I understand what you are saying but you should bear in mind that many hobbyists pay the lady to have a wonderful time and then LEAVE.   The last thing in the world I want is for any provider to be calling or emailing me later about anything.  Another thought is that the lady should thank you for the tip when you give it to her. If you do tip her and in your mind you feel that she owes you anything at all after your visit is over, I think you should just keep you money in your pocket.  Just my opinion, but it seems to me that when either party - hobbyist or provider - start feeling that phone calls, emails, texts, etc. are necessary for the other to do on their free time... that seems to be when all the 'drama' starts.

Please forgive the alias but I don't want this question to cause any future problems  A two part question, for the ladies and gentelmen.  If you give a lady a large tip, say $200.00 or more, for a regular visit of an hour or two, not an overnight or extended visit. Do you think it is out of line to expect an email or call to say thank you? With no responce would you tip , at this level, if you see that lady again? Not trying to stir thing up, I am just curious. Thanks to all who take the time to reply

I don't expect any response after a tip, any tip to any one.

That's an interesting question.  Are you talking about giving a tip when your leaving and the lady knows you are giving it to her and thanks you at that point, or are you talking putting it in the envelope and not mentioning it at all so she wouldn't know it was there until you were gone?

If it's the first, then she should definitely say thank you at the time you give it to her which would negate the need to email or call.

If it's the second, well the lady is then in a tough spot. She might be wondering if you meant to leave it or if it was an accident.  She might be reluctant to mention it because she doesn't know what the intentions were.  

In short, I'd say tip as you feel appropriate for the service you get and don't expect anything more or less.

When I tip I leave it someplace where the lady will know it's from me but I never expect any thank you. What I have found is that most the ladies remember and show me how much they appreciate it when I return!

I also rarely if ever give gifts. I guess I'm a cold bastard but the way I try to show my appreciation is by being prompt, polite, clean and appreciative as called for. To me, the escort business is a lot more straightforward if you just pay the fee. One of the problems with tips is the one you mention – if you are ever anticipating a repeat performance you'll have set a bar. If I were in your shoes, I'd have second thoughts about going back to a lady to whom I'd given a $200 tip. If she likes you and/or performs well, so be it. In a weird way, I think it's more respectful to just leave them the fee as requested and get on with your business.

As to your other point, you need a reality check. You don't want escorts contacting you after the session. You certainly do not. I hope you can figure out why.

in no way, shape, form or fashion is money to be discussed or alluded to before, during or after the session.  Any extra money is already in the envelope before I arrive. To take out more and hand it to her, or to make sure that she sees me putting in or on the envelope as I leave, might make her feel like a call girl and would break the mood of the 1-hour fantasy. JMHO.

At the start of a session with any lady who I see repeatedly the envelope will be a little heavier than required from time to time. Yes, I do appreciate getting a brief email or text after I leave, when she finds the little surprise. Others often say that just repeating with the lady should be all the appreciation necessary. That is fine for others. I actually like to be a little generous when I can. Despite the fact that ladies may constantly say that they do not expect tips, don't believe it. Despite what they say, some ladies do take note of a regular who never varies from the posted donation. Loosening up your wad a bit may pay dividends.

That's super nice if they did. If someone tips that much (200 or more) for such esp for not that long of a visit it should be a no-brainer to send a call email or text even to say thank you. Heck I would even probably offer an extra half hour or a bit more for the next visit.  The question isn't out of line at all. IMO I don't think you even needed an alias for this .

This is nothing but a business transaction. Providers charge the going rate, which is based on the level and quality of their service. You have your fantasy and they get paid. You are nuts to leave a tip. Try and stay over your alotted time and watch how fast your fantasy ends. I know we have all run across exceptions, so don't bother pointing them out. I'm talking about 98% of them. Giving a $200 tip means you crossed the fantasy line, and she wondering what kind of psycho she has on her hands. Also an alias, for obvious reasons.

What would warrant a 200 tip for an hour visit?  I could see that kind of tip for an extended stay but an hour?  Unless you are expecting some kind of additional consideration for your next visit.