Transsexual
Re: TLDR...
So...Good reasons to review: 1.) You had the most incredible experience with someone, and you know that A.) it helps that person, B.) it also makes you look good for sharing that positive information with others, and C.) it feels good to do that for someone else, & everyone here that looks for good solid companions, as opposed to the HUGE morass of fakes, flakes, ripoffs, or worse.
2.) You had either a VERY bad, or horrible experience, and you feel ABSOLUTELY obligated to the community and the world at large, to quickly expose that fake photo publishing, hairy chested, deep voiced, foul smelling, clock-watching, rushed, coldly rude, gorilla in a wig or worse, plus a friend hiding behind the hotel room door.... to better serve everyone else....
OR - You had an OK experience, but - disappointed in some way - You felt the gift was too high for your tastes, or just not good chemistry between two people, or maybe it will make you feel better about the time & $$$ you spent, to vent a bit to the rest of the world,... especially if you look like a good solid reviewer that could *not possibly* be questioned in either accuracy or motivation - the poor girl (oh, but even though she looked like a dog, she was so nice, honest, and so kind, etc... you felt sorry for her, & didn't want to "hurt her feelings".... SO - you never said one SINGLE word to her of your dislikes or concerns - treated her as if everything was just fine for more than 2 HOURS, including an EXCEPTIONAL massage)...and of course...(being the polite, considerate, experienced reviewer you are, never also mentioning that you review, of course).... you made even thanked her in a return text, after the date, telling her it was wonderful to finally meet her.... and then you slam her face down in a review that was motivated by...what, exactly?
You read her profile, saw many photos (very discreet & private) - yet have been repeatedly verified as accurate. You knew her age (a mature woman), her general demeanor, spoke in person very pleasantly via phone, and many times via very positive texts, and heck, you maybe even read that she might smoke occasionally (LISTED IN PROFILE PAGE) as well (but NEVER, not ever) during an appointment, of course... ....she shows up, on a chilly early May evening, a *nice* dress, cardigan, sheer lace top underneath, NICE lace top stockings, stone cold sexy crotch-less undies, elegant flat shoes (she obviously wished to be very considerate & discreet at your nice Townhome in an affluent suburban neighborhood in the mid-evening, clearly more conservative than say, a mini-dress & 6 inch heels).. but that never seemed to penetrate, either... ...and then outright lied to her face by demeanor of ONLY being 100% positive, pleasant, and welcoming, even so far as to offer a glass of wine. Tell her she looks just fine, showed not ONE single sign of displeasure or dissatisfaction, allowed her to spend totally NON-RUSHED time, over and above what many would do, gave her her gift (lower than listed on her sites, or her TER profile, of course), & sent her on her way, with a warm goodbye & a "kind" text, after she sent one to you, thanking you for the nice time & generous welcome to your home that evening...
then....give her one of the worst reviews she has ever received, yet, even so far (which was actually very sweet) as to write a preamble of how decent, honest, genuine, and how honorable a woman she is, and that you would never wish to say anything harmful about her... but yet...
Sounds like much more than any truly honest objective motivation to write reviews that actually serve the community (and a good provider with above average looks in her mid 40's, *obvious* fitness, true kindness, real love ethic for her arts, and above all else, has NOT EVER been one of the many fakes, flakes, or ripoffs.... yet...the P.S.A. was absolutely necessary?.... the diatribe about breath, looks, on & on & on - the diatribe just went on....as if they couldn't tell everyone just enough, how bad it REALLY was for them....
So... if one person's (SUBJECTIVE OPINION), counts so much, yet in my own opinion, falls entirely short of the truth on several critical key areas, just how well does this site & some of it's reviewers actually serve the community, reward the good, and very necessarily of course, punish the bad...? and to me, as much as i love and respect my arts, is a bit stunning, frustrating, and challenging... So... what to do....
