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Upon reading the above post I knew I had to comment about this viewpoint.  No doubt there is a high probability the person who wrote this is having extreme difficulties coming to terms and/or dealing with their own transsexual gender identification.  To make such blatant statements with no scientific facts is just someone trying to justify themselves.  It also appears they have had a lot of heartbreak from men pursuing her with lies that are saying anything to get in her panties.

One of the short falls of this statement is using the term “all”.  A properly documented research will never show a group of individuals all have the same desires.  No group is able to be 100% classified.  To say men who wish to experience sexual relations with a transsexual want to explore homosexual relations and be on the bottom is just not true.  Actual men who pursue sex with a transsexual fall more in the category of a polysexual then bisexual or homosexual.  I had to laugh at the part we have a fetish for the penis of a transsexual woman.  (Yes, I am one who is looking to explore the realm of meeting a transsexual woman.

Gender issue type:  Cross dressing is one area when physiologists warn it is impossible to say why a person cross-dresses unless you just ask the person.  There are just too many reasons and factors going into why a person engages in cross dressing.  Some cross dress and seek their own gender for sex, while others cross dress and seek sex from the opposite gender.  There were a lot of famous people who were cross dressers who never acted upon any desire to have sex with the same gender.

Admirer type:  As a man who never did bar-hoping for women, I must utilize the experiences and feeling of some of my friends.  First and foremost my own opinion is men who bar-hop to pick up women can never be trusted.  Finding some one in a bar and having a successful relationship have little odds of succeeding.  So in part I agree with her that men in bars are just pigs looking for one night stands.

Yet in regards to these men refusing to accept their own homosexuality is something I cannot agree with.  Of course I already explained in part that men choosing to have sex with transsexual women are more in the category of Polysexual: Having or wanting to have sex with a transsexual does not make you a homosexual.  In fact many men seeking to engage in sex with a transsexual are actually turned off my having sex with another man.

Date or Client:  I must agree that men who only seek out professional transsexual escorts can be classified as clients.  But to say they only seek to be sodomized is without merit.  I cannot fathom a man using an escort bragging to anyone: Considering most men really seek escorts because of the confidentiality.   Their position in the community and the community standard they live in prevent them from being public about their own desires.  It is the same in the swinger community.  There are a lot of professionals in the swinger community that cannot express their own lifestyle because of the damage it will do to them, their professional careers and their family.

Delusional behavior is not primarily delusional when acted upon.  To say they are delusional because they deny they are homosexual is simple not true.  As far as sexual addition, this physiological behavior can fall into any category as well as anyone engaged in sexual acts outside society’s normal behavior may end up at a rest stop.  Once again a man seeking sex with a transsexual may not have any desire to have sex with another man.

She wrote the “Overall, “tranny chaser” denotes a particular type of male that desires to be penetrated anally or to perform fellatio, yet seeks out transgender people so that he does not have to deal with the emotions and reality behind his homosexual desires.” (Spelling corrected from original post.)  No doubt a man having sex with a transsexual may engage in mutual oral and intercourse acts between them and their lover, but it has nothing to do with denying their own sexuality.  I believe men seek out sex with transsexuals because they either wish to experiment or it is what they desire.  They usually don’t seek out sex with men because they are not attracted to it.  To say “The transsexual person then is only an object-scarcely more than a penis, hence outrage when a TS woman is impotent or disinterested in dominating them sexually.”  I personally totally disagree, the transsexual woman is in fact a real person and I look upon them as being women.

As for me, I am one that does not fit into any of the author’s categories.  I am seeking to experiment with a transsexual because I am sexually attracted to her; I am not sexually attracted to men.  When I look at pictures or videos of transsexual women I find myself always referring to the transsexual woman as a woman.  I also find myself sexually aroused when looking at transsexual women, I never find myself sexually aroused when looking at men.
I was raised in the military where prejudice was never a part of our family.  I am also very sexually liberated, as a married man in the lifestyle of swinging with my wife; I find the lifestyle to be totally liberating.  My wife is bi-sexual and we play within the full-swap arena.  Since we both get hall passes I have been given permission to experiment to see what I like, I would never without her permission.  Since I am looking for confidentiality, an escort it the best avenue, since I am seeking an escort there is no need to lie.  Believe it or not there is prejudice within the swinging community toward men who engage in homosexual activity and many would consider sex with a transsexual to be a homosexual act.  Unfortunately many couples with this attitude choose not to play with men who engage in homosexual acts.  But since I don’t look upon it as a homosexual act, I don’t have this attitude.  But since the prejudice lies in the swinging community, confidentiality is once again important to me.

I applaud all you women who have dared to change and live the life you were meant to live.  I wish I could change the world for you.

Eddie

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Cross_dresser
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Homosexuality#Forms
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Bisexuality
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Polysexuality
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Pangender
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Polysexuality
http://www.uark.edu/misc/lampinen/PSYC2003_ABNORMAL.htm
http://psychology.about.com/od/personalitydisorders/a/personalitydis.htm

I know just who - what I am.  I'm a straight gay lesbian transsexual female faggot with a vagina envy and penis hate complex who likes boy and girls and boy and girls together.

Giggle,
TS Jamie  

-- Modified on 10/22/2007 12:22:55 AM

I just wish you two live in Florida.

I am not buying the faggot part!

Hey, where is my Margarita?

Oh, I just threw that in because of the recent ENDA legistltion - since Congress won't provide employment protection based on gender identity I want to be sure I'm covered under sexual preference.

I think I covered all the bases...

Love that margurita!

Giggle,
TS Jamie

I think some people get way too confused with sexuality vs sexual identity vs gender identity. You like what you see? Great, then lets have fun and see who walks away with the bigger smile. Labels, ugh...I spend alot of time running from labels, last place I would have expect to see them is in a forum such as TER. (pouts)

- Jaz

AMEN!!!  I like what I see therefore...I enjoy life to the fullest.  Forget those who catergorize.