: Washington DC Discussion : An opposite situation ...

ttcttc 138 Reviews 2090 reads

posted 11 years ago

1 / 20

There is a provider who visits, who I really like. Have seen three times, have written a review, with higher scores than others have give her (indicating that I like her a lot). On top of great looks and performance, she is intelligent as well.

Last time she visited, I wrote that I could not make it during that visit, but wanted to say "congratulations" on an event in her life. She wrote back saying that was very sweet and she would look forward to seeing me next time she was in town. Next time she was in town, on her first day, I wrote that I was looking forward to setting things up but had to work things out first. And, you should know, this provider has set hours that she puts in all of her ads.

So, that first night when she was in town, I wanted to see someone on short notice. It was after her preferred hours, and since it was short notice. I contacted a bunch of agencies. One of the notes I wrote the agency, though, I accidentally texted to the provider instead. She wrote back saying something like "it's clear you're seeing other people and not scheduling me, so stop wasting my time and don't contact me anymore."

So, my reaction. I am ok. I will move on, there are plenty of fish in the sea. But I wonder about the wisdom of her over-reaction. Everybody knows clients see more than one provider. And the appointment time was not in her scheduled hours anyway. Her reaction probably cost her 6-10 meetings with me over the next year. Just odd. And I thought she was one of the smart ones

SexyJaye7 See my TER Reviews 1110 reads

posted 11 years ago

2 / 20

When the NSA gets personal...

It's a shame. But it does happen. Better to cut the ties now then deal with some BSC mess later...

I know as a woman, I have feelings and emotions that may spring up whenever, not necessarily attached to any client, but it may affect my judgement of what is real and what is fantasy. Even though I know the circumstances and arrangement I have involved myself in by working in the hobby, I can't help but feel some hurt or betrayal if I find that "he" has seen someone else or has bypassed me as a choice for whatever reason.

But then again, I enjoy the rush of meeting someone new and having an organic experience that maybe he didn't give me. Plus, if the chemistry and attraction was really there, then I know, yeah I am pretty confident, lol, that he will contact and visit me again. So then, I am not worried as much.

I thrive on love affairs. I enjoy the highs and the lows. I enjoy watching things play out as they may; they are all unique and give me great memories and experiences to reflect on later. I am mature enough to control my emotions, not bite the hand that feeds me, mind my business, and enjoy the ride. She sold herself short. Maybe she is really looking for love?!? Good luck and enjoy the hobby!

magoo251 31 Reviews 381 reads

posted 11 years ago

3 / 20

Great post. Loved the insight. Not that we can ever figure out the opposite sex! *e*

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western404 64 Reviews 657 reads

posted 11 years ago

4 / 20

Funny how double standards work ...

I really can understand where she is coming from in that I may have a slightly similar situation - emotions and comfort play very weird roles in this stuff. Initial reaction would be - what right does she thinks she has to be p.o.'ed with you for seeing other people? That is what she does all the time! When she says she'll stop seeing all her other clients if you stop seeing others as well, then there's a conversation. Don't think either of you sound like you want to go there.

On the other hand, I have been seeing someone for a long time who posts for doing body rubs. We do a LOT more, and extended overnighters a and sometimes even getaways. I don't know if there are other clients of hers that she does more than bodyrubs with, and I don't ask. And she doesn't ask if I am seeing others. But I get the strong sense she would be disappointed if I explicitly told her I was. Maybe a double standard of sorts, but it is what it is. Sometimes silence is golden, or at least less complicated.

Posted By: ttcttc

There is a provider who visits, who I really like. Have seen three times, have written a review, with higher scores than others have give her (indicating that I like her a lot). On top of great looks and performance, she is intelligent as well.

Last time she visited, I wrote that I could not make it during that visit, but wanted to say "congratulations" on an event in her life. She wrote back saying that was very sweet and she would look forward to seeing me next time she was in town. Next time she was in town, on her first day, I wrote that I was looking forward to setting things up but had to work things out first. And, you should know, this provider has set hours that she puts in all of her ads.

So, that first night when she was in town, I wanted to see someone on short notice. It was after her preferred hours, and since it was short notice. I contacted a bunch of agencies. One of the notes I wrote the agency, though, I accidentally texted to the provider instead. She wrote back saying something like "it's clear you're seeing other people and not scheduling me, so stop wasting my time and don't contact me anymore."

So, my reaction. I am ok. I will move on, there are plenty of fish in the sea. But I wonder about the wisdom of her over-reaction. Everybody knows clients see more than one provider. And the appointment time was not in her scheduled hours anyway. Her reaction probably cost her 6-10 meetings with me over the next year. Just odd. And I thought she was one of the smart ones.

Alyssa Marie See my TER Reviews 779 reads

posted 11 years ago

5 / 20

An opposite situation ...

I once mistakenly wrote to the wrong gent, "see you in a few hours." He wrote back, "we have a date tomorrow." I apologized and he canceled saying that I wasn't professional when I texted the wrong person. What if it would have been personal information.
I apologized and just went on with my day.

I don't think this provider is crazy. She just felt that her time was being wasted.

Maybe a simple, "my apologies! I texted the wrong number. I know when I can see you, does a, b or c work?"

She doesn't mind that you are seeing others.
She's just confused that you said you would set something up with her then it seemed that you weren't.

It was a simple error, nothing a simple fix can't correct.

ttcttc 138 Reviews 557 reads

posted 11 years ago

6 / 20

Re: An opposite situation ...

thanks for all of the interesting replies. I left out of my original statement that I did explain and apologize. I think sexyjaye nailed it in her explanation.