My answer... QUESTION the validity of the review, question the honesty of the reviewer, point out the mass of contradictions between what i saw & felt that evening & what they actually wrote, which makes me sound like a barely passable inconsiderately smoke tasting half-waste that he should feel sorry for... wow. 'i don't want to hurt her feelings, i should have just offered her *half the gift* and asked her to leave but - she's SO KIND and *honest* and *genuine* - i just couldn't do that to her.... W.T.F???!!! YES - I ACTUALLY AM a giving, loving, kind, genuine, honest, honorable, generous woman to my last will of breath & effort, and have no problem sharing my deepest passions & genuine nature with anyone that treats me with the respect i have *Earned*, in more than a decade in very passionate erotic arts... but this sickeningly sweet tone of PITY??!! Just before figuratively slamming my head into the pavement ? wow... that's even more insulting than the review itself in light of what i give & have always given, at every opportunity... Interesting that evening, I just happened to stop a mile from the house, deodorize my car, clothes, hands, take two kinds of gum (trident white and orbit bubblemint...and an extra tiny shot of perfume on my already squeaky clean nice-smelling other parts - yet never even mentioned my exceptional hygiene, of course).... As there is no real way (other than whitelist or blacklist) for me, as a provider, to review a reviewer, what i have just shared is *my* review of that experience.
If a good or even "just decent" provider cannot defend our own honor and our reputation, then how can that possibly create objectivity, fairness, accuracy..? If only ONE side is EVER given in a forum as largely respected as this one, & many people treat the information here literally as Gospel, then how can that possibly be fair benefit to both ?
If there is one thing i will never do - and it felt like a thief in the night, a stab in the back thru to the heart, in total contradiction of every bit of that person's demeanor towards me, & then simply accept that? Allow it to dishonor me? Make me look like to be pitied or worse? No, that is NOT fair, nor accurate, nor objective info sharing, and I challenge that with all my heart, mind, & being, because i KNOW i am better than that, and thought for sure, that he was also. I wish no ill, and can only say i would revisit with them 10 more times if that's what it took me to make it better, or ease whatever it was in my nature that evening that struck them so poorly... lessons i cannot complain of having learned no matter how painful, but i also hope that writing this "Reverse-review", helps others as well, lends food for thought, discussion, debate, or anything that serves to challenge people to stop, think, feel, and really ask themselves - "WHY am i writing this review right now?... for good, for bad, to serve others, or is it only to serve yourself ? To be, or not to be, that IS the question... in writing this, i choose "BE". Most sincerely & kindly to all, Namaste'
TheAngelaGirl
-- Modified on 6/22/2016 1:43:14 AM
2.) You had either a VERY bad, or horrible experience, and you feel ABSOLUTELY obligated to the community and the world at large, to quickly expose that fake photo publishing, hairy chested, deep voiced, foul smelling, clock-watching, rushed, coldly rude, gorilla in a wig or worse, plus a friend hiding behind the hotel room door.... to better serve everyone else....
OR - You had an OK experience, but - disappointed in some way - You felt the gift was too high for your tastes, or just not good chemistry between two people, or maybe it will make you feel better about the time & $$$ you spent, to vent a bit to the rest of the world,... especially if you look like a good solid reviewer that could *not possibly* be questioned in either accuracy or motivation - the poor girl (oh, but even though she looked like a dog, she was so nice, honest, and so kind, etc... you felt sorry for her, & didn't want to "hurt her feelings".... SO - you never said one SINGLE word to her of your dislikes or concerns - treated her as if everything was just fine for more than 2 HOURS, including an EXCEPTIONAL massage)...and of course...(being the polite, considerate, experienced reviewer you are, never also mentioning that you review, of course).... you made even thanked her in a return text, after the date, telling her it was wonderful to finally meet her.... and then you slam her face down in a review that was motivated by...what, exactly?
You read her profile, saw many photos (very discreet & private) - yet have been repeatedly verified as accurate. You knew her age (a mature woman), her general demeanor, spoke in person very pleasantly via phone, and many times via very positive texts, and heck, you maybe even read that she might smoke occasionally (LISTED IN PROFILE PAGE) as well (but NEVER, not ever) during an appointment, of course... ....she shows up, on a chilly early May evening, a *nice* dress, cardigan, sheer lace top underneath, NICE lace top stockings, stone cold sexy crotch-less undies, elegant flat shoes (she obviously wished to be very considerate & discreet at your nice Townhome in an affluent suburban neighborhood in the mid-evening, clearly more conservative than say, a mini-dress & 6 inch heels).. but that never seemed to penetrate, either... ...and then outright lied to her face by demeanor of ONLY being 100% positive, pleasant, and welcoming, even so far as to offer a glass of wine. Tell her she looks just fine, showed not ONE single sign of displeasure or dissatisfaction, allowed her to spend totally NON-RUSHED time, over and above what many would do, gave her her gift (lower than listed on her sites, or her TER profile, of course), & sent her on her way, with a warm goodbye & a "kind" text, after she sent one to you, thanking you for the nice time & generous welcome to your home that evening...
then....give her one of the worst reviews she has ever received, yet, even so far (which was actually very sweet) as to write a preamble of how decent, honest, genuine, and how honorable a woman she is, and that you would never wish to say anything harmful about her... but yet...
