Do you take your ring off or leave it on when you visit a provider?  What is the proper etiquette, if there is such a thing?  Just wondering.

Dual purpose.

ringBarer:

Not speaking for hobbyists however from our side of the line, this has actually come up in conversation not only with my associates but with some independents I talk to.

Don't think for a second these women don't notice when you take it off if you're a regular wearer. If anything it has been expressed to me, you lose credibility points. Which I can empathize and agree with.

So far I've not encountered a provider who really cares about your marital status in any "significant" way. As for etiquette, I've never heard of one. The majority of our target audience are married men and women. If you're a service provider in this industry chances are you're going to have married clients. Therefore, having moral issue with it is not only counterproductive but attempting to defined such a hill on moral grounds in rather hypocritical at best.

If I had to create an etiquette, I would say leave it on. You're not fooling anyone and to remove it could be interpreted as a form of emotional dishonesty.

Sincerely,

Lee Dreams
Edamus, bibamus, gaudeamus

Misunderstood the post!

I've had several providers tell me they can tell immediately if a guy has taken it off (tan line, indentation, etc.).  Quite frankly, they don't care and think its kind of funny that a guy thinks they could hide something like that.  From my limited data sample, I'd suggest doing whatever you're comfortable with and not worrying about it, the providers don't seem to.  Most don't think it says much about the guy other than they underestimate how sharp these women are.

maybe we're not trying to hide it from the provider, but we just don't want the reminder visible as we grab the handles while they hop up and down in cowgirl?

Or maybe some need to remove the ring as a symbolic gesture before having their fun?

Lot's of reasons might be there, not just trying to hide it from the provider.

The concept of a symbolic gesture is a valid point.

We all have / use them in some way shape or form be it negatively or positively. A significant number of successful people have learned to master the concept as a form of "triggering" to put them in "state" to do what they do, as an example of positive use.

I know I have... when I was in high school many moons ago getting laid was the holy grail, but getting laid in her parent's bad, not that was the ultimate symbolic act of rebellion.

Yes I know... I'm a very bad person... but it was SO good !

Sincerely

Lee Dreams
Edamus, bibamus, gaudeamus

I think Devil's Advocate is right on, in many cases.

The ladies know. The guys know. But there doesn't need to be a symbol there and visible during the action. Too much cognitive dissonance.

I know married providers as well. A couple ladies I've seen have even left their rings on. A bit odd in some ways, but nothing insurmountable. I'm sure others were married but didn't wear their rings. So it isn't always taken off to hide it, but to help perpetuate the illusion, even though everyone knows it is an illusion.

Perhaps before you try to be such a smart@$$, it might do you some good to take a refresher course on the diference between "your" and "you're".

Misusing such words kinda makes you come across as less of a smart@$$ and more like a dumb@$$.

Hint: You're is a contraction for "you are". It really is. You can look it up.

I know I'm married, she knows I;m married. Taking my ring off doesn't change that fact. I've moved beyond any guilt I might have felt from my cheating. Seeing my ring isn't going to make me suddenly stop what I'm doing or make me lose my erection over some sense of moral iniquity.

I also leave it on because I might forget to PUT IT BACK ON and raise questions with the wife. Also, I'd be fucked if it ever fell out of my pocket while getting dressed.

Luckily, I've gained 30 lb since I first put mine on.  Couldn't take it off if I wanted.  Never been a problem.

What if something unintended comes home stuck on the ring?

What if that is the finger yuou want to use in the encounter with the SP?

Many reasons why not to bring the ring in the ring with the SP.

The fewer things you wear, the less is the exposure to something going wrong.

I just don't wear a ring, period.  There are several reasons, none of which have anything to do with the hobby.

Yeah ...spouses do NOT like it when you lose that ring!!  You better have a GOOD story.

I don't take it off, I'm not trying to hide anything. I am up front about why I hobby. Nothing is happening at home for a variety of reasons so I hobby, right or wrong it is what I do. I think honesty is the best policy.

do you really think she cares if you're married???

Who gives a f---   As long as you lay you "donation" down the  ladies don't give a s---. they'll do you regardless, that's what they're paid for.

A cock ring to go with it! Just ask.

I actually went out and bought myself a wedding band (I am unmarried and hope to stay that way).  

I will often slip it on when my partner has a wedding ring on.

This attracts a lot less attention while we're sharing dinner.  They assume that either we are married, that we are close friends, or that we're two married people having an affair.

For some reason, it doesn't occur to people that a married woman could be a compensated companion.

doesn't matter. ladies don't care as long as you have the necessary $$$

I used to take it off, if only for my own personal reasons.  After a while, I realized it was silly to do so.  I leave it on every now and then talk about my family with providers I feel especially comfortable with.

I also take a shower.
Cleanliness is next to...  well it's just a good idea to wash yourself regularly.
Besides I'm right handed. My ring finger is usually pinching a nipple while my other hand is "occupied".