Whilst I do realize that not all providers verify clients, please realize that a lot of us do and sometimes this takes time. Its not a matter of do we like the name you sent us. TER is not a screening site and giving us your TER handle doesn't help, but we do take into consideration if you have reviewed providers or if your whitelisted. P411 is a screening and verification site but even with that said, it doesn't negate that many won't see joeblow1234 just because he is a member. Lets say we meet and 2 hours into our date you beat the hell out me, rob me or rape me. We were seen at a local restaurant, or even in the lobby of the hotel. What name do I give the cops? Joeblow1234? What city or state is joeblow1234 from? Get the picture?  

for what I notice, many ladies whitelist guys just in exchange of a review.  

Lol, no problem Gorgeous,  
But your absolutely right on the whitelist. Not saying there is a right or wrong way to how anyone verifies (just hope that everyone) realizes that there are those who stand behind verifying clients whom they are considering to spend time with. And the only way to do that is to screen.  I've had several girls email wanting references on gentlemen and they only have an email, no reviews, no P411 OK's, no website. I'm not wasting my time to find out why, but on the flip side of this, I won't even reference a client if I can't verify the provider. That is for the safety of my clients I have seen. The verification process goes both ways.

CORRECT!!

....can we just get legalization already?

I think most guys think WhiteList will help circumvent screening in the future with other providers.

To be honest I don't remember ever asking for a white list? I rarely ever check to see who has even given them to me and when I notice I will thank her for doing so even though it may be some time after it has been given.
  If the providers use them for screening along with p411 okays it's fine with me. If there is a provider I really want to see whatever she is requesting for her safety I would do within reason.

I've never inquired about it, maybe I should have if it would make things a bit easier to ensure I am able to meet the woman I'm trying to schedule, maybe not.  I find it difficult to comprehend that there are men out there that would harm a lady but I know they are out there.  So, it really boils down to the provider and her methods to ensure she is comfortable and safe with the guy on the other end of the keyboard/phone. Can't blame them for being overprotective....which I've screwed up previously and understand that complete discretion is mutual and beneficial for both.  

because everyone can see it. I'd rather just have a P411 OK that doesn't get broadcasted to the entire community.

Yes, I agree totally. But even if it were legalized the verification and screening would still be necessary. Cigarettes and Alcohol are Legal, but you still have to verify your of legal age.

Not all of us are publicly out there (show our face), have come out to friends or family, or do this full time. All of us have so much to lose and it's only fair to keep everyone safe. Many people cling to the one story they heard where it went badly. My theory on screening is this: clients screen us by viewing our websites, reviews, twitter accounts or blogs. The least that can be done is extending the courtesy of allowing us to get to know you to feel safe. Plus, with RS2K going down, then the issue with Date-Check which was taken over by Chloe's Companions being brought down, and the rumors about information being sold off from other verification & ad sites, I think it's only reasonable that folks provide us the information we need.  

Probably a good tactic.  Haven't inquired about it but haven't had issues getting cleared....well, once it was more difficult and thorough which made me think something was up.  Just turns out that she was more concerned Jan others, probably good on her part but I wasn't very receptive ---- my fault!

if it were legal then we would be having a different discussion

There are a lot who get excited when a lady slips with her real name. I've had a few drop "real" names of other girls as though that's what they call her all the time. I have had to have "the talk" with a few over the years when that happened-not to casually drop real names, and if they can't help it, they should work to not know them. Sometimes I feel like they do it on purpose. I know I've had friends tell me "psst this guy was talking about you under your real name, and I didn't even know he was talking about you!"

yes this does happen. the man tries to display his power by telling a secret. it's very sad