Sounds like much more than any truly honest objective motivation to write reviews that actually serve the community (and a good provider with above average looks in her mid 40's, *obvious* fitness, true kindness, real love ethic for her arts, and above all else, has NOT EVER been one of the many fakes, flakes, or ripoffs.... yet...the P.S.A. was absolutely necessary?.... the diatribe about breath, looks, on & on & on - the diatribe just went on....as if they couldn't tell everyone just enough, how bad it REALLY was for them....
So... if one person's (SUBJECTIVE OPINION), counts so much, yet in my own opinion, falls entirely short of the truth on several critical key areas, just how well does this site & some of it's reviewers actually serve the community, reward the good, and very necessarily of course, punish the bad...? and to me, as much as i love and respect my arts, is a bit stunning, frustrating, and challenging... So... what to do....
My answer... QUESTION the validity of the review, question the honesty of the reviewer, point out the mass of contradictions between what i saw & felt that evening & what they actually wrote, which makes me sound like a barely passable inconsiderately smoke tasting half-waste that he should feel sorry for... wow. 'i don't want to hurt her feelings, i should have just offered her *half the gift* and asked her to leave but - she's SO KIND and *honest* and *genuine* - i just couldn't do that to her.... W.T.F???!!! YES - I ACTUALLY AM a giving, loving, kind, genuine, honest, honorable, generous woman to my last will of breath & effort, and have no problem sharing my deepest passions & genuine nature with anyone that treats me with the respect i have *Earned*, in more than a decade in very passionate erotic arts... but this sickeningly sweet tone of PITY??!! Just before figuratively slamming my head into the pavement ? wow... that's even more insulting than the review itself in light of what i give & have always given, at every opportunity... Interesting that evening, I just happened to stop a mile from the house, deodorize my car, clothes, hands, take two kinds of gum (trident white and orbit bubblemint...and an extra tiny shot of perfume on my already squeaky clean nice-smelling other parts - yet never even mentioned my exceptional hygiene, of course).... As there is no real way (other than whitelist or blacklist) for me, as a provider, to review a reviewer, what i have just shared is *my* review of that experience.
If a good or even "just decent" provider cannot defend our own honor and our reputation, then how can that possibly create objectivity, fairness, accuracy..? If only ONE side is EVER given in a forum as largely respected as this one, & many people treat the information here literally as Gospel, then how can that possibly be fair benefit to both ?
If there is one thing i will never do - and it felt like a thief in the night, a stab in the back thru to the heart, in total contradiction of every bit of that person's demeanor towards me, & then simply accept that? Allow it to dishonor me? Make me look like to be pitied or worse? No, that is NOT fair, nor accurate, nor objective info sharing, and I challenge that with all my heart, mind, & being, because i KNOW i am better than that, and thought for sure, that he was also. I wish no ill, and can only say i would revisit with them 10 more times if that's what it took me to make it better, or ease whatever it was in my nature that evening that struck them so poorly... lessons i cannot complain of having learned no matter how painful, but i also hope that writing this "Reverse-review", helps others as well, lends food for thought, discussion, debate, or anything that serves to challenge people to stop, think, feel, and really ask themselves - "WHY am i writing this review right now?... for good, for bad, to serve others, or is it only to serve yourself ? To be, or not to be, that IS the question... in writing this, i choose "BE". Most sincerely & kindly to all, Namaste'
TheAngelaGirl-- Modified on 6/22/2016 1:43:14 AM
stillettos7
posted
2 / 18
Ladyinwaiting
posted
4 / 18
willowind
Why you venting so about someone that wasn't pleased. Can't please everyone. So what if it seemed like he was so over joyed when he left or when you left. You've never faked it before? Girl as long as their not asking for that implausible fee back,Whaaat? Or you have to say"I drove all this way now your not plz' with what you see"? Or "Im never coming here again,but give me my overweight envelope. Or "you didn't need to see my face,just read my reviews! Really? Nothing personnel.Its Just Business ! SMILE AN RUN TO THE BANK. No matter what the reviews say,there's always another lonely heart out there looking for a dream. Did you? lolposted
5 / 18
Ladyinwaiting
posted
7 / 18
as i said, ive also made mistakes and will always own them if dead spot on. My main point though was people's motivations behind what they write, how, when, or why.... and why accuracy, fairness, and honesty can mean so much, especially in light of very real life impacts that something as important as reviews can have on another person's life, reputation, and work. I will never hesitate to take real risks to share feelings, perspectives, challenge status quos, or try to offer thoughts that make people think in new directions if they can or wish to. Thank you, most kindly, always, AngelaGirl
