Sometimes we assume things and well you know how that goes we get it all wrong and then we can make an well you know an a** out of ourselves and other one as well.

For ex. just because someone may live in the area they work, doesn't mean they were there the night before. How do we not know that the lady in question didn't have to travel quite a bit of distance to honor the appt. Even though you say she has a condo she might of traveled over 3 hours or more to get to the incall and be ready to see you and that she did everything on her end to be shoveled out and all set for your appt.? She may have been snowed in over the weekend with family or friends and bailed on them or toughed it out on the road to make someone else happy rather than stay put.

So, if a lady was driving over 3 hours to see someone and then wanted to be there early to have things set up and her ready to entertain, right there is 4 hours notice. She could of been on vacation, or out of town, or with family, or friends, or anything, and said she couldn't stay to keep your work commitment and obligation.

I remember driving back from the beach to keep an appt. and if I would of known that it wasn't happening I would of stayed longer and celebrated my birthday another day with friends rather than get up at 6AM to drive 4 hours back home and fight traffic when I could of been basking in the sun and partying it up.

Also, if she is so under the radar as you said, and wants to pamper and please and make sure she granted the request from a horny fellow. Then she might of given up on someone's else appt. when she made the arrangement's to see you if she only see's one person per day.

Or in my opinion sometimes what is even so much more valuable is the time with family and friends, so if she left whatever she was doing, to accomodate your request, and made all the arrangements on her end to honor the appt. she might of went through a lot to make it happen. All that goes into an appt. takes time away from the others in our lives.

So, she might not of been out the hotel cost if she has a condo, like Raegan said. As, trust me often times a lady will get a hotel for just one person and if it is a same day appt., will book right after confirmed, and if she is very low volume will he out the cost of the room.

However, she is probably out the cost of time, gas, and all the effort she might of made to make things happen on her end, and what she gave up to others when she was then left sitting there with no appt. at a condo when the roads were still pretty bad.

I know often times ladies need to make child care arrangements too if the kids are home on a snow day with no school in order to go to work.

So, yes there is a lot people go through on both sides to make things happen and work.

I have been cancelled on after I drove 2 hours just to see someone. I had an outcall and drove 2 hours and thought I would go a little early to stop by the mall and do some shopping and grab a bite to eat, and also be safe and give plenty of time due to bad weather, and not even an hour before the appt. less than the time it would of taken me to drive the couple cancelled. They said they would make it up and never did. I ended up driving 4 hours total for nothing in pouring down rain, to make sure I held my end of the deal, and risked my safety to not be the one to cancel.

I have booked a room for someone wanting to see me in less than an hour, for them to say they would make it up and never did, as they got called into work at the last minute.

So, yes things happen, and not everyone is a lady or gentleman on each end on how things are handled and not everyone keep's their word on trying to make things up, but I know you will do right if you are a good person as we all make mistakes and are not perfect.  

So, even though she might not of handled it well, I am sure she was just expressing her frustration and took them out on you and vented. Even if it was unprofessional, I am sure a listening ear, making it up to her in the future, or trying to plan more ahead for things to go wrong will help. After all, if the role was reversed would you want the lady in question to synpathesize with you and feel your pain?

I know sometimes things are out of our control, and we need to make the best out of the situation, for ex. getting to a hotel and not being able to check in, and they saying we need to wait 15 minutes, just trying to be there even earlier, so guess you just would of had a full day of snow shoveling, to dig yourself out to make the appt. We can not always anticipate accidents, traffic, or other misfortunes.

Just remember poor planning doesn't make an emergency on another's part. As Raegan said anticipate things going wrong and that the snow plow or others might of ended up blocking you in and that you might have to shovel all over again from that happening.

I agree that there is no right answer, and in the end you both were dissapointed as the appt. did not go through and you were still left horny and she went through a bunch of things to have it fall through. It happens on both sides and normally in the end in life thinks even out and have a way of working out.

So, no there is no right amount of time to cancel on someone as you don't know what they are going through to get there and make it.

Good luck to all and everyone be safe in the snow and winter weather and stay warm .

Just be true to yourself and try to do the best you can and that is all that matters. I know I try to make things up to others if I have caused undo stress or something happened on my end or side of the equation.

We just never know unless we ask or are in the other's shoes....  Just think....

~kisses~ Erika