Not necessarily a cardinal sin. Emotions and chemistry kick in sometimes. I have been and am currently with an ex provider. Biggest obstacle imo is honesty on both parties. It actually can work, but there's a lot to overcome. Will send you a pm and if you want some viewpoints from OUR side of the coin, would be happy to try to help.

very least, cease All monetary support/contributions immediately and see where things stand 6 months from now.

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I personally know 7 dancers and providers that have married their clients and are still with them today. Not sure how their relationships are, but it DEF happens more than you think!

Also, how long have you known her?

You never said how she feels. It happens more than you think. I have come close to crossing a line on a few occasions. Sex is very personal and it’s easy for boundaries to collide in this business.  Money is the great equalizer in this equation. If it’s not about money - then you will know.   If you are still paying for sex (after you have crossed that line) from someone who wants to be with you or  Vice versa then I would not call that a relationship. If money is no longer exchanged between the two of you than there might be a possibility.

Falling in love is never a sin

Who dares question the magic or power of love.
If so , do so at your own risk.

That said , the primary value of hobbling for this gent is to avoid the complicated relationships that come with affairs , one night stands , pick ups and other civiie connections . The beauty of the biz is the boundaries.

 
I have several faves . And I  absolutely love them. But that’s not the same thing as being in love with them or having some kind of creepy , potentially stalker type of love for them. I respect , even admire several ladies I regularly see. I trust them.  I enjoy everything about them. They fill my heart with warm memories and the anticipation of every future rendezvous gives me great joy .
But none of that ever crosses the line of the understandings of transactional relationships.

I know it’s  complicated but authentic, life changing love should  not be confused with deep affection and lust.

But again......who of us should ever question the mystic power of love. Like others I’m aware of clients & providers who’ve made it work.

Maybe sometimes we’re all ( especially me ) are guilty of overthinking things.

Next time I slip up ( oh oh , hope that’s not a Freudian slip ) to DC to see one of my faves I’ll extend a day and we’ll see if we can get some of the old timers together for an evening of drinks & lies !

Let’s party with ur girl, I promise not to try and violate you then.

This one seems to have more positive post than the past responses. All relationships in and out of the hobby require two people to be committed to it. Here, in the hobby, the ground appears to be shakier, but if both are open minded and committed to each other, it can work. As I have mentioned when this has come up before, two ladies I knew that went the way of marriage didn't work out for them. One other, never made it that far. And MY post, some time ago, on the subject was not really what it appeared to be.  Although there have been a couple of ladies that I could easily have had a relationship with I never tried.
Enjoy what you share with each other and if its real it will work.

As a card holding member of what the OP described, all I can advise is to run, run fast. Drink massive quantities of alcohol to kill brain cells and those memories and move on. It will always be painful. It will always end horribly. You will be out massive quantities of money. When the "will you loan me some money hun, I promise to pay you back" comes around, you know it is over.  And it will come around. You will feel guilty for not giving her the extra money, she needs to pay some bill or fix her car, or pay the mortgage, etc. That is when the hook is set and she is reeling you in for the kill. Don't be that baby seal that gets clubbed. Again and Again.

If you have genuine feelings that's ok. You are a human being after all. And much to the surprise of many we, providers, are as well! It's very normal to have true feelings for clients or providers. It happens and sometimes it works out sometimes it doesn't.  

 You didn't say if she has told you she feels the same way, I am guessing it's likely to be one sided? I don't know. If you are enjoying each other's company and you have a special relationship, meaning one that includes hanging out together outside of the typical appointment then enjoy it!!! Sounds like you found a special one.  No need to ruin things. Unless you are going to start not being able to handle things.  

 Now if she is telling you she loves you and wants to be with you then you need to figure that out and find out if it's real. That would be her being with you exclusively. It's a messy situation for sure!! But you are normal and I don't think you should feel bad about it.  

 If it gets to be too much you can always take a step back to really think about it and see how you feel. Maybe with some space you will see things more clearly.  You may find you don't love her like that but just genuinely like being in her company.  

 I know I am rambling here at 5:30AM, just opened my eyes.  I just wanted to include my thoughts besides the typical RUN comments. Have fun!

I meant to say if the provider loves you she would want to be with you without that envelope being given to her. I never meant she would or should stop providing.  

 Which is why you said be careful and be smart!! If it's true love for real , and not reciprocated, that can feel shitty. Excuse my language.

Update

Thanks for everyone’s response! I was worried it would be a bashing lol!  

Update I told her my true feelings that I’m in love with her! Her feelings our mutual we hugged and cried ordered Chinese and binge watched black mirror.  Then cuddled sleep 😴 together all night no (sex) and it was awesome 👏😎. We agreed one step at a time no drastic changes! Unfortunately this world 🌍 money 💴 is nessicity.  

Bottom line....if you're still going in pocket, you're getting played. And if that's the case....now that you've let her know she owns your heart...and your Johnson, you can bet her hand will go even deeper in to your pocket. Not saying this is the case for you....just don't let your feelings outweigh good common sense. On the other hand....these ladies have the potential to earn a very comfortable lifestyle. Can you live with her still taking appointments? Or are you able to give her the lifestyle she's accustomed to? I fell pretty hard for a girl when I 1st started out .... that's on me. But she knew she had me, and did pretty well for herself off of it. Finally, my common sense kicked back in and I saw it for what it was. I had a lot of fun with her, so I chalk it up to a lesson learned that still provided some really good memories. Nutshelled....just be careful. The heart can ruin you....

I fell in love with a provider and she said she loved me, too. Unfortunately, it was merely a tactic on her part to obtain more money from me. She was maneuvering me into a sugar daddy/baby relationship. When expressed some concern about the direction of the relationship, she unloaded on me in the most insulting way possible. I should have kept everything strictly transactional.

about how the situation has evolved. Would be nice to believe this really happened ( for both of them), but call it the decent human side of me.... concerned for a stranger who might get taken advantage of.
It happened to me, or rather I allowed it to happen to me...