AngelaGirl
You rock. Your honesty and objectivity to me, have always been of great value. I have made additional responses down the line of this thread which, as you know, are typical of me and my unusually open nature.... so... i take big risks to challenge accepted statuses, and know full well there are consequences for being more of a controversial voice of deep and genuine emotional passion, than simply being a "take it on the nose compliant type".... but trust me, i have taken plenty on the nose in my two or 3 extraordinary lives, in this one life already.... more than most could ever imagine. i wish to be good, be honorable, be aware, be kind, be my best, not do ill or harm to another, and always say i still have many ways to go... but i will never hesitate to defend myself, if i think unfairness comes into play in any regard, especially when such things may affect a life, a repute, a life's path, and while others may seem to me to be immune to having such consequential thoughts, of how their own personal motivations, good, ill, bad, selfish, unselfish, or better, impact others' lives. Keep bein' the straightforward you that i warmly respect, AngelaGir
AngelaGir
In previous posts you mentioned all the things you bring to your sessions: honor, kindness, honesty.... And so on. May I suggest you ditch all those unnecessary things you bring and just bring the following 4 items and u will be fine: 1) Look as hot as possible
2) bring hot sex
3) be ready to please
4) be very clean and smell good (No smoke breathe). Keep conversation to a minimum and fuck his brains out. It works for me
2) bring hot sex
3) be ready to please
4) be very clean and smell good (No smoke breathe). Keep conversation to a minimum and fuck his brains out. It works for me
I have ALWAYS brought those 4 things, AS WELL AS everything else you mentioned, which for the kinds of people I have generally wished to attract, and mostly succeeded in doing after more than 10 years and literally hundreds upon hundreds of incredibly hot and/or amazing experiences I've shared with others (sadly not published here)....(should be very evident from my "better" reviews... That said, I bring ALL of me into my connections...most of the time that is *exactly* why a certain type of man or couple will pick me, what i aim for, and is a big and very much up front part of my screening and initial contact... age, maturity, experience, kindness, intellect, and YES hot raw kinky wild open sweet smelling plus plus plus. Clearly I failed to make that happen in this case, my deepest respect to Fog nonetheless for his obvious ecperience and efforts, as well as the few truly nice things he had to say, i clearly made mistakes, wasn't at my best, but, i think the negatives were very much overstated and the positives very mych understated....if anyone thinks that would be normal/ typical for me, think again... I wouldn't have stayed in this for this long, much less still have deep love and respect for what I do, if that were true, or typical of me. LoveRespectAlways, AngelaGirl
-- Modified on 6/23/2016 8:50:53 AM
AngelaGirl -- Modified on 6/23/2016 8:50:53 AM
The fact that my reviews don't reflect bad sessions doesn't mean I haven't had them. And some people know how wound you where it hurts the most. I just decided this is all part of the business I embarked myself in. But to dwell on those bad sessions is just counterproductive. Little less to use this board as a way to vent. Remember this is a site by hobbyists, for hobbyists. What you refer to as dishonest from the hobbyist in question who pretended everything was fine, I read as being a true gentleman. Some of his words on the review were rude that is true, and unnecessary. When I suggest you don't being all the other qualities to the table it's just to protect yourself. When you expose yourself to the fullest on every session, you're just making it tougher when they decide to write a bad review. I never expose myself specially on the first visit. Yes I'm nice and open... To a degree. Only if they eventually become regulars I'll open up more. Reviews are a double edge sword. We benefit from them when they're good. They hurt when they're bad. I have noticed some people review equally and some only when the experience is outstanding, and some only when the review is bad. Not long ago I met a nice gentleman from DC. Nice and somewhat charming. His reviews of providers he had met weren't stellar. By any way to measure his reviews were rather unflattering to providers. I decided to see him. I thought the session went great and I was feeling pretty good about that encounter, yet he never wrote a review. It was then that I understood that some people use reviews in many different ways. You should probably not take reviews too seriously. Ur reviews are good for the most part. And some people take note that some providers rant every single time they get a bad one. Is that the rep u wanna have?