Alyssa Marie See my TER Reviews 505 reads

posted 11 years ago

7 / 20

well, in that case...

not only is the provider a little dramatic, but so are you.

if someone tells me to eff off, i don't chase corespondence in any matter with them anymore.
xo

Newto1000 424 reads

posted 11 years ago

8 / 20

Re: well, in that case...

He probably is but so are a lot of folks on the "boards". It is what makes this site and the hobby, at times, a bit more interesting.

Alyssa Marie See my TER Reviews 400 reads

posted 11 years ago

9 / 20

Oh, of course..

the most successful television shows are the ones with good drama!

It's just funny that he's calling her out for overreacting then does the same thing.

xo

AmberAffection See my TER Reviews 574 reads

posted 11 years ago

10 / 20

Glad my doctor doesn't need to worry about My mental health...

She must be back at setting boundaries, or you got dat good dick ;p

KeilaniNYC See my TER Reviews 501 reads

posted 11 years ago

11 / 20

My two cents...

I can see both sides.

1) A mistake is a mistake, and that's just that.

2) As a provider and someone who spends an ample amount of time analyzing and trying to read other people, I could see a woman abruptly shutting someone out. Sometimes in this field it is natural to question motives, and people in general. Believe it or not, there are many people who behave in odd manners, and a smart woman knows to distance herself from such characters, regardless of monetary matters. We are all different cerebrally, so that's all I can say.

In most scenarios (and life as a whole) I do believe honesty and communication can take you far. If she is someone you still wish to see, reach out to her and explain. You did make a simple mistake, and if an apology would make her feel better, so be it. Anything can be repaired with the right approach and effort.

Best of luck to you

TrulyMsMocha See my TER Reviews 439 reads

posted 11 years ago

12 / 20

Too bad she's so salty your money is going into other purses. Meh. ....

...it's probably more to it than that but reading it several times that's pretty much what I got out of it.

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sweetbigboy1970 34 Reviews 414 reads

posted 11 years ago

13 / 20

Is NSA ...

still the name of the game? If you are not trying to make her or him to marry you, then there really is no need for this sort of "acting" behavior. There is really no need to bother a provider When you are not ready to make an appointment with her. And why make promises for future visits, and providers actually get upset about a client not keeping his future appointment promise?

zellador 9 Reviews 484 reads

posted 11 years ago

14 / 20

Sorry wrong number -- btw, wtf?

One of the frustrations with the hobby is never really knowing what is going on in her head ... kinda like real life I guess. :-[

I once accidentally texted the wrong provider. It went to my regular ATF but with the wrong name. Oops. She replied with a "WTF!?". I felt awkward, even though we both know that we both see other people. It kind of screws up the GFE fantasy. (Maybe that's not all bad ... it's easy to get carried away sometimes and forget what's real.) Fortunately it was a time when she had said she wasn't available so it wasn't a big deal. I tried to smooth things over by suggesting that all three of us get together sometime -- trying to make lemonade.

I think she liked that idea, but unfortunately it hasn't happened yet.

Anyway, shit happens. You'll both get over it.

Happy hobbying.

VIPScarletKimbal See my TER Reviews 461 reads

posted 11 years ago

15 / 20

Wow!!

What a great post babe!!!

earthshined 289 reads

posted 11 years ago

16 / 20

Re: Here is a thought, well several...that is not smart

Posted By: BustyGFE

I have met with a gentlemen in DC in the past who I thought I would see many more times. They have contacted me after the appointment to say hello, wish me happy birthday, gave me as a reference on several occasions, even wished me Happy Holidays. They inquired about my upcoming tours..you know the drill. Then I get
that is her telling him she doesn't really care for his company.

to DC.....crickets.

I have set hours as well. If a client I have met contacted me after those hours I would try to see them if I liked them and we had a connection. If he accidently texted me while trying to see someone else AFTER he had been filling up my inbox with all that stuff in the paragraph above....I might have her same reaction. Not because I was jealous or over reacting but because I have taken the time to respond to him, invested my time and energy into him when I have plenty of clients who prebook and go out of their way to contact me first.

The good thing for you is that I would never tell a client to take a hike that I really enjoy, so really she did you a favor. You would rather spend time with someone who enjoys you as well.

Also you say you thought "she was one of the smart ones". She is. She is doing what makes her happy and fulfilled even if it does not make her wallet fatter.

Larissa

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posted 11 years ago

17 / 20

Awww...come back home to this momma/I share with others!

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FitandFunny 323 reads

posted 11 years ago

18 / 20

Things can get sticky sometime

A number of years ago - many - as I used to enjoy the hobby I saw mostly local ladies. But three I saw quite a often. We had things in common outside of the hobby so I communicated with each about other things quite often. Occationally an exchange would take place on the board. Then boom! I got a nasty email from one I was quite fond of. There was a post to one of the other ladies that was verbatim of something I had sent to her. I couldn't explain it then. Never saw either of those two ladies again. The third I continued to correspond with even though we both retired. So I guess it is easy to get a little too close when things are intimate and beyond.

And if you wondered what happend, I found out much later, to late to do any good. My ex got into my computer, found out my hobby and emails and then posted several things and sent a few emails in order to cause trouble. i think she did a very good job.

Jstgttnstrtd 18 Reviews 246 reads

posted 11 years ago

19 / 20

seems like this is just a level-headed discussion to me

Don't really see where his over-reaction is.
He was just relaying another "day in the hobby" type of story that we hear all time here, from gents and ladies alike.

ttcttc 138 Reviews 343 reads

posted 11 years ago

20 / 20

all's well that ends well

So, because of my not seeing the provider I mentioned above, I ended up meeting a new one....who was fabulous and who I will see again...and again. This whole epsiode seems to have been in the "Everything happens for a reason" category.

Thanks for all the comments and perspectives, too