Well...This happened 2weeks ago when we had big ass snow storm...

I saw this gal(She presented her self as UTR) post on TER(No review and pic)..She presented her self as elegant MILF and sexy...So, she was on my radar and finally hit her up....I've found littlebit of her reviews on Escorts.com and saw her profile on Datecheck..Anyway...We set up an appointment for next day and I called her next day morning for confirmation plus details...

About an hour later...I found out that my sport car got stucked in snow (even tho I shovled my drive way last night) and its no way that I can make it to her place...So, sent her email back and told her about this issue...

She said..How about 2morow?? But, I had business trip and such such..So, I told her I will hit u up after when I get back....It was 4hrs before the actual appointment time and I thought she understood...(I was super respected and appologized her twice for cancllation..)

Then..couple hrs later..She sent me this long ass email that "You are jerk, asshole, stupid....and I wasted her time and she had to cancled one of her appointment because of me...Life is too short and dont do this way....Lastly, She's gonna send emails to all the ladies in this area that beware ashole like me and gonna put me on blacklist..!!"

Well...I tried to call or email her back because I thought I did something really bad and wanna appologized to her....But, she blocked my email..So, I couldnt not ask her Y she got so pissed and what did I do wrong??


This keep bothers me and curious who she sent emails to and wanna know what she said to ladies.....lol I'm also littlebit confused because I never had experienced like this and never threaten like this before..

As u see my reviews...I'm pretty much no what i'm doing and have about 10 referrals from my ladies..

Am I really did something wrong?? Do u think I was rude?? Do u think I deserved to hear like this?? WTF...LOL


Thanks!!!!!







-- Modified on 1/3/2010 2:45:35 PM

The snow around here will ruin the best laid plans,
you have enough good reviews and board presence around here not to have to worry about what she thinks of you,
although, you might want to cross her off your bucket list!

"Understanding is a three edged sword: your side, their side, and the truth."
— J. Michael Straczynski

I concur with Cecilia the preponderance of evidence of your reputation will speak for it's self. She is the one who is in essences hiding.

This too shall pass.....


Lee Dreams

I totally agree with Cecilia and told you as much when it happened!  You really are a super nice guy and those of us that have met you know that!  Don't let it bother you!  Frankly, her lose!

I have had people cancel on me with a lot less notice.  S__t happens!!!  Now, a no show is another thing!!!  Cross her off the list!!!

Apparently she isn't very understanding at all!! Hopefully no other providers listen to her. You should be ok. You did nothing wrong!

Agreed, your TER reputation and reviews will overcome any of this. Legitimate providers will not blacklist you over a single event.

Later alligator,
Sky

I shoveled on Saturday about mid day when the storm was at it's worst. On Sunday morning I went back out and dug out my car. Now I live at the bottom of a cul-de-sac (spelling?) and my only problem was just getting the 300 yards up the hill to a secondary street. The main roads up in the Frederick area were in great shape. Now I noticed as I ventured into VA they were not. But I think Raegan is correct in that a little thinking ahead might have been in order.

Did you do anything that deserved an e-mail ass kicking? No. As most have said here cross her off your list and move on.

She was rude and overly sensitive but you should have cancelled earlier since everybody knew a major snowstorm was coming, unless you were born and raised in a tropical country and had no idea of how messy a snowstorm can be.

Just my humble opinion.

Hey.....YourAverageprovider....If u have seen me before...Then u know where i'm from...LOL Definately not from tropical area...LMAO


-- Modified on 1/3/2010 7:44:03 PM

just my 2 cents worth, but you guys are hard!!!  Sometimes things happen, good or bad weather and appointments are cancelled.  I have cancelled and been cancelled on...this buisness is not an exact science, for whatever reason.  I do not get a hotel room, true, but I do pay a hefty monthly rent.  Part of the game...

OK - so to close this out we have learned a few thing here that we should consider important.  

