I try and be at my best when I meet someone, regardless of whether they plan on reviewing me or not. It is only fair. I know you gentleman work hard for your money and I also love repeat clients...Why give anything but your best? Some of my nicest clients do not review. All good
I totally agree with Angelina
I always give my best I love to treat my date like a King
he's an asshole and would rather to end the date on the spot. I like to meet with gentleman... and that's not a gentleman like move.
It has never happened to me... but would make me VERY unconfortable.
BTW...how's the article you writing so far? got good information so far from what I can see on all other boards.
V~
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That is interesting that someone would think that the guy is a jerk for saying that --- I would think that most guys would be very well-intentioned. After all, on many of these boards most ladies are doing whatever they can to get reviews. In fact, on one of these boards the thread dealt with different ideas to encourage reviews such as discounts or more times or dinner. Of course, while still adhering to TER policy and not compromising the integrity of the reviews (e.g., not trading a beneficial review for some other benefit).
"using" a review system at the beginning of the session to ensure you get a "special treatment" it's not the type of gentleman I want to meet. I see a review as a "memoir" of our time spend...
is that why you have 16 reviews in less the 3 months and 3 whitelist?
I feel like you might be reading into the question and making unfair assumptions. I have never said anything about using a review as leverage to get special treatment. I am just interested in understanding how that may change the tone (for better or worse) of a session. Maybe a better question to ask is when would it be most appropriate to tell a lady that you intend to write a review and why? At the beginning of a session? At the end of the session? Half way into the session?
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Don't tell the girl at all. If I guy right before our session says I will be writing a review of this you know, I don't see that as he brought me a gift. LOL, I would see it as he is dangling it in front of my face saying you better do a REALLY great job or else. I just assume everyone I see may be potentially posting a review. I am not worried about it. If you want to go ahead, if not fine. as Angelina said many clients and regulars do not review at all. 
Plus it does not affect my "performance." I give it my all no matter what.
Posted By: ANiceGuyToHookUp
I feel like you might be reading into the question and making unfair assumptions. I have never said anything about using a review as leverage to get special treatment. I am just interested in understanding how that may change the tone (for better or worse) of a session. Maybe a better question to ask is when would it be most appropriate to tell a lady that you intend to write a review and why? At the beginning of a session? At the end of the session? Half way into the session?
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I am not following this statement: "is that why you have 16 reviews in less the 3 months and 3 whitelist?" I have 16 reviews in less than 3 months because I love women and I like to memorialize the engagement. Also, because the two providers that I previously saw 2-3 times a week left the area: one moved to Arizona and the other moved to New York. In other words, I haven't found a lady that is either of their equal yet. I am still looking. Regarding white lists, quite frankly I still don't understand what whitelists really mean.
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I don't see how this has anything to do with someone being a gentlemen or not. Gentlemen are good communicators and this is just being upfront. Frankly, it takes time -- a good 15-30 minutes sometimes to write a review. And that time could easily be spent elsewhere. Therefore, I would think that a lady would look at this as almost a compliment --- sort of like when a guy brings a bottle of champagne or chocolate or some sort of gift. Time is money. I am surprised that this could potentially offend someone -- that is not the intent.
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A major reason why I am posting is because I want to gain access to the Reviewers only section of the site. I was denied last week. The response was that I need to post more. ??? On that note, I would be interested to hear from someone who does have access to the Reviewers only section. What is the benefit? What sort of information is posted? How useful is that information?
I honestly do not think you could post more. You are posting a ton of comments on old threads almost every day. Also, almost repeat questions. Those telling you to post more might want to weigh that with value.
I agree with a previous poster... no matter what my client is going to get the best treatment I can give them. I like being treated like a Queen so why wouldn't I treat my partner like a King... or fellow Queen. *Hey ladies*
However, I will admit, if someone said, "I'm going to review our session" at the beginning of a date, I would only have to go off of tone. If a client said it lightly, then I'll assume they are doing it for the kindest of reasons: to memorialize, to attest to my awesomeness, et cetera. However, if the one is laced with a hint of malice, then I would argue it's being said to ensure a stellar time. The tone of voice can say so much compared to the actual words leaving a person's mouth. I digress.
Either way, whether a client is a reviewer, which the majority of mind are not, or they are... they are going to be treated like royalty. They deserve it.
LJ, xox
I don't believe in doing anything half-assed.
