only when asked by a lady?

I hate talking about reviews and avoid the conversation, but I've found lately (the past year since returning) that I have to bring up the subject and request one in order for any to be written. This feels like a shift from when I would just randomly log in and find SURPRISE! New one posted! It's always fun to read the narrative version of appointments and relive the excitement...

And this is from all guys: lots of reviews and with few and also current ones and old...so has everyone consciously or unconsciously shifted away from reviewing unless encouraged or requested?  If so, why?  

Obviously reviews are popping up, but ladies is this just my experience or do you feel a shift as well

They help me out. I see it as mutually beneficial to both lady and gentlemen. You ladies get points on 411 and a fresh review that boosts your profile on TER. And us gentleman get to book future appointments with more ease when you have a stock pile of OKs and whitelistings.

But every once in a while I do run into a lady that does not want to be reviewed. Not sure why, but to each his own.

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I think it helps both parties involved. However, I always try to get permission. I won't write a review if she's made it clear that she would prefer not to have one written. Have to respect her decision.

I agree with your sentiment of not wanting to talk about and converse about reviews.  The of discussing with a lady of, "OK, ......so how do you want me to describe our DATY, BJ, exchanges in the review I'm going to do...."   Now of course that dialogue is an exaggeration, in most cases, but I'm a discreet kinda guy so the whole review process is a necessary evil; damned-if-you-do-damned-if-don't kinda thing, IMHO, of the Hobby/TER world.  Yes, the intel gathered from reading reviews is invaluable before securing an appointment and, it's a benefit to the ladies in their "business" but the actual process of doing a review feels kinda creepy.

I my hobby career of all the ladies I've seen, and it's much more than my current tally, I can count on one hand and maybe 3 fingers the number of times a lady has asked me explicitly to do a review.  And when I have not done them the lady never mentions it, not even on the 2nd or 3rd visit.

In addition, my personal philosophy is to not do a review 1. If the lady has a host of reviews and my experience with her is not novel or materially different from previous reviewers. 2. I'm a paid VIP member for the express purpose of not being under the gun to produce reviews, in whatever time period TER requires, to maintain VIP status.

So, ladies feel free to ask/requests for me to do a review.  I would be glad to.

I'm going to go do one now for a certain lady that I have never done one for as we have a history of memorable times together and she's an absolute sweetheart

If a lady wants me to review her, she will have to write the review so I can submit it.

I used to review pretty much everyone I saw, unless they were UTR or otherwise specifically requested not to.  

But recently, I've started taking a different approach. Now, I only review when I had a really excellent experience that I want to remember and revisit AND the provider is okay with new reviews. I wouldn't write up an 8/8 or a 9/8 anymore. While that's going against one of the goals of TER (gents helping out other gents), I've come to see that the review process is too one-sided for my taste. We both were there, but only I get to provide my perspective, in as much detail as I want. I've heard from several favs that they find that all the info (especially the alphabet soup) cheapens her memory of the experience or sets up an expectation that goes way beyond YMMV.  Some of my favs have strong preferences against new reviews or even have left TER because of those reasons.  

Also, most women who advertise on TER and P411 are awesome, but they won't be equally awesome for everyone. So if a few guys didn't like her, who's to say that I won't either (or vice versa)? At this point, all I need to know is is she my type, physically and personality wise. Beyond that, I find that when I think with my gut (as opposed to other body parts), I generally have good experiences. And when I do, I write it up. When I don't, it's usually a chemistry thing and why would I bring down someone's average for something that's inherently YMMV.  

Besides, not everyone needs to know all my business anyway...

Oh, and to answer the direct question...would I write a review if explicitly asked? Probably, but it still depends on whether I thought it was worth writing up or not.  


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Regardless of what score I give, occasionally comes the PM about why I gave those scores.  If I give a high score, someone will question whether I actually had that much fun.  If I give a low score, I have to worry about a provider blacklisting me in return.  The few bad experiences I have had, I no longer review due to the retaliation that comes with it.  I see no real benefit to writing reviews.  I still write about the good experiences, but mostly for my own amusement now.