1.  Sports cars do NOT go in the snow.  Better to stay at home than go out.

2.  Rude responses to a cancellation happen although I believe there was an over reaction here.

3.  When you ask everyone their opinion you will get different answers where some say you are wrong and otherssay you are right.  

4.  If you feel you are right so be it but always look at it from the others persons angle and see if there was something else you could or should have differently.  This goes for both parties.

I have always owned and driven classic British Sports cars, mostly MGs, and Triumphs.  Live all over New England for several years and always managed to get through where ever I needed to go in my sports car. Granted the heater sucked and I froze my ass off, but I got there.  

In the latest snow storm my lil ol 72 TR-6 was one of the first cars to make it out of the neighborhood.  

So it depends on what you are calling a sports car.  If you don't know what an MG, Triumph or TR-6 is, you may not be old enough to recognize a real sports car

not having a sportscar to deal with and in anticipation of spending an overnight near one of my current favorites' place i thought "no way in hell am i going to cancel".

instead she cancelled on me. she was worried and didn't want me to make the effort. after all i do have this salmon swimming upstream do AND die drive.

as it turned out her wisdom was superior. i _didn't_ manage to stay overnight near her location.

now cynics might think that her concern was primarily that if i got there how could she get rid of me...? but she has exhibited enough care for my wellbeing that i rather think my safety was her motivation.

don't tell me otherwise, i've had enough jaded and cynical negativity in the hobby to last a lifetime.

-- Modified on 1/3/2010 8:00:25 PM

U rite Raegan...I shouldn't make an appointment when we had bad ass storm....I was sooo bored and horny that I really wanted to meet some MILF..
But, let's make some correction...This happened on Monday...I obviously cleaned up my drive way and car on Sunday...So, I had 100% sure that I can drive to anywhere nextday...Then this stupid snow truck and neighbor stacked up their snow behind my car and blocked my drive way and messed up the street really bad...

I called her on 11am and found out my car got stucked on snow @NOON...The actual appointment was 4PM....Is this steal too short notice??

This is one of reason Y I posted this on public and I appreciated ur thoughts...

Well...I'm telling 100%true and if their is single lie...I will retired of this world...

Ohh BTW, PPL keep saying about my Sport car...Mine is AWD sport car...But, its almost touching the ground(really low suspension) and has summer tires...However, I probably drove to her place if my drive way wasnt blocked...

Also...Her incall place was condo...

That's all I can give u guys about her infos..

Thanks!

-- Modified on 1/3/2010 8:04:57 PM

Yes, we all are entitled to our opinions but no one is entitled to name calling or rudeness, whatever the situation is.  She evidently called him every name in the book.  Not appropriate under any circumstance.

As far as my backing him because he wrote me a good review, you are wrong.  I backed him because I know he is a good guy...2 very different things!  Sorry, just do not see it you way!

You are such a nice guy that you are allowing this wench to get to you.  Don't allow her to hurt your feelings or make you feel bad for this.  You gave this lady 4 hours notice.  In my book that is more than enough.  

You have a great reputation.  Personally I can say that you have always been on time to see me.  Cancellations happen!  I have had it happen to me 1 hour prior to the appointment!  I would never send a gent a scathing email berating him because of it.  

Shit Happens.  As far as I'm concerned, you dodged a bullet with this one.  She showed her true colors being such a bitch.  Now you can focus on seeing someone nice.  

One small note: I had several appts. that cancelled due to the storm.  Communication goes both ways.  I sent emails out before the darn thing even started asking my 'friends' if they would still be able to make it.  

Don't worry about this and keep smiling.  

Best, Betty

Milfhunter is a nice guy.  She was wrong to react the way she did.  There is no excuse for it.  He did not NCNS.  He had a valid reason AND he gave her 4 hours notice.  He also gave me a great review.  This conversation has nothing to do with that.

