This Washington Post article was recently discussed on the GD board. Interesting article, but it makes a claim that I find hard to believe: that 40% of clients just want to talk or have dinner, and are not there for sex. I'm just curious if any of the ladies can verify that this figure is accurate.



related link: Sudhir Venkatesh "Five Myths about Prostitution"

http://www.washingtonpost.com/wp-dyn/content/article/2010/09/10/AR2010091002670.html

Im using an alias because I want to state my opinion with out sounding like an ad or something

I can honestly say that about 40% of my clients would still see me with out the sex, its an extra benefit.
At home they get zero affection so hugging or cuddling is major. They want to talk and laugh and be heard. I listen well and offer positive encouragement that they dont get at home. I make them feel like man, respected and desired.
Ive been told things by clients that they wouldnt even tell in their wife or best friends.

Providers are like therapist.

I am still young enough where I want to have sex with the escorts I see, but I completely understand why many don't.  It is a turn-on to have a beautiful woman hang on your every word, to gently touch you in the right places, and act as if she understands your every desire, even those that are non-sexual.

Never underestimate the needs of the male ego ...

I can't agreed more.  

I work my ass off to provide a comfortable life.  My staying home wife spends it and treat me like shit when I get home.  There is no respect, warm well come and tell bad mouth about me to others.  I stay around because I love my kids.

The providers are better than licensed shrinks.  If I have to choose $250 1 hour with a shrink or a provider, I would pick a provider any day.

Especially on a first meeting I like to talk a bit before hopping in the sack, but I'm there for a roll in the hay, not a therapy session. But judging by some of the threads on TER, 40% needing therapy is probably an underestimate. LOL

without sex. the key to success is to be able to be diverse and match the specific needs of your client base. merely providing sex is less demanding and challenging.

You seem like a really nice man and I agree with what you said about taking a session from good to great but wanted to shed light on something
You wont see a review about great conversation, opening up on a deep level, appreciating one another, helping with tuition, celebrating major accomplishments and thing like that
The type of guys who desire more of a therapy type of appointment arent on TER *most of the time. They find the review process degrading and they like to keep things private. They dont want to read about all of the other guys Ive been with. TER is mostly about the physical aspect, not the emotional and intellectual part...otherwise the profile would have a few things like personality, character, etc.

Just my personal opinion from a few years of providing
xo

This is exactly why I normally book a 2 hour session. I need that communication and attention I do  not receive at home, and there is an easy transition to mutual exploration.

40%.. that makes me wonder, when a lady is getting ready, does she muse about how many chatters she'll meet, and what is she going to say to them? When a lady opens the door, does she look at me thinking "maybe this one isn't here for conversation"

And maybe TER should start a review thread dedicated to men who aren't so interested in the acrobatics of sex.

UK

Often times the difference between a good session and a great one is how good
the oral 'intercourse' is before the physical part. To me it just intensifies the main
event.  But I do need the physical to make it a sucess. And that 40% number  is a very
high number.... My guess is it should be around 10 to 15. When was the last time you
saw a review where a guy just described his conversation with a lady?  Would probably
be a little boring..

I am new to the hobby, but thus far I make 2 hour appts so that i can take my time and get to know the the Provider. I enjoy talking to people, and enjoy kissing and cuddling as much as sex. I actually enjoy oral sex more than intercourse (now the cover situation plays a big role).I love the touch, the feel, and the scent of a woman.  I enjoy the entire experience from selecting a lady, meeting her, knowing her a bit, pleasing her as well, being in her arms, getting lost in the experience for a couple precious hours --  I love the ladies, and the ladies love me  whether P4P or civvie it's all good!  Happy Hobbying

Maybe not full out sex but I've rarely met a man that just wanted to JUST cuddle and lay next to me and chat. 10%-ish maybe 15%

My reviews are a lot about the physical, because that seems to be what the Board wants, but I think/hope I also relate our human connection as well.  We will not be GF/BF but the best encounters are when that connection occurs, and then they are glorious.  Fortunately, I have had more of those than not, at least in my own self-deceiving mind.  I like to pretend the ladies actually mean the nice things they have said to me on occasion.

having had encounters with 30+ ladies and reviewed ony a fraction of that there are other reasons to review.

i don't like the review system. to get a review approved it has to have sufficient "juicy details" or be a "rip off". i've had several reviews rejected until the "juicy details" were sufficiently juicy that the review mods would allow it. i would feel more comfortable with a review format that consisted of being safe, happy with the experience and very much more discreet about "juicy details" if they happened.

but keep in mind that unless you review, you cannot expect to hear about matters of safety by backchannel.

i am uncomfortable about reviews i have written for several ladies that i truly like as people and consider to be a friend on some level. it's a business, but since when is it impossible to have friendly business relations? one reason for writing reviews is to assure them that i know that the relationship is strictly professional and i understand that.

Not to disagree or that it's that important, but I don't consider 15% to be "rarely".  I would never have guessed the percentage to be that high.

Really? lol well if you say so it just doesn't seem so common for me which is why I said rarely.  I feel that's about right though for me.

You get what you give. Ive always been a "vanilla" provider. I dont like CIM or Anal or anything other than regular but romantic sex. I love to cuddle and flirt and talk so I attract the same. Every one of my reviews talks about my personality and how warm and sweet I am so guys come for that. Also my pics and website reflect a caring, nurturing person so guys who need some TLC come see me.
If you're a wild child and enjoy getting more physical then thats what you'll attract. Im of my friends(provider) is a sexual dynamo and no one comes for the conversation, they want to sweat and get crazy and wild.
Just different for different types of ladies

Well I see I'm a bit of both.... I'm take chargy lol and I'm a litte sub ... pretty accommodating in a session. I'm my usual talkative bubbly self unless someone does something extra special to piss me off or weirds me out .... i'm never YMMV so like to think of myself as extremely friendly but i'm freaky/sexual so I mean more often than not my visits are of a very sexual nature.