Soooooo if I take a date i'm going to give my 110% to it.
Anything less is wasting my time and his/hers/theirs.
Posted By: ANiceGuyToHookUp
Ladies -- If a guy tells you before the session starts that he is going to post a review on TER, would that influence your performance?
Fellas -- Do you feel that letting a lady know that you intend to write a review on her before the session starts will have a positive impact? Will that likely bring out the best?
I recently said this to a provider and I felt that it had a positive impact.
Does not work like that. There is also no nice way to tell a provider beforehand you will be writing a review. It most definitely comes across as uncouth.
Agree - per last comment that I made.
... kind of knowing you most likely will do one. No real need to tell me. Imo it's a bit more uncouth if he tells me beforehand. He might not be saying that to mess with my head but it's gonna put an image of him trying to dangle it in front of my face like a carrot to a rabbit. What that WON'T do is make me relax lol.
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Call me pessimistic and skeptical but your questions have a tone to them that throw up some red flags.
I have zero ulterior motives. I am just interested to see how other people think. I try to frame the questions in an unbiased way. No one should make any unfair inferences or assumptions regarding my position(s) on issues based on questions posed. Sort of like Howard Stern -- just trying to get people talking about interesting subjects. Admittedly, I do want to gain access to the reviewers only section. Curious to see if there is any value-added content there.
I think you have your answer by the feedback you are getting. Most girls would feel uncomfortable if told this before hand bc they might feel you are trying to "blackmail" them to give a better performance or make them feel that whatever they do ur going to give them a shitty review. It's uncouth and unnecessary. I think you would get a better session by not mentioning it at all.
Not really -- if you consider the PMs. A problem with questions like this is that in open forums such as this you will see responses from many providers where they basically say all the things that they feel that they need to say (in other words responses at times can be political). In addition, sometimes guys respond in ways to "score points" with providers. Mixed opinions. And differences in opinion based on whether or not the response is perceived as "private" (e.g., PM).
Everything depends on tone and approach -- you can't get that through a chat room. I could see it both ways.
When someone intends to write a review on a restaurant they always let the restaurant know before hand. Not the best analogy, but an analogy nevertheless.
Posted By: ANiceGuyToHookUp
When someone intends to write a review on a restaurant they always let the restaurant know before hand. Not the best analogy, but an analogy nevertheless.
But this is 100% wrong. Restaurant reviewers, at least those writing for respected publications, like The Washington Post, go out of their way to be anonymous. Sometimes even resorting to wearing a wig or false beard or something. Their whole point is to get the same service a "regular customer" would get--not the chef's special best or the server's special attention. Any respectable restaurant reviewer would *never* announce his intentions beforehand.
But that has nothing to do with your question here.
I would never start a date off with announcing my review policy. It would totally kill the mood, I would think. That's why leaving the envelope casually without mentioning it works best. How much of a buzzkill would it be to draw attention to it, effectively saying "here's the money, (hooker)"? Or mentioning a tip. "Yeah, if you bang me good, I'll throw in an extra $20." It's the possibility of that sort of attitude that a previous poster was referring to when she said that is ungentlemanly. And I agree. Even if that is not the intention, why risk starting the date off on a bad foot? What's the upside?
Just meet the lady and have a great time. Give a fair review later. If she's on TER, she knows the score without you having to bring it up.
Ok, I am agreeing with you. But I still think that it all depends on how it is executed. If the intent is to encourage open communication both ways to ensure that the desired end state is met, then I think that could be a good thing. In other words, I could see how this could set the wrong tone, but I could just as easily see how this could set a very positive tone that fosters open communication. Again, it all depends on how the message is delivered. Obviously, it would be improper to imply any sort of coercion or to create any unnecessary pressure.
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I give every client the attention and treatment I would give a guy I really, really liked- which is to say that I am always going into a session doing my best to make it an experience.
I am review friendly so I don't mind if a guy is going to write one and I actually prefer if they tell me so. If they elect to inform me of their intention to write a review before the visit instead of after, that is fine. But it will not get them a session any "better" than it would have already been. Because I do my best everytime.
During my sessions, 'review' is actually the password that unlocks my Secret Menu.
Just say the word, and my body will transform into the pornstar of your dreams. Yes, my actual DNA will change.
The tricky part is getting my legs unstuck from behind my head at the end.