Raegan,  

Taking the unpopular position is gutsy.  Also, it is commendable that you are sticking to your guns telling milfhunter he should have checked his car sooner.  However, we don't normally get 23" of snow!  If it was me, I would have thought 4 hours was enough time too.  I'm sure if his car wasn't plowed back into his driveway, he would have made it.  Once again....shit happens.  The lady in question was a bitch about it.  There is no excuse for that.  IMHO

I used to drive an older MG.  That car plowed through the Jersey snow very well.  

Sometimes we assume things and well you know how that goes we get it all wrong and then we can make an well you know an a** out of ourselves and other one as well.

For ex. just because someone may live in the area they work, doesn't mean they were there the night before. How do we not know that the lady in question didn't have to travel quite a bit of distance to honor the appt. Even though you say she has a condo she might of traveled over 3 hours or more to get to the incall and be ready to see you and that she did everything on her end to be shoveled out and all set for your appt.? She may have been snowed in over the weekend with family or friends and bailed on them or toughed it out on the road to make someone else happy rather than stay put.

So, if a lady was driving over 3 hours to see someone and then wanted to be there early to have things set up and her ready to entertain, right there is 4 hours notice. She could of been on vacation, or out of town, or with family, or friends, or anything, and said she couldn't stay to keep your work commitment and obligation.

I remember driving back from the beach to keep an appt. and if I would of known that it wasn't happening I would of stayed longer and celebrated my birthday another day with friends rather than get up at 6AM to drive 4 hours back home and fight traffic when I could of been basking in the sun and partying it up.

Also, if she is so under the radar as you said, and wants to pamper and please and make sure she granted the request from a horny fellow. Then she might of given up on someone's else appt. when she made the arrangement's to see you if she only see's one person per day.

Or in my opinion sometimes what is even so much more valuable is the time with family and friends, so if she left whatever she was doing, to accomodate your request, and made all the arrangements on her end to honor the appt. she might of went through a lot to make it happen. All that goes into an appt. takes time away from the others in our lives.

So, she might not of been out the hotel cost if she has a condo, like Raegan said. As, trust me often times a lady will get a hotel for just one person and if it is a same day appt., will book right after confirmed, and if she is very low volume will he out the cost of the room.

However, she is probably out the cost of time, gas, and all the effort she might of made to make things happen on her end, and what she gave up to others when she was then left sitting there with no appt. at a condo when the roads were still pretty bad.

I know often times ladies need to make child care arrangements too if the kids are home on a snow day with no school in order to go to work.

So, yes there is a lot people go through on both sides to make things happen and work.

I have been cancelled on after I drove 2 hours just to see someone. I had an outcall and drove 2 hours and thought I would go a little early to stop by the mall and do some shopping and grab a bite to eat, and also be safe and give plenty of time due to bad weather, and not even an hour before the appt. less than the time it would of taken me to drive the couple cancelled. They said they would make it up and never did. I ended up driving 4 hours total for nothing in pouring down rain, to make sure I held my end of the deal, and risked my safety to not be the one to cancel.

I have booked a room for someone wanting to see me in less than an hour, for them to say they would make it up and never did, as they got called into work at the last minute.

So, yes things happen, and not everyone is a lady or gentleman on each end on how things are handled and not everyone keep's their word on trying to make things up, but I know you will do right if you are a good person as we all make mistakes and are not perfect.  

So, even though she might not of handled it well, I am sure she was just expressing her frustration and took them out on you and vented. Even if it was unprofessional, I am sure a listening ear, making it up to her in the future, or trying to plan more ahead for things to go wrong will help. After all, if the role was reversed would you want the lady in question to synpathesize with you and feel your pain?

I know sometimes things are out of our control, and we need to make the best out of the situation, for ex. getting to a hotel and not being able to check in, and they saying we need to wait 15 minutes, just trying to be there even earlier, so guess you just would of had a full day of snow shoveling, to dig yourself out to make the appt. We can not always anticipate accidents, traffic, or other misfortunes.

