I just want to vent. I don't get much time to enjoy my hobby, due to my wife and job, but on the time I do get to have some free time.  I search this site and read reviews on who to see.  I see a nice lady and want to see her, but she wants to know everything about you.. Work and at least 2 other providers you seen.  I give all this personal information out and never hear back. I'm mad because I put my personal info out and it's gone and I never hear back.

I think the female should at least answer back and email saying Yes or No, and not leave you hanging.  I would guess this happens she calls another girl and she doesn't want to give a reference to lose business.  The good lady on this site are so hard to see.

Look at your review history and your posts on other message boards. You seem like a guy with too many demands and are too complicated. They probably feel you're not worth it.

I'm sorry that happened to you and I agree that the lady should have emailed you back...Just know that there's a lot of us ladies, who do promptly reply to emails.. Perhaps you might want to think about joining a date verification site, such as Date-check or P411, so you don't have to keep giving out your personal information.

You're not alone  eom

I agree with Morgan. Joining a verification service could save you a lot of trouble. Also when you see someone who is a member of TER get them to white list you. Still you will have gals who don't repond when you send out your inquiries. You need to select more than one option, maybe even 4 or 5. Then you can work with the first one who responds to you and cancel with the others. Good luck!

Been doing this 20 years and got used to giving up all the personal info.

I have been trying to get a double date with Mindee and one of her friends for a year. But, I sold my business a couple of years ago and I have investments but no real business office or company website.

I have been a TER member for a number of years and have seen some of the local indies. But, I can't get an appointment without a work phone number.

Not sure what to do. Suggestions?

I'm in the same situation and will PM you as I bet it's the same person.

In my case, I sent (4)potential references to try and get responses from 2 of them.

Don't sweat it too much.

And please don't take Beefs comments negatively....they are helpful and spot on insights.

No, I agree Beef I never  considered that.   My reviews are low, I guess the reason is.  That after the session and I was let down, I would then make a review. I have seen some great girls, but shame on me for not making reviews about them. I did have a real streak of bad luck when I was a newbie.. But thanks everyone for the suggestions and I will try out those Date check sites

Don't give out your TER handle unless it helps you get the appointment.  Ladies doing thorough screening don't need it.  They will want your REAL name and maybe a date-check or preferred411 id which need not be the same as your TER name.

A common complaint, other than what beefeater900 says is: Ethnicity.

Grouping ladies by their ethnicity rather than by their individual virtues may be politically incorrect, but ladies have said (on this board!) that they do it themselves.

If, for instance, you review a specific ethnicity, others may simply assume that you eill not be a good match and may decline you.  Also, an Ebony provider, for example, may only look at your scores for Ebony providers and get a false idea of how you will rate her.

Of course, it is wrong for providers to do that, but we do the same thing: If a provider's first few reviews are low, she risks being avoided, and never gets a chance to prove she's actually better than that.

I didn't take the time to review your reviews, and it's not relevant anyway since I think what I have to say applies in general.

Bottom line, we should all give each other a chance once in a while.  Good luck.

You bring up a point that many of us forget because it's usually not an issue.

And I'm not talking black and white, but everyone else in between.

However, there are many of us ladies who DO get back to you either way.  

Beef had the best advice.  Good luck to you.

I have experienced the same issues as you my friend, and it is frustrating, since this applies to that group of ladies and a few of the Md/Dc area agencies.  My advice is move on, there are other choices out there that will be more proactive to your requests.  One suggestion would be Miami Companions, but their talent and frequency of visits to the area are lacking these days.

You pretty much reviewed what did NOT work for you
because I honestly would have been hesitant to see someone with such negative reviews because I honestly want the experience to be truly gratifying
however, I would have told you exactly that when declining the appt , ie never left you hanging
sorry this happened to you
date check and a couple good recommendations will work everything out for you
good luck and just have fun!!!

Shana is shuch a babe

I am self employed and single and honestly dont care about giving my personal info out. Then again I have come across some girls who are so full of themselves that they ask for personal info, references, RS2K, TER handle and work info. I give it all and they still give me the run around.

When this happens I politely say in an e-mail after 1 day and 2 days if she is really hot,  thanks but no thanks. No matter how fixated I am on spending time with this particular woman there is always a hotter version of her in town or at the very least a suitable alternative.

So Jimrob as Beef said. Try not to be so harsh on the girls in your reviews. If I were a provider I would not want to be reviewed by you for this reason alone.

I have heard of Mindee's band of hot and horny coeds but not the cartel

I also agree with the comments that your review scores seem lower than most others give the same providers (and I've seen 3 that you reviewed); and the overall trend seems to be one of very low scores - try seeing some providers with consistent 8,9 or 10 scores and review them.

I recently joined Date-Check and found it suprisingly easy to do, and it seems to work very well.  

It also helps to see well established local area providers - they generally seem to communicate well among each other and once your established as legit with a few, it makes it easy to get a reference for others. Get 2-3 local regulars that you enjoy being with both physicaly and on the person to person level and see them at least 4-6 times a year - unless your a jerk to them, they will remember you and be a good base of referrals.

Your references are probably giving you a shitty report to other providers.

If you give a girl a messed up hyper critical review...methinks she is not inclined to vouching for you (lol).

When a provider sees a review history like yours or becomes aware of it through the reference check we figure that is $300 that we can absolutely do without.

Sometimes when a provider writes back "no" an explanation is requested.  We cannot reveal the content of reference checks, we don't want to inconvenience the reporting provider who is just trying to help us AND we have no interest in setting you off and making you angrier which is probably why you're not getting any feedback.

I can understand why ladies might not recommend you or might not want to see you.  

You're either picking the wrong ladies, you need to get your expectations in check, or you need to respect the ladies that are providing the service.  I suspect all are true.

If a provider has bad service I will not write a review for the reasons posted in this thread.

If you have ever done a NCNS chances are you are on at least 1 dns.

I agree, I had the same problem with Mindee a while back.I give all my personal info and never did get answer back from her.I moved on, much better women out there that don't ask for the personal info-work etc.

I would like to offer a challenge to any of the wonderful providers on this site to offer me a session.   I will post a review and then you can judge if I was fair or not.  I would like to meet someone local for me.  (I prefer Fairfax).  I just ask that you don't ask me for any personal info. IE other providers or my work.  We meet and after you can post a review on this board about me and what type of client I am.  I have read everyone's advise and will learn from it.   In the past I"ve had a few girls who don't allow reviews and several rejected.  so contact me PM or post your email and I will contact you.