or a hobbyist passes away.....how is the community notified as there are some well known people that the community would care about?

Like any message board.....how do you know a retiree from a death? Do people just disappear and everyone wishes/hopes for the best? Hell, If a girl suddenly no longer sees a regular client...is there no concern for him? OR is this game next girl/next hobbyist up?  
 

 

The topic comes up with all message boards in my experience cause people build online relationships...and since this board does cross the online barrier often more real life relationships are built than other msg board.....just wondering how you all deal with people suddenly leaving or death? Some msg boards (non hobby of course) people know each other social network accounts and deaths have been posted on forums so people could pay respects.  

 
just wondering....

For example, when FastEddie on PS board passed away, the mongers close to him knew about it. They even posted his real name and obituary date for a couple days.  Talk about no privacy post mortem.  Only your friends can inform TER. So if you don't have a lot of hobby friends, we won't be notified.  

There is one way to make sure your death is notified though.  Go to your hobby GMAIL account and look for a feture where it alerts certain people, gives access to them, or delete emails when you're not active for a few weeks or months.  Most of the features aren't useful except for the one that notifies your friends email when you aren't active for a few weeks or months. Personally, I don't want my friends posting about me on TER.

It is very much situation by situation.  I don’t think there is a standard for this kind of thing.

Most posters just pass through from time to time, and when they no longer do the majority on here never know if they died, lost interest, just read without posting, or changed handles for whatever reason.

But others are more “well known”, even if only virtually.  In those cases it often happens that one of their friends will post something, or PM some other members.  Baconracer died it was posted, and clearly many who knew him were glad to know what happened.  Plenty of men and women have posted that they are leaving the community.  On another board a well know member signed off and let people know they were terminally ill; he died a few weeks later and a lady who was very close to him let everyone know that he had indeed passed away.  In DC in the past there have been notices of wakes and funerals posted, usually with details PM’d so as not to out the person posthumously.

For those who have no real connections in this community, they likely slip away and no one knows.  For those of us who do make some connections on a real friends level, it is one of those topics we should probably make know to those friends so they can post/not post accordingly

They posted it on the boards.  He was well known in the DC area.  Plus, another client, who knew him, called me to tell me.

I had known him for years.  And even though we were not dating, it was still a shock.  made me cry

A few years ago, a provider I had the pleasure of meeting died in a tragic car accident.  Her assistant was kind enough to send a note to all of her regular clients informing them of this event.

Of course, this only works if a provider utilizes an assistant.

I kind of echo OldTraveler..

If I knew about it and was someone I visited on a regular basis that means I felt a connection with her and I would go to any event as a long lost friend.    

There is one gal who was a real sweetheart, heard through grapevine she had passed, wish I could have been there for her family's support.

Yeah we are not in a "Committed relationship" but we are human and can make connections with what may be the most unlikely people.