Just remember poor planning doesn't make an emergency on another's part. As Raegan said anticipate things going wrong and that the snow plow or others might of ended up blocking you in and that you might have to shovel all over again from that happening.

I agree that there is no right answer, and in the end you both were dissapointed as the appt. did not go through and you were still left horny and she went through a bunch of things to have it fall through. It happens on both sides and normally in the end in life thinks even out and have a way of working out.

So, no there is no right amount of time to cancel on someone as you don't know what they are going through to get there and make it.

Good luck to all and everyone be safe in the snow and winter weather and stay warm .

Just be true to yourself and try to do the best you can and that is all that matters. I know I try to make things up to others if I have caused undo stress or something happened on my end or side of the equation.

We just never know unless we ask or are in the other's shoes....  Just think....

~kisses~ Erika

I agree it is best for everyone's safety to cancel in a major storm. Especially when the news is saying stay off the roads. If something happens to the lady then you will never get to see her and vice versa if something happens to you then you will not be able to see the ladies on your wish list. Heck the cost of just the deductable alone if the car is wrecked is at least the cost of the appt. Better to have the appt. when conditions are good and neither side is at jeapordy to be stressed with safety and the roads conditions. Better to know ahead of time, than have something bad happen.

You are messing up my day.  Yes, life isn't perfect and things get in the way at times on the best laid plans unfortunately...

We all need to be more understanding that sometimes things don't go pefect or as planned and that sometimes things happen. Let's all just show each other respect and know that sometimes things get in the way.

Darn weather that got in the way. At least you were truthful and trying to do the right thing.

As the saying goes we always learn something new everyday, so glad this post was helpful for you.

I am sorry, you are blocked, as I would otherwise suggest making things right with whatever lady and hear her side. Maybe somehow things got heated and blown out of porportion or taken out of context when emotions and feelings got involved.

I think it is great you are willing to see different perspectives. Do what you can and then move on. That is all you can do. Best wishes...

I agree I would of emailed the gent that morning asking if he was still going to make his appt. esepcially if I had someone else requesting the same time frame and that may have been walkable or doable or whatever based on the snow conditions and even a longer appt.

That way the lady would of known sooner that he was snowed in and not able to make it and would of been able to make plans accordingly and see the other gent.

She then would not of turned down the other gent that was asking to see her in order to keep her word and honor her commitment of who booked first and lost out on the other gent's appt. as well as your appt. since she is UTR and low volume and two people asked to see her in the same time window or about the same time.

Too bad for all involved it seems everyone lost out. As I am sure by the time she got back to the other gent it wasn't able to happen on his end then with the short notice.  Best to commnicate as early as possible to not inconvience anyone.

I am with Raegan be proactive and ask and confirm ahead tht morning to save any miscommunications or ill feelings on either end.

I know I would not of been out driving in that snow storm myself and staying put by the fire and being safe. Not worth risking my life and car and maybe even others.

then how much time is ????

The gentleman I was going to see we had already agreed to cancel and if it wasn't that bad, we would play it by ear and touch base the next day.

Also, if I am driving a long drive back to see someone and I have a 3 hour drive etc. then I let the gent know of my drive time and try to ask or see if we can confirm before I start to head out knowing that sometimes things happen and even when in the middle of me driving the the appt. something could go wrong and the gent not be able to make it. Just sometimes the chances are slimmer if I touch base before heading out.

There are no guarantees and that is just one of the hazards of this. We always have pros and cons and need to try to stay postive about things.  

I am sure if I was at a regular incall then I wouldn't need as much notice of a cancellation and it is nice, but as much notice as a gent can give is really appreciated, as I said especially if the lady has to drive to get an hour or more there to see the gent.

I know I have gents call before they head out just to make sure things are on and nothing has changed. I agree again Betty communication is key you are right, just nice to keep people up to date on what is going on.