Hello everyone!

I have a buddy who married a lady who had been a dancer then bartender and part time escort.  They met while she was bartending but did not get to know one another till she left the life.   They never had an appointment and they both think that is likely a good thing.   I think that both sides tend to view the other as what they were (client or provider) and not as an SO.

Posted By: alexandra.min

Hello everyone!  
   
 Out of morbid curiosity has any provider or client been able to form a successful long-term monogamous romantic relationship with another client/provider he or she met in the hobby?  
   
 Happy Easter to all!  
   
 Alexandra

I suppose all relationships end or you get married...that's dating.  I had one relationship that was great...until it wasnt.  

Posted By: alexandra.min

Hello everyone!  
   
 Out of morbid curiosity has any provider or client been able to form a successful long-term monogamous romantic relationship with another client/provider he or she met in the hobby?  
   
 Happy Easter to all!  
   
 Alexandra

and it seems pretty serious right now... I may soon just retire

The one provider I have known that married one of her former clients has not enjoyed a stable marriage.  She goes in and out of retirement whenever they encounter a tough patch and that pattern certainly has not been helpful in overcoming his trust issues.  They married last Fall after an extended engagement, but it does not look like they will make it to their first anniversary the way it appears.  It's a mighty tough thing to pull off and more power to those than can do it.

Those 3 don't go together.  With all due respect, I don't see this ending well.

successful must equal monogamous in most people's eyes. If you set terms that you both agree on regarding boundaries and you're both mutually happy with them, isn't that success? It's not necessarily tit for tat: you have sex for money with assorted people so I should be able to do so as well. If you feel that way you probably don't have the temperament/compatibility for a relationship with a participant in this sphere, provider or client.

The older (more experienced) I get, the more complicated this issue becomes.  It makes my head hurt trying to figure it out.

It might start out well for 6months to 2 years to 5 even but it will most always end poorly. I don't have personal experience but have known more then a few providers who have dates clients and it always ended, and ended badly.  People like to think they can be open minded but it just doesn't truly work out that way.

She has been with her fiance for 2+ yrs.

The word monogamous is the key part of the op's question.  

I have to agree with Sidney, she is right on point.  
Many people can say "we have special chemistry/boundaries/understanding etc" ....but at the end of the day, it's only a matter of time before it fails.  And yes, I've witnessed some very bad endings at that.  

I have had one for about two years with a provider that is highly reviewed in this area.  Good stuff,  BBFS whatever I wanted, she would give me new stuff to wear and give me $$$....after a while I decided that my current GF is better, she has a real job, which makes more money (not like it matters) and is hotter and more responsible.  Now it would be awkward of I hit her up but I bet I still could.   A few others have tried to reel me in though.

Tried it and it failed horribly. Monogamy is the devil lol. Seriously though, not only is it almost impossible, but it's quite boring as well. A long-term monogamous romantic relationship involves having sexual relations with ONE person. A provider does the exact opposite so that situation never works. I don't care how OPEN he says he is, men are men and eventually his true feelings will show if he loves the girl. And this only leads to disaster. I like being a provider, but I like the comforts of a romantic relationship as well. You have to deal with people that understand what you want and are willing to be are part of it. I hate titles...why can't people just set there own terms that lead to their own happiness?

I still see Karen of the "The Girl Next Door" which closed a few years ago.  We started seeing each other when the agency closed.

I think the definition of long-term relationship (not necessarily the same as exclusively monogous) is subjective based on your generation.