It deters the crazies from calling and texting you at all sorts of hours. You didn't screen them yet, so what gives them the privilege to get your phone number? This event is similar to the countless events I've seen on the boards.

Providers that only use their email address have the leverage of who they can talk to or ignore. Talking on the phone is too personal IMO. With email, it's better because you can either accept or decline their invitation, have more time to reflect on the decision, and it's more discreet. After you feel comfortable, then you can give the guy your phone number. Just a suggestion.

Do not respond to him in any way. Ignor text...calls...emails.
Do not feed his need.

Ignor...ignor...ignor.

He will eventually move on to the next babe.

Obviously, I along with every sane person here is so sorry to hear about this.

The advice given to you so far has been spot on, and you handled it great.  I can only add this with the hope that it can maybe keep you from worrying.  

My experience with threats is the ones who make threats to you are not the ones you need to worry about.  They generally never act on them.  It's the ones who don't say a word who are the real whack jobs, but since they don't say a word we always are not aware of what is cooking inside them anyway.  

Of course no one can ever guarantee anything, and it always pays to be smart like the previous posters say, but this sounds like the kind of guy who gets his from the threats, not from taking action.

So sleep peacefully and try not to worry.   We'll never know why people do this but I'd bet everything I own that nothing at all will come of these threats.

That said, blacklist him as the mental anguish alone is bad enough for anyone to have to endure.  

you handled a bad situation as well as one could.

 
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Guys who call last minute are fkin idiots which is why I don't give out even a damn google voice until he is verified and has a confirmed appt. If fact, no one even gets my damn website password until then. Not worth it honey. Plenty of idiots in this business, but also plenty of great guys who can both wait and READ lol.

Google voice allows you to use a second phone number on your regular phone so you're not walking around with multiple phones, and you can block numbers from there.  If someone shows you they're an asshole one time, NEVER give them a chance to do it again.  

You can DL the NQ Call Blocker app and block any number on your regular phone from there.  You won't even see when the person has tried to call or text you.

Don't stress girlie. When you do get on the PO board, the girls will give you a ton of ways to get his info out there so that other women won't be threatened this way. Meanwhile, add that app, or one similar, and don't give him another thought.

Stay safe.

Cheers.

Whit

I disagree a great voice (and chemistry) will convince me to fork out my $$. The thing about email is somebody (like this jerk) can be great on emails but face to face be totally different.

There have been times where 100% of communication was email and when I showed up I thought "If we would have talked I would not have scheduled this appointment". I am sure women have said the same thing about some of their appointments where there was no talking before meeting. LOL

Rusty