Sweet Sasha, you know i love and respect you... so to be absolutely honest with you, here's my reply to that very sensible post:
I have ALWAYS brought those 4 things, AS WELL AS everything else you mentioned, which for the kinds of people I have generally wished to attract, and mostly succeeded in doing after more than 10 years and literally hundreds upon hundreds of incredibly hot and/or amazing experiences I've shared with others (sadly not published here)....(should be very evident from my "better" reviews...
That said, I bring ALL of me into my connections...most of the time that is exactly why a certain type of man or couple will pick me and is a big and vetynup front part of my screening and initial contact...
age, maturity, experience, kindness, intellect, and YES hot raw kinky wild open sweet smelling plus plus plus.
Clearly in this case, I have failed to make that happen in this case, my deepest respect to Fog nonetheless for his efforts, as well as the few truly nice things he had to say, but i clearly made mistakes, wasn't at my best, but, if anyone thinks that would be normal/ typical for me, think again...
LoveRespectAlways,
AngelaGirl
-- Modified on 6/23/2016 8:18:15 AM
I have ALWAYS brought those 4 things, AS WELL AS everything else you mentioned, which for the kinds of people I have generally wished to attract, and mostly succeeded in doing after more than 10 years and literally hundreds upon hundreds of incredibly hot and/or amazing experiences I've shared with others (sadly not published here)....(should be very evident from my "better" reviews...
That said, I bring ALL of me into my connections...most of the time that is exactly why a certain type of man or couple will pick me and is a big and vetynup front part of my screening and initial contact...
age, maturity, experience, kindness, intellect, and YES hot raw kinky wild open sweet smelling plus plus plus.
Clearly in this case, I have failed to make that happen in this case, my deepest respect to Fog nonetheless for his efforts, as well as the few truly nice things he had to say, but i clearly made mistakes, wasn't at my best, but, if anyone thinks that would be normal/ typical for me, think again...
LoveRespectAlways,
AngelaGirl
-- Modified on 6/23/2016 8:18:15 AM
Ladyinwaiting
posted
15 / 18
YOU SAID "When you bring all those other qualities to your sessions which trust me I commend and respect. You are also making yourself vulnerable. Remember, this is a business".
So - * * * - - - You know, the funniest thing about this, and it's one of the reasons why most of my special friends over the years love me as much as i have seen, and felt, that they do.... and this is going to sound just plain crazy to some, maybe idiotic to others, but maybe a few people out there will relate... Not only have i never related to it "As a business" per-se, i have Also never treated it like one, either (at least not whenever possible).
Now, i know that is simply counter-intuitive to most people, i am sure, and absolutely goes against accepted thinking about all of this by others, and as i said - if not just plain crazy. But that IS what has worked for ME. I am an individual with unique qualities just like you and everyone else here. But i have found that my ways of relating to this "business" are apparently far, far, different than most, and the levels of conversation, dialogue, sharing, connection, fun, lasting client relations and real-life friendships, at least to me, bear that out as loudly to my own heart and mind, as if it had been burned there with bright green neon-colored paint. I cant answer why i am different, nor would i wish to, i just know that i am, and those people that do "get it", *really* get it, and continue to connect and explore, and expand fun and trust and new adventures with me, even for years, after we first met. I have never used the word "Client". I deeply dislike the term "Session". I don't ever use the word "Business". I consider those terms disrespectful to both the Gentleman and the entire process, by "transactional-izing" it even further, and therefore dehumanizing ALL of us even more, both "Client" and companion alike.
That may seem insanely dangerous to some, and i am sure some would like to see me gone or laughed off after me questioning the entire setup or people's honesty, or motivations, as to why they may review for example - but that also was NOT just for me, and was not JUST to bitch about one review or another. I call into question the ENTIRE mentality, way of doing things, courtesy, respectfulness, LACK of rudeness, or transactionality, honesty of intimate communications, lack of games, lack of faking it, and instead, asked to think about being more real, more accurate, more thoughtful, more kind, more considerate, on both sides of the coin.