Have only started writing reviews in the last year or so. Started because a couple of new providers asked me to. I've started to enjoy writing them as a way of re-experiencing the session.  

I'm pretty explicit in my descriptions. Hope the providers I review don't mind. The ones I repeat with haven't complained.  

I haven't paid for VIP yet (probably don't hobby enough to justify it, and I belong to another verification site), so the temporary access an additional benefit.  

If a provider asks me not to, I would oblige, unless it was a ripoff or a notably bad experience. But since I only see well-reviewed providers, I haven't had a ripoff situation in some years.

How did you get your reviews posted without purchasing VIP?

Reviewing was the original purpose for creating TER. It's founder wanted to help us guys make a better choice from others who had met a lady. TER was created for the benefit of the guys. Sadly those who manage it now have changed it to try and benefit both the ladies and the guys. Many feel those changes are now more to the benefit of ladies.  
 
So times have changed. Ad sites that compete are no longer allowed in reviews or ad posting. Other major ad site have tried to step in to the reviews, but are no way equal as TER.  
 
I stopped posting reviews after I reached 100. Now maybe once a year I'll post a review for someone who made my day and could benefit from the review.  
 
TER is not the same as it was over 10 years ago. Providers rule, guys, sorry you loose.

You don't need to be VIP to write reviews. What ever have you that idea?

It's the opposite. You get 2 weeks of VIP for each review you post.

Years ago the reviews I submitted weren't published until I obtained VIP status.  

Are you saying the opposite is true? I know you can't submit problem reports, and receive vip credits minus opening an account(purchasing VIP) to have credited.

There have been many, many threads pondering how we all (guys and gals alike) perceive the "number" associated with our handles. Can there be too many? How many? How often? What do people read into the number? See Cameo's post on the Boston Board for the latest example from a provider perspective; there was one on the Ohio board not long ago from the client perspective.  

On the other hand, a positive review can bump website views and make the phone ring more often.

Some guys love to "Bag 'n' Brag", some are too shy to write about it without a little "push". Some want as much "free" VIP and they can get from reviewing, others have figured out that paying for VIP is a better option.

My answers?

As a guy or gal, I would want 10 reviews and a board posting presence/history pretty quickly in the beginning. Get RO and PO board access. Get known a bit and gain some credibility so people are willing to talk to you via PM, etc..

After those first 10 reviews? A guy never "needs" another if he pays for VIP. In fact, reviews can be a major hassle in quite a few ways - the biggest being managing relationships and backlash with providers. A gal benefits from (or maybe needs) reviews, at least up to a point, to help drive traffic and to be ranked on the "top provider" lists... 1 review every 3 or 4 months?  

I'll review if you are new and need a review, if you ask for one, if something was far different from other reviews or expectations, etc... there has to be a reason for me to do it. I won't just rehash what everyone else has written in recent reviews.  

As an established (10 reviews) provider, I would think you would simply ask a client for a review after an especially fine date if you haven't received one for 3 months or so. Sort of like "You just made my week! You rule in the sack, Dude! I'll be smiling for weeks! Would you mind sharing what you did in a review? I want everyone to know how to please me just as well as you did!".  lol, but you get the idea.

Just my opinion...

Unless I get a request not to write a review, I almost always write a review after the first time I meet a new lady. I have been getting more request to not write a review, than request for ladies asking me to write a review.

Robespiere is absolutely correct - and I follow the same policy - every girl I see I write a review.  Why? to assure consistency with the claims made in her ads.  How else are we to know the truth.
If you want to see abundant fraud - click on BackPage and see all the "no review" girls - why gamble - we have far
too much at stake.  And, reviews give us the required information to make an informed judgment about Price - would you pay $400 for a grade of 7/7? - of course no, a 7/7 is worth - to me - tops $200.
Unfortunately, in this business there is far too much false advertising - thus, reviews are the only way to
know "as an informed consumer" of what you are likely to experience.
Reviews are invaluable. I might say, well written Reviews are Invaluable.