I am curious how you are approaching ladies if no one is replying back to your emails.
Most providers are not going to give many screening "secrets" on such a public forum but know that getting verified as a newbie OR someone that's been out of the game is not hard or impossible at all.
Posted By: peetown
I wanted to get some feedback/advice on something. I was active, in the hobby, for a few years, but when the laws changed, that killed it for me. I had all of my references set on DateCheck, but when they shut down, all my information went with it. So, now I’m trying to be active again, as a newbie, and it’s difficult to even get a provider to reply to my emails. Lol!
I’ve had a TER account since 06, and recently registered for an account when they came back online.
I live in the RVA area and wanted to get some feedback on how to approach it. Thanks.
I just started hobbying about a year ago and ran into the same issues. I was lucky....after some dead ends, I reached out to a very seasoned provider and she called me to screen me and that was it...she agreed to see me. I don’t think that is the norm but that’s what she did. After our session, we still had some time left and she started talking about the business. She told me all about TER and other third party screeners. Screening was an issue for me since I had no “resume” and therefore no cred. She felt safe with me, so she recommended a few of her friends to me and I reached out to them with her permission and they saw me as well because she referred me. So my advice is that once you can get a nice session with a Lady, ask her if she has any girlfriends in the business who are seeing new friends. If she obliges, take care of her. Ask her if you can write her a nice review on TER. Ask her if there is anything in particular she would like you to mention, and do it. Don’t embellish. If you see her again, make it worth it for her, no QVs. Show your level of thanks and commitment and try to schedule an hour with her at minimum.
Bring her a gift on your second visit. Maybe a bottle of wine, her favorite liquor, a gift card to Victoria’s Secret, a piece of jewelry from Tiffany and Co., something. Upkeep your hygiene. If you are a fitness buff, work out real hard two weeks before you see her. Arrive in the best shape you can, ready to be in action for a while. Some girls don’t care about that but in my experience, women love a hard, fit man. Just do your best with what you have. Be showered, dress nice, and groom yourself in places she will be near. A large majority, but not all, of women prefer short and smooth over hair everywhere. Be immaculate with your communication, no thug talk. Learn to speak the industry lingo. Never, ever mention certain words. Let her lead.
I think the easiest thing you can do for yourself is to get yourself screened prior with a third party (or TER and ask your girls if they will whitelist you). If you have some reputable whitelists or “okays”, then you are saving your next lady the trouble of having to kick over lots of stones to screen you. Screening takes time and she makes no $ doing it, so if you can save your girl some time, do her a solid and get screened. This takes a little time and money, but do it for them. After all, it is much easier just to give them a user handle than to list out your name, age, employer verification, past references, etc. Reach out to them via PM over the TER system or over another pre-screening system if you are more comfortable with that. That way they can check you with just a few clicks.
Lots going on now which has disrupted the business for some Ladies staying safe and being selective. Now is a great time to do the legwork and get screened before things ease back to normal. Also build up your TER profile. If you have seen a lady who has not yet been reviewed here, text her and ask for her permission to leave an initial review.....it helps get her name out to serious hobbyists....men who have money. Lastly, build up a very polished reputation with the Ladies. Many of our girls know one another and wouldn’t mind telling a girlfriend about you. Just make sure you take care of her for doing it. I am also learning as I go but I have found that if you come prepared with the full donation, be on time, respect her boundaries and give her everything you’ve got during your session (girls that find you attractive really do enjoy your company on a personal level), she should have no problems helping you out. Good luck! DJ