For those that think this is an insane way of looking at it, well, that's an individual decision. You're not me and you have not traveled my journey, just as i have not traveled yours. I believe that Not everyone should be expected to be just another Lemming, and just go along off the cliff with everyone else stuck with the "status quo" of what is "normally expected from escorts", just because you are one.
BIG POINT: The main difference i see here is that a "Hobbyist" (That word also always rather disgusted me, to be honest), has *Little* or virtually *Nothing* to lose, when posting a review for example. They won't likely lose their job, their marriage, their safety, their security, their reputation, or their house or car or apartment or their means of living safely and securely in this world. They can just sit back at the keyboard afterwards, and for whatever personally motivated reasons they may have - good, bad, generous, selfish, mean, wanting to look like the best lover or the girl like just another piece of meat - - some people even publish because they cant reconcile their OWN desires, and have no other way to vent it than take it out on a forum like this. HOWEVER, what i question is THIS: All that's just fine and dandy for the "hobbyist", but, for any girl that has ever had their repute, image, or life and living affected by the potentially VERY CAVALIER way in which we may be treated online, after the fact for example, EVERYTHING we have in this life, ESPECIALLY as TS women, ***IS*** at stake, especially if you are really struggling to just survive the impossible odds of transition.
As we are STILL living in what is a very hostile and ignorant culture, which by it's very nature of survival, brings more women like us into it by percentage of population, than any other kind of woman, GG or otherwise, So therefore, at that level of thinking - YES it matters, whether emotions or passion or honor or intellect are involved or not.
I Cant be a machine - that is not who i am, that is NOT what works for me, & that is *not* how i derive positive energy from this, and give positive energy back to others in so doing. Being that way is NOT how i have often succeeded in making unbelievably fun, graceful, intellectual, rewarding, and sometimes deeply emotional sharing kinds of connections, and yes, i am also very aware of the potential of risk or hurt, as well as real friendships, as part of my OWN growth and evolvement as a human being, a woman, and a lifetime committed sensualist and companion. BUT that will not ever stop me from being the real human being and the real woman i know i am, be even more of, if i allow myself to grow further in this regard.
YOU WROTE: "Some people will not connect you on the same level as others." "Little less to use this board as a way to vent. Remember this is a site by hobbyists, for hobbyists. What you refer to as dishonest from the hobbyist in question who pretended everything was fine, I read as being a true gentleman".
- - - * * * (And i read that as as absolutely inconsiderate and un-gentlemanly as it gets, by what i consider real honest standards of intimate communication with another human being, ESPECIALLY when given the review, *after the fact) - - -***
You also wrote: "Some of his words on the review were rude that is true, and unnecessary. When I suggest you don't bring all the other qualities to the table it's just to protect yourself. When you expose yourself to the fullest on every session, you're just making it tougher when they decide to write a bad review. I never expose myself specially on the first visit. Yes I'm nice and open... To a degree. Only if they eventually become regulars I'll open up more."
Many parts of that last statement i actually agree with, and i definitely have limits, boundaries, internal and external barriers, none of which i let down 100% the first time i see people as well. Trust comes with time, as do continued awesome explorations and adventures and real sharing and deeper rewards, as we see someone more than once, more than twice, and so on. To Fog - i say - you could have done better by me, especially as kind and fair and completely non-transactional as i was to you. ...and, conversely, it seems, you feel i could have done better by you... nonetheless... To Everyone else, this was partially about me, but also about everyone else here too - to just stop, to think, to take a second longer before making a self-motivated or self serving keystroke, that can actually have a real impact on the life of another very real human being, that might have much more at stake in it than you could ever imagine, and not just the next best, or next worse, piece of ass by the "numbers". To the Hobbyists, it is that and sometimes much more. To any decent woman that either gives her all, or stakes everything in her life on what she does and how she does it, one single keystroke can change a life, for better or worse.
Safe Travels Always, Namaste' TheAngelaGirl
So - * * * - - - You know, the funniest thing about this, and it's one of the reasons why most of my special friends over the years love me as much as i have seen, and felt, that they do.... and this is going to sound just plain crazy to some, maybe idiotic to others, but maybe a few people out there will relate... Not only have i never related to it "As a business" per-se, i have Also never treated it like one, either (at least not whenever possible).
