I know swingers clubs are for married people or couples but is there are legitimate club for singles who want to find other singles for nsa sex?  i know we have the hobby but i would really like to find a fwb type of gal.  maybe it's just a pike dream.

I roll in the swinger scene as a "unicorn", a single female.  Single females are generally highly sought after for F/F and couple play, often those bored housewives are hot to try another woman and their husbands are glad to comply!  

I've also been in the scene as a couple.  Couple swinging is much more difficult as you have two people to please and approve of the partners. In the swinger world single males are generally a PITA - and a dime a dozen.  There are tons of single guys looking to tag someone's wife. To me being a swinger means sex with same gender and other couples, like couple to couple.  I think most single males are simply just trying to get laid, and I think that school of thought is pervasive in the lifestyle, which is why its so hard for single guys.

However many of the local Bmore/Penn area swingers clubs DO allow single males, generally a certain number are admitted per night. I've never been to any of the DC clubs.

Your best bet, find a hot chick, and make friends, and search as a couple.  Or try one of the free dating sites and put it out there your looking for NSA or FWB.  Hot guys with big cocks get good results. Not sure what you look like!    If your feeling really daring put yourself out there on one of the swinger sites and see if you get any interest.  Just find something that sets you apart from everyone else.

Good luck (and Merry Christmas!)

You are right it is a pipe dream.  You need to find a lady to accompany you.

Hello love, I am a member of Tpa is in Md
is very clean and good ,the only thing I found is that most people in the round 45-60 year olds

I am a swinger.  and willing to take people to the club as my date.

Swingers clubs are generally for couples or single women. I have gone to only one swinger club (in NY) as a single guy but it was by invitation. If a couple or single woman who is a member in good standing sponsors/invites you then you may actually get in and have fun.

I have never even heard of any club that permits single guys to enter. It would become a sausage factory and only the hottest few dudes in the club would get any action. Just like going to a college bar or downtown lounge at happy hour. My suggestion  is as stated in the first reply. To find a hottie (provider or civie) and bring it up. If she is game then you have a better chance of getting in as a couple.

As a once (and future) single male swinger, my initial observation is that you need to be prepared to encounter the prevailing attitude in the swinger community toward single males.  Single males there have the opposite position from single females:  while the swinger community treats single females as worth their weight in gold, single males generally are treated as lower than whale “by products” to use a polite term.  Perhaps those persons who have that attitude should remember the adage “be nice on the way up ‘cause you never know whom you will meet on the way down.”

Notwithstanding that reality, no single male should be overly discouraged.  My own experience is that while I would not consider myself as “hot”, and I am definitely of below average endowment (at least while flaccid), I engaged in “ultimate sexual acts” (thank you Mr. C.J. Warren Burger) at about half the events I attended at on-premises clubs.  Moreover, I am basically a “wall-flower” at the clubs (i.e. seen but not heard).  As for the other half of the time, well . . . there are worse things to do on a weekend evening than watching a live sex show.

My advice to the single male embarking on the journey of swinging is to start at the on-premises clubs, which are those on which sexual activity (of all types) is permitted.  I would start out at one of the Pennsylvania clubs where you can stay overnight.  As I noted, my experience at those clubs is that if you are a well-behaved, thoughtful single male, then you have a good chance of having a couple or lady approach you.  For instance, one night I was standing watching what was occurring in an open room when a gentleman asked me if I wanted to see his wife use a vibrator.  Well, . . . who was I to refuse the opportunity to further my education!

I would also advise attending on nights when the club has an event which will necessarily lead to an introduction.  At one of the clubs, for instance, everyone gets poker chips at the beginning of the evening.  The lady with the most chips at the end of the evening wins.  I will leave the rest to your imagination.

Remember also that the people at any swingers’ function will be a cross-section of society.  Appearance therefore is for the most part average.  You do not have the range of choice as you do in the hobby - particularly in this area.  For instance, if I want a latina, I can find one here, whereas I may not have the opportunity to find one as a swinger.  On the other hand, if you are in the hobby because you have a fondness for women (albeit just not one at least at this time in your life), then swinging is an excellent opportunity.  If you do what you would do on a good GFE date (in which at least part of your objective is pleasure for your partner) as a hobbyist, then you will do well as a swinger in any encounters that you have in that lifestyle.  Also on a swinger’s date the clock is your friend rather than your enemy as in the hobby.

The advice in a preceding post about joining a swingers’ site is excellent.  The good sites will have activities listed, and a good number of them are open to single males.

Bottom line is to put yourself in as many situations as you can in which you will have the opportunity for introductions in the lifestyle.  Entry into the swinging lifestyle as a single male is not the easiest process, but many single males successfully do so and flourish in it.  I have avoided using any proper names, at least in the grammatical sense.  If you want further information, please feel free to private e-mail me.

The one I went to had a no single guy policy. Only single women and couples. The single guys were only the by invitation of established members. If this place would have been open to the random singly guys who pay a cover, it would have ruined everything. I made new friends, had fun and spent very little money. Should that place had a policy that let single guys in, it would have been disastrous to the male/female ratio which was about 40/60. There was plenty of women in their 30s to 50s, and the men actually wer very friendly and down to earth. There wer no alpha males with egos to match strutting around. I can see your point about the "starry Eyed 20-something." I did enjoy myself but have no plans to join because swinging is not my thing. I much more prefer to hobby. However, I do prefer a swingers club way more than the typical bar/club scene.

As a sometimes single guy at a club in PA, I can say that very, very few single men are more than spectators, regardless of demeanor, dress or hotness.  The "sausage factory" potential is limited, as few single men are admitted (reservations required), but I have heard more than one starry-eyed 20-something say, just before bolting, he'd do better off at a bar.

I've been to the Crucible a few times and had a good time. I only saw one time where they turned a guy away.

http://the-crucible.com/front.htm

On the 1st and 3rd Wednesday of every month they have an open play from 4-10
There is a cover, but it's a fun time in a very big play space.
I would recommend getting to know a couple, and talk to the guy first, don't try to pick up his wife or steal her away. Be inclusive and find out what they are cool with.  Find out how they like to play. They may want someone to just watch them. You never know.

There is an area that is for couples only and the guys they invite.
If you're cool and hit it off with the couple they may like for you to join in.

Every third Friday of the month.
January 21st

Swinger's meet and greet
$10 per person
$30 single men

Open from 9PM - 2AM

I agree with what other single guy attendees have said.  It's really tough to break into the action because every couple there know you're there to get laid.  I agree that it's best to be low-key and to act like you would at any party -- be polite and make a genuine attempt to carry on a decent conversation.  If a couple wants you to join them, you will know.  But, go there with the expectation that you will do no better than a typical night at a bar or club.

I've attended a few swinger parties in NOVA at which single guys were invited.  They were usually gang-bang affairs or couples-only parties with a few single girls there (usually providers) to make sure the single guys were taken care of.  That's OK for getting off, but not OK if you were looking for completely "amateur" encounters.  At the 5-6 parties I attended, I never got farther than the "pros."

I have had the opportunity to attend many similar arrangements in Europe -- Germany and the Netherlands.  It is absolutely surreal!  The Partytreff scene is more like a group sex or orgy event.  For one fee, you can have all the sex you can physically muster.  I've been to a gangbang at a club in Amsterdam.  There were a few couples there, but, you mainly participated whenever the pros wanted to go for it.

In any overseas or domestic setting, you have to get used to the notion of being naked in a roomful of other naked people, including other guys with as raging hard-ons as you have.

But, I would like to try a swingers party sometime as a couple.  I'm open to suggestions!