Great sex can be hard to quantify. Is it the best orgasm you’ ever had? Is it contingent on what a lady offers on her “menu”? The most intimate connection? Is great sex the same as hot sex? Can you have great sex with someone you haven't researched your climax with? More over, can you have great sex with a spontaneous appointment with out pre planning? Trying to define great sex can be both fun and instructive, as long as you don’t approach it as if you’ are writing a playbook, or a shopping list and you accept that everyone’s definition for great sex will be uniquely their own. Share Your Definition.

... is what other people have when you're married lol.

So the definition of quantify is ".....express or measure the quantity of..."  So is good sex me cumming 2X in an hour session of 3x in a three session.  Hmmmmm, maybe.  But at this stage of my life I've outgrown the wham-bam-thank-mam romps.  For sex to be "great," IMHO, you need some minimum level of connection, vibe, passion, chemistry.

I would put great sex and hot sex in the same category.  I recently had an extended session where me and the provider spend an afternoon sweating, fucking, talking dirty to each other and I came 1 time.  But that shit was Hot AND Great sex in my book.  The passion was through the roof as it was our second time seeing each other after an extended period of time since our first session (which was a "Hot" encounter.)  During this visit we were both happy to see each other and she revealed/shared some things with me about her sexual taste that contributed greatly to the passion going through the roof.  

There was a previous thread regarding "last minute" appointments; to your point of scripts, planning, playbooks the "last minute" sessions can be the most erotic there are.  But some need that whole planning element, which has its place but if a level of spontaneity is not included the sex will be no where near great and more a perfunctory exercise.

To re-cap; my definition of great sex is the strong presence of vibe/chemistry and passion.  Then the question becomes how does/is this produced?  Is it that special innate thing that's hard to describe when two people meet and you're like "damn", for whatever reason/s, this person has got my motor going.  Can this be manufactured or does it need to be real on some level?

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Passion.

In both civvie land and the hobbying world, there's nothing that gets my pulse racing more than the thought of a lady who HAS to have me NOW.

When I sense she's "genuinely" into me (regardless of whether it's all in my head, or in reality), it gives me more confidence to perform, which ends up with more satisfaction for her.

 
Not surprisingly, this makes me rather ill-suited for the whole P4P premise (especially non GFE encounters)... I pretty much rely on the provider to really sell me the fantasy.

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To me, great sex depends on how much chemistry there is between the individuals.  
It gets much better when not just one enjoys it but both.

Great sex happens when the chemistry is right, the endorphins are flowing and the juices are sweet!!!!