Now, i know that is simply counter-intuitive to most people, i am sure, and absolutely goes against accepted thinking about all of this by others, and as i said - if not just plain crazy. But that IS what has worked for ME. I am an individual with unique qualities just like you and everyone else here. But i have found that my ways of relating to this "business" are apparently far, far, different than most, and the levels of conversation, dialogue, sharing, connection, fun, lasting client relations and real-life friendships, at least to me, bear that out as loudly to my own heart and mind, as if it had been burned there with bright green neon-colored paint. I cant answer why i am different, nor would i wish to, i just know that i am, and those people that do "get it", *really* get it, and continue to connect and explore, and expand fun and trust and new adventures with me, even for years, after we first met. I have never used the word "Client". I deeply dislike the term "Session". I don't ever use the word "Business". I consider those terms disrespectful to both the Gentleman and the entire process, by "transactional-izing" it even further, and therefore dehumanizing ALL of us even more, both "Client" and companion alike.
That may seem insanely dangerous to some, and i am sure some would like to see me gone or laughed off after me questioning the entire setup or people's honesty, or motivations, as to why they may review for example - but that also was NOT just for me, and was not JUST to bitch about one review or another. I call into question the ENTIRE mentality, way of doing things, courtesy, respectfulness, LACK of rudeness, or transactionality, honesty of intimate communications, lack of games, lack of faking it, and instead, asked to think about being more real, more accurate, more thoughtful, more kind, more considerate, on both sides of the coin.
For those that think this is an insane way of looking at it, well, that's an individual decision. You're not me and you have not traveled my journey, just as i have not traveled yours. I believe that Not everyone should be expected to be just another Lemming, and just go along off the cliff with everyone else stuck with the "status quo" of what is "normally expected from escorts", just because you are one.
BIG POINT: The main difference i see here is that a "Hobbyist" (That word also always rather disgusted me, to be honest), has *Little* or virtually *Nothing* to lose, when posting a review for example. They won't likely lose their job, their marriage, their safety, their security, their reputation, or their house or car or apartment or their means of living safely and securely in this world. They can just sit back at the keyboard afterwards, and for whatever personally motivated reasons they may have - good, bad, generous, selfish, mean, wanting to look like the best lover or the girl like just another piece of meat - - some people even publish because they cant reconcile their OWN desires, and have no other way to vent it than take it out on a forum like this. HOWEVER, what i question is THIS: All that's just fine and dandy for the "hobbyist", but, for any girl that has ever had their repute, image, or life and living affected by the potentially VERY CAVALIER way in which we may be treated online, after the fact for example, EVERYTHING we have in this life, ESPECIALLY as TS women, ***IS*** at stake, especially if you are really struggling to just survive the impossible odds of transition.
As we are STILL living in what is a very hostile and ignorant culture, which by it's very nature of survival, brings more women like us into it by percentage of population, than any other kind of woman, GG or otherwise, So therefore, at that level of thinking - YES it matters, whether emotions or passion or honor or intellect are involved or not.
I Cant be a machine - that is not who i am, that is NOT what works for me, & that is *not* how i derive positive energy from this, and give positive energy back to others in so doing. Being that way is NOT how i have often succeeded in making unbelievably fun, graceful, intellectual, rewarding, and sometimes deeply emotional sharing kinds of connections, and yes, i am also very aware of the potential of risk or hurt, as well as real friendships, as part of my OWN growth and evolvement as a human being, a woman, and a lifetime committed sensualist and companion. BUT that will not ever stop me from being the real human being and the real woman i know i am, be even more of, if i allow myself to grow further in this regard.
YOU WROTE: "Some people will not connect you on the same level as others." "Little less to use this board as a way to vent. Remember this is a site by hobbyists, for hobbyists. What you refer to as dishonest from the hobbyist in question who pretended everything was fine, I read as being a true gentleman".
- - - * * * (And i read that as as absolutely inconsiderate and un-gentlemanly as it gets, by what i consider real honest standards of intimate communication with another human being, ESPECIALLY when given the review, *after the fact) - - -***
You also wrote: "Some of his words on the review were rude that is true, and unnecessary. When I suggest you don't bring