This is my first post on the message boards, but I didn’t know where else to turn.  I met a provider 2 months ago. She’s relatively new to the hobby (5 months) and is working with a very good agency (I have seen several of their girls).  Long story short I have seen her 6 times even driving 4 hours to another state to visit her and picking her up at the airport and driving her to the hotel.  We have texted everyday since we met, really getting to know each other.  I know her real name and address and even sent her a gift.  We are connected on her real social media sites. She had a legal issue and I helped her find an attorney in her Home state and she even authorized me to speak to the attorney on her behalf.  The only gift I gave her outside of a session was $200 to help pay for something for one of her children.  The last time we were together she didn’t want to take any money from me, but I gave it to her as a gift for her kids. Here is my dilemma:  is it real?  Is it possible for me to have a real relationship with her?  Please don’t take offense, but would a provider be this close to a client or several clients as a way of keeping them interested?  Am I the only one she’s gotten this close to.  I need to know if I am creating a fantasy in my head or if I should seriously pursue a relationship with this woman whom I absolutely adore.  Help!

I'll try not to let this sound as flippant as it will likely come off: but have you tried talking to her?

Great advice - thanks!

Just be careful xo

It’s possible. One of the ladies I know well, married a client, another left for a client and it didn’t work out and she came back. Another lady I knew well was pursued relentlessly and took time off but when he used the M word she said no, and he finally moved on.

Dude, his entire point is he is not sure if he can TRUST her apparent emotions.  Faking emotions is what strippers and hookers do, it is their job. He has reason to be leery.   Talking to her is fine, more info is better.  But if he is afraid he's being hustled, a straight question is far from the clear solution.

Two people with good intent, honesty, and compassion can succeed, but only if they commit to making the effort!

Hooker/ client relations never end well!!  

Thanks for the great advice, everyone.  It looks like the nays have it.  I drove 8 hours round trip today to see her.  We planned to go out for breakfast, then shopping and then I was taking her to her next hotel.  While I was helping her pack, her phone was laying on the bed next to the suitcase and she received a text message.  Out of curiosity, I took a quick peek at the screen (I know - not cool) and I noticed my name.  Then another message with my name again.  So I asked her to check the messages and explain why one of her guy friends was asking about me.  She gave me some story about him being a client that she cancelled on this morning in order to see me and that he showed up for his appointment anyway.  Why she would tell another client my name made no sense to me.  I bought the story because I wanted to and we went about our day.  Well it was bothering me all day after I got home so I asked her about it again and she admitted he’s a client who became a good friend just like me.  Oh well, my heart is broken but I’ll survive and just continue to enjoy the hobby with wonderful women but be sure to remain detached and guard my heart.

Sorry to hear that she broke your heart.  
However, think about it this way, it was relatively quick that you found out about reality and it was only your heart that got broken...it could have been worse.  I know, reality sucks.
Count it as bitter experience and go out and meet more interesting ladies and let's all be on the lookout for the fabled unicorn.

I mentioned earlier that one of the ladies I knew well married a client. What I didn't say was they got divorced after a few years. 'Pretty Woman' was a movie, not real life.  
While I believe two committed people can make it work, I won't be one of them. If I get back in the game I intend to do it for the fun I used to have.

I was in a relationship with a hot little number that was in tysons Fairfax Vienna she had so many mental issues and just wanted to fight and then she turned it on me. The sex was insane and I fell for her but she is no longer talking to me. I read all her reviews and the stuff she said she didn’t do with her clients she was.

I've personally seen them in action and I'm impressed.  Hence my warning. Fyi  there are men that do the same thing.  Ask me how I know. 🤔

I'm not surprised. I'm wondering exactly how many " good friends " just like you she has in her stable. Harsh reality is every man can be a " good friend " as long as that cash and benefits are flowing. I'm not sure but I'm guessing they don't realize men have feelings too. Sorry you had to find out like this but valuable lesson learned.

and while all the relationships ended at some point most of them "ended well"  My breakups with hookers or ex-hookers have almost all been much less drama filled than my breakups with non hookers.

I would never date a provider. They have already clued you in on how they make life choices. Plus the point of the hobby is variety not dating.

Well Gaga your lucky and one of few who's had success.    

....i'd "date date" another provider but doubt i'd "date date" a client.

So does the overwhelming majority of civie relationships. They end in breakups of divorce.

I don't intend to be mean with this comment, but... why be heartbroken? I've honestly never understood people with monogamous expectations in general, nevermind people involved in this little world of ours. Just because she might also have feelings for someone else doesn't mean that you've been played or that her feelings for you aren't genuine.