Glad to see this, the post that is. As I said in the similar post from a client it happens on both sides. Sorry it happened to you and I can't imagine anybody canceling on you, but as the saying goes 'you can't fix stupid'. I understand the need for compensation for your time, its business and your time is money. Question is 'How do you collect?" One of the ladies on my 'to see before I die' list, as are you, has the same policy. How do you collect? He has shown his stupidity and has probably not fully read your policy, therefore, ignorant. He's just seen the pretty pictures, read great reviews and went for it. Another quote: Benjamin Franklin - 'We are all born ignorant, but one must work hard to remain stupid.'  
I think the ladies will understand, the guys, not so much.
Good luck,
Baiser

I know about the only thing that made me actually show up to my first date with a provider was that I would have felt bad wasting their time and money!  

As a client and a gentleman, I find this behavior rude and extremely inconsiderate.  I would never expect a lady who travelled an hour to see me to return home empty-handed.  It seems to me that such behavior should have consequences - more than just not being able to see the lady again.  Given how difficult it is for the lady to collect if she acts alone, a general "do not see this jerk" policy would work.  If all ladies respected such a policy, it would be a very effective deterrent to inconsiderate last minute cancellations generally.  Of course, there have been times when I have had to cancel within 24 hours of an appointment, butI've always offered to reschedule.  

A 50% cancel fee within 24 hrs and 100% if less then 24!  

I thought the "good" guys subsidize the cost of "bad" guys. Like higher store prices in a corner store that tends to be targeted my thieves...

If you went to work and there was a sign on the door 'Close for the day. We decided this morning not to be open today. Employees will not be paid', would you feel cheated? Wouldn't you want to be paid for commuting and it wasn't your fault they were closed?

Every business has to take it in the shorts once in awhile, that's part of doing business.  Impossible to collect so you just become smarter and wiser - and move on.   What I would do in the future, however - is insist on a PayPal for the drive part before you get in the car.  $ 100 or whatever you need for that - PayPal is pretty easy to use.  At least that way if there is a no-show, you have the trip money.

its simple.

You're confusing us with your other head doctor and insurance co pays vs paying out of pocket...

You should have taken a deposit for the late night appointment.  Otherwise, what's the real loss?  Sounds to me like you're not pressed for clients; you got a couple more hours of sleep that night.  Glass half full, life is too short.

not fair for the ladies );

First of all, I would have told the friend I had encountered that I had plans for later on in the evening.  If this was not possible, then  I would have excused myself to go to the restroom can call as early as possible.  No excuse for waiting until 10 minutes before the start of the date.

One of the ladies that he used a reference with gave him a discount session and he was not honest enough to tell you that. The dc are goes through phases where guys will fill the book of appointments with visiting providers then cancel at the last minute. Seems like that game is still going on today.

Monique,

have been annoyed that you don't answer his PMs here?