Was looking forward to this event given the list or positive reviews. Things appeared pleasant and promising on initial contact with provider on a Tuesday. Discussed her availability at-length based on limited schedule and obligations on caring for a dependent. So decided to book for a Friday late a.m. session on condition that I'd confirm Thursday evening.  
We both had understanding to give a courtesy of notifying each other for any changes-delays requiring a reschedule. Thursday eve, I attempted several confirmations between 10:30p - 1am with no response.

On appointment day Friday, re-texted her early a.m. and left voicemails with again no responses. Finally made contact short time before scheduled event to determine what happened? She claimed her phone was off after 8pm and didn't get any messages or voice from me. Really!? what are the chances of that happening with at least 6 messages . . . gimme a break. Maybe her phone service sucks and she really did have problems but she shoulda figured this one out way before my time-energy was wasted. Hey shit happens, I understand but how much effort does it take to have the decency to say you're late, busy or need to reschedule??? No apologies, regrets or consideration for others. . . attitude confirmed.

Lost time from doing more important things and missing out with other pleasant company. Rather than being apologetic or sympathetic, provider claimed receiving no notice whatsoever and blamed me for not emailing her!? What a flake. . . i understand the juggle of being discrete, organized and professional can be a challenge especially when caring for a dependent. But how hard is it to text back and say we need to reschedule??? Business is business and hopefully you learn something everyday without great expense. . . but next time I'll go with a higher-priced and RELIABLE provider.

It is awful to be slighted like this-disrespctful.  No idea what the circumstances were for her, but not cool to be on the other end of this.   Goodness if we would post all the no shows and late cancels on the board...the reading would be too long!

Hate to be a killjoy, but NCNS's happen... Ladies do it to guys and the guys do it to ladies all the time. I know I'm guilty of having a particularly crappy schedule and often find I'm unable to make an appointment which has ruined opportunities with a number of ladies in the past; but, it is what it is.  

Sadly we can't always do what we'd like and certain things take priority over others...like anything else.  

Just look at it as saving $300, instead of losing time or missing out... you'll live longer and there are many other fish in the sea my friend!  

Fo

Sorry  about what happen,   I am only guessing you are new at this and  no doubt   this  will happen a lot more over the  coming years,  so get use to it.    Its part of the territory .

I personally  have know and seen this provider many times over the last 5-6 years  and she is a responsible person .   I am sure there were personal things she was dealing with that is none of our business nor does she have to discuss them with anyone in this underworld lifestyle we indulge in .  
I last saw the person you mentioned one week ago and it was to be a Double with her friend,   Her friend shown up very late and we started without her friend and she was AZMAZING  that I was glad it was a one-on-one session,   as she was GREAT.   It looks like she may not afford you that opportunity to experience the same thing,  based on your post.   But hey,  what's that saying.............."There lots of other fish in the sea, so no worries".

I have been in your shoes many many  times before and it was not until it happened a few days before Christmas  some years ago that I  learned to turn a horny moment from a cancelled meeting at the last minute to a positive event  when I went to a close-by mall and shopped for MYSELF  with the donation & gratuity  fees I had in an envelope .     I had a great lunch to boot and it was the gifts that kept on giving back  long after the 60 minute I had allotted for a special meeting that never happen because she  did not pick up her phone after I got to the hotel .

I have never done what you did and posted my  frustrations to the board and called someone out,  hopefully ladies doing their research for future meeting with you ,  will be understanding of your post.

For me,  I am very grateful and appreciative for the opportunity to fulfill a fantasy   and just like a relationship ,  sometimes things  don't  work out.        Let it go and me mindful you can afford to do this later again some other day if you don't go out to buy a new set of golf clubs like I did

END OF MESSAGE

This oughta happen more often

Providers have their own network to discuss NCNS guys, we should do the same

Thanks for the advice fellas and ladies but not really hungup on it.
Just gets you irked when you lose alot of time and money on someone's easily avoidable inconsideration.  Especially when notice of delays for both sides was emphasized and the provider was unapologetic for leaving u hanging. Based on reviews, sounds like she delivers the goods if you can catch her or she makes good on the arrangement. But who has time & money to lose on risky business when there are so many reliable options. Thats the point to share with the forum when you encounter this situation.

I do know Kelly and can see what may have happened.  One condition was that you confirm Thursday evening, to me that means 6-9pm.  Anything later than 9pm chances are she had already turned in for the night.  I think most ladies would agree.

I went to Philly last year in September. I had the pleasure of meeting an 80-year-old wise man who said these words to me when it comes to women: "Don't chase them, replace them!" That's gospel. Especially when it comes to the hobby.

I have been around long enough to know, based on your description of events, that there were lots of things that could have led to plausible explanations on her part. Then again, it might have just happened exactly the way you described or anywhere in between. I wasn't there and neither were any of the others that replied here.  

I have learned, in situations like this, that there are 3 sides to every story .... his, hers and somewhere in between is the truth. Should you have reached out earlier the evening before? What you consider a good time to do so (10:30p - 1am) may have been a problem for her. Did you actually ask her what time would be good? You said things were "pleasant and promising" on Tuesday so why would you think she would "turn on you"? THAT could be the 3rd side of the story .... I'm not saying there was anything, just saying it could be.

You have your perspective and she will have hers. It sounds to me like one big mis-communication and here you are putting all the blame on her. I'm certain you have a fair amount of culpability in this and are not as innocent as you may think.  

Your last statement, that you'll "go with a higher-priced and RELIABLE" provider" next time also shows me you think that a higher price means higher reliability .... nothing could be farther from the truth and I have tons of personal experience to know this. Even the most reliable people have things happen .... it's called reality, also sometimes referred to as life.

 

 

 
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When you are a new hobbyist this stuff can get you all worked up. As you hobby over the years you learn stuff happens and it out of your control.  Remember there is always tomorrow for a better day. You can choose to book again or see someone else

This happens to guys all the time. It just happened to me yesterday. Most of us don't post about it because we don't need the head ache.  Maybe we should.  I doubt that Kelly is flaky.  Providers cancel for all kinds of reasons; some double book, late unfavorable replies from references, they may have found out you were green and they don't get down with the greens, whatever. Let it go and move on.

phone problems look like an excuse to me.

Exactly! Especially when they tell you no messages voicemail or texts came through either in evening or morning after. Perhaps her phone service really sucks but its prolly more a case of highest bidder business, which i can understand but for darn sakes just extend us the courtesy!

Thanks for being gracious to share your perspective - lessons learned

LOL fantastic wisdom - that was a good one thanks for sharing.