite stand. I thought maybe it was an old purse from goodwill left to pacify me. I went through it immediately. There were a couple condoms, an almost empty bottle of lube, a lipstick, some other makeup things, and a wallet. I opened the wallet and saw many credit cards in her real name, Her license (that showed she was older than I thought and her TER and ad listing by 5 years), Plus hundreds of dollars if not thousands in cash.  

Thats when I heard her at the door and I quickly put it back where I found it.  I felt so relieved that my paranoia was unfounded. Then I felt ashamed of having gone through her purse and being so nosey.  Curiousity killed the car. My mother had always told me not to go through a ladies purse. I feel so guilty now. The session went great by the way. I even tipped her on the way out. What should I do. Of course this an alias and this lady never posts on this board. I have not written a review of her either, but intend to.  No, I am not going to tell who she is either.

Instead of panic, you should've given her some time.  One way or the other, if she was gone there was nothing you could've done.  If twenty minutes went by and she was not back, then start investigating.  Since you found out things about her and you still like her, keep it to yourself and never repeat the same mistake.  Nothing bad happened, no one got hurt or ripped off so it's not the end of the world.  Many providers are not completely honest about themselves, this is the nature of the business and many clients are not honest as well.

fagedaboudit . . . No harm/no foul. Just STFU! Oeriod! eom

The empty closet and lack of toiletries in the bathroom would have sent my alarm bells into overdrive.  I've never been with a provider who didn't have loads of both in clear view. Don't feel badly about the purse as long as you didn't take any of the cash, you have nothing to feel guilty about.

I am not able to connect the dots Curious. You had set up an appointment with someone you had seen before, yet you still panicked? And after panicking you invaded her privacy and went through her purse?

There are a dozen other things you could have done instead of going through her purse.

Sorry, I don't see the connection. What you did is absolutely wrong, and I think you are trying to justify it somehow.

If I were you, I wouldn't repeat it again.

As soon as you saw cards/ID you shoulda known she was not dashing with your cash and closed it right away. No need to examine the ID. You should have NEVER looked in the purse in the 1st place but taking it a step further and looking at her ID is just fucked up.

Even if you use an alias and the lady never posts on this board (she might still read this board). Don't you think the providers who read this board will share this post with other providers? Words travel around fast in our small world. Sooner or later, the lady you saw will figure out who you are. If I were you, I would have kept my mouth shut about this.

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Of course if the lady was an unknown ..received a call and had to vacate the room with the envelope in her hands you would have to think "cash & dash". But that really wasn't the case was it?  Your story has many holes and you definitely crossed the line. To start with you report she is a lady with a good rep and history..and you have even seen her before. that alone should be good enough. But it wasn't.  You found her purse [ sounds like she trusted you enough that it was left behind...the envelope with your session fee in it was probably taken to pay for the rooms extra night.  You look through the purse...Even if that was understandable in your panic, you did not stop once you discovered the purse contained personal info..credit cards and plenty of cash. Not stuff a scammer would leave behind. Knowing now she would return, you continued to rifle through. Check the drivers id..date of birth..real name...count the cash..check the credit cards out.  You went from panic self defense to creepy curiousity...Not much difference here than a Provider going through your wallet while you are in the shower [ not with the intent to steal, but gather information].  It was wrong.  I can see opening it to see if it was a decoy..but examining the contents as you did was a violation of privacy.  If you really felt bad an immediate confession upon her return would have been the right thing to do.  " Babe...I should have known better, but the way you left..and with no bags or anything in the room..well I thought the worst..Then I saw this bag..checked it out just to assure myself everything was OK...but probably went too far...I'm sorry..it was impulsive and wrong".  But no...more concerned aboy a couple hrs of boom boom you disregarded common ethics.  Yes...sometimes being TOO careful is not the right thing to do.

You had nothing to worry about, especially after you found the purse.  Shame on you for going thru it.

I don't even have advice ..... i'm just like omg at what you did. TERRIBLE omg....did I say omg....omg. O......m......g. NO NO and No....seriously...omg. I'm not going to say what I'd have done if I'd find out so I'm gonna put this as my eom.

Her not taking care of her hotel till checkout with your envelope and leaving you there knowing she had an 11 and you going through her shit.  What a pair!

Thats a NO, never go through personal items such as a wallet. Thats a huge invesion of privicy.

let alone someone in the hobby.

It is just plain .. creepy.

Thank you for reminder to never ever leave my purse in plain sight of a "gentleman"

Lina

How do you know the room was empty? I never leave anything in the closet, but I do usually have a big bag laying somewhere. I guess I can understand you peeking into the purse, BUT you DIDNT have to go thru her wallet and looking at her ID. You just didnt have too. It was a simple mistake though, and I personally dont think you commited evil doings.

that the hussy lied about her age. What is this world coming to?

Second of all, You can bear anything-if it isn't your own fault.

And thirdly, you're an idiot.

first of all you should have stayed cool and not panicked. the problem with bookings that coincide with check out times is that stuff like this happens.

(once staff came to the door during a lovely time i was having and insisted on having a discussion about check out. i trusted the lady's capability of handling that.)

you looked at way too much of her stuff. any of her stuff was too much but going through her purse is a major blunder.

furthermore, just because a lady doesn't post here doesn't mean she doesn't read here!

This board is getting so interesting!

You should have listened to your mother. You didn't then and won't in the future.

What is the point of publishing your pathetic, classless behavior? Guess, you belong to school of everyone is untrustworthy and have never trusted anyone.

Your dumbness is superseded only by your stupidity. You publish what you did on a public board and you are not going to tell her what you did. You better hope she is illiterate, can't read or dumber than you.

Some human action has no parallel and yours takes the academy award for stupidity.

Personal Boundries Lesson #1

1. Families (ESPECIALLY CHILDREN)
2. "No" means No
3. Inquiring to the income of either the lady
  or the gentleman- No
4. Violating her trust and going thru her
  personal items. Yes, she left her purse
  because she trusted you. Wow, I'm truly
  appalled
 

*I APPRECIATE YOU POST AND YOUR HONESTY. I'M GLAD TO KNOW THAT SO MANY GENTLEMAN WHO RESPONDED TO YOUR POSTED ARE NOT LIKE YOU.
AND TO REMIND US LADIES TO REMAIN VIGILANT IN PROTECTING OURSELVES.  


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