In your mind, does it seem disrespectful to call escorts whores, hos, trannies, etc...  Does it bother you if you knew that when you called your favorite ATF and she hung up the phone and told her friend "now I have to see this trick".  

I have a fairly high level of respect for the ladies that I spend time with. Therefore, I only refer to them as Ladies. We talk about our time together as being "dates".  

People come to this hobby with varied perspective and attitudes. That goes for the ladies as well as the gents.
Some of the most decent and compassionate people I know are Providers.  

Workplace sensitivity training may be, let us say, out of place on a board like this? No amount of carefully worded and well intended explanations will change the behavior of people who wish to offend, or who have no wish to offend but don't know better.  

And that goes for the way you communicate as well. IMHO Name calling and disrespecting others is a sign of weakness and insecurity in person or even more so when it's behind the back of the person you're talking about.

....me as ladies and gentlemen.  

This forum especially has helped me meet many wonderful ladies, most of whom I never would have had a chance to get to know. And it's been great.
It's complicated because you want to be able to experience that fantasy without disrupting the rest of your life, or the life of the lady. But I consider these experiences rare pleasures, and have nothing but respect for the ladies who can do this.

What Rod doesn't understand is, those of us who occasionally use terms he thinks are derogatory only do so if we know they are acceptable to the lady.  It's done either in jest or because it works in the heat of the moment.
I have called one of a my favorite girls a "Slut" in jest and she loved it.  When Rod objected she even schooled him to mind his business.  The other posters Rod has trouble with are complete gentlemen when actually with a woman. I've seen it first hand and know it to be so.
On the flip side, we have no problem referring to ourselves as whoremongers and pigs.
It's all in good fun, something I don't think Rod knows how to have.

I can understand the desire not to offend people for the sake of offending, but calling the things the way they are keeps things in perspective.  You can call me John, because I am a John. I will not get one bit offended.  Doesn't demean me one bit. I don't find it necessary to sugarcoat shit for the sake of sugarcoating (its a DC thing I understand) or because I am ashamed of it. For the record, I am NOT ashamed of paying women for sex.  Those who are can hide in the bushes and watch...

Thank you

I mean, we are talking about the DC board, right? Because honestly, I have not seen all this stuff you are talking about on the DC board. Maybe I missed it but I think, by and large, people are courteous here.  

which come to think of it, they did tonight.

It still remains to be seen if they lose any ground to the Braves who are currently in extra innings.

but yes, I find PC fakeness  much more offensive than a little locker room humor.

I am a shallow, whore mongering pig, with slanty eyes and a big mouth, who also answers to manwhore, asshole, and chink, providing it's said with a smile.

It really is a sign on the times when the PC Police start trying to run anonymous fuckboards designed for hookers and johns to have open and frank discussions.

I was telling someone that expect the Battle of the Beltways (as the Nats and O's games are called) to end up in 2-2 tie.  That's how they have been going for last few yrs now.

but fortunately common sense always seems to rule, and those "people" are outvoted, usually by a landslide.

The overwhelming majority of the members here like it this way, which is why it is the most successful site of it's kind in the world. Eventually I hope the PC police will figure this out, and if their sensibilities are so easily offended on a site devoted to hookers and johns they could always consider starting their own, more PC site. This one seems to be doing just fine without the PC Police censoring every post that offends them.

I've always been a guy who loves ladies, and they love me back for the most part (lol)- even in hobbying, I try to connect and get a sense of personality- to me, the term "provider" works, although I had never heard it prior to TER- I think the term is a catch all- they provide companionship, intimacy, or whatever other intangibles fall into place - I've never been a dude to put down or malign women, but that's just because I was raised to cherish and respect them- call me a white knight, or whatever

Curly keeps it real lol, but he's a nice dude - he makes a good point though, call me whatever you want behind my back, but I would like to hope that you don't go all Opie and Anthony on me, once the business transaction is done , to my face lol
 

Whitney - sounds like you have been with too many asshole men that don't appreciate women properly. You need the Boy Friend Experience from a man that appreciates and values women, especially those in this hobby.  PM sent.

as long as the lady treats me with respect while I'm with her, I wouldn't really care what name she referred to me as to others (though I always just assumed it was simply "stud" ;o)

Different strokes for different folks - whose to say her stated opinion doesn't truly match-up with what she really thinks?
And I may indeed be a john, trick, client - but heck, I'm also a decent guy who can be properly labeled as a gentleman too!

People are all over the map in this profession/hobby as well as in this discussion. Many are very high quality, others less so. Having known Kelly for a long time, I can testify that she is definitely among the former. No games and no affectations. If you are a gentleman looking for an excellent GFE with mutual respect, then someone like Kelly is perfect. If you're looking for something at the other end of the spectrum, then move on. Different strokes, etc.

Not to post on the boards.  Also, lots of people simply lurk because they prefer to remain anonymous.  In addition, there can be negative repercussions when people post, including providers deciding not to see you.  Interestingly, it's never happened to me, so go figya.
All TER cares about is how many paying, reviewing members they have.

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If you mean by "use" that only a small percentage of members post content on the boards, welcome to the Internet. Only a small percentage of registered users post content on Facebook, Twitter, and other social media -- but they still consume it.  

I have no problem telling a client-friend if I don't like something, no problem at all.

There are things that get said on the boards I don't like one bit. I've learned that many times the board persona isn't really what someone is like off the boards. But there are some who posts ensure that I'd never want to spend time with them.

Some take it WAY too seriously what's said on the boards when they focus one the words not the context.

I'm a lady who chooses to do this "thing" we do here. We all have things that push our buttons.  What pushes mine might not push someone else's. On these forums you'll see and hear it all. The GDB is a kind of free for all. I respect your post completely and sometimes things I read make me cringe.

Whether people like it or not, I don't refer to anyone here as a trick or john, not do I respond positively to being called a whore. But I'm not going to think ill of peeps that call someone else something in jest.

Thanks for your post, it was thought provoking.



Steph

without the exquisite horror of their reality." - Edgar Allen Poe

her posts.. Not her, as a person. I am sure she is a fine person. I was just referring to posts, or her online persona...if you will...

This is more about what I see on the boards and among civilians. My boys are pretty damn amazing.

No one here is being the PC Police.  Asking people's opinions about being addressed with respect is really what I was getting at.  You call it a fuck board.  That's not exactly the way the site tries to market or present itself though is it?  TER trying to represent the industry with a little class and a lot of educational information.  

Good to know the gentlemen you see are treating you with the dignity and respect you deserve.

I'm cheerful on the boards because I am usually a cheerful person when I am not being a royal pain in the ass.  

But don't expect him to get it.  You are simply the most recent in a long line of folks (including yours truly) who honestly tried to instruct him in how to handle himself here.  But he always insists his way is the right way, and continues with his annoying and infantile posting.  The results are quite predictable.

It is best to stop feeding tells

I always thought of Tidwit as the latter, though I have speculated he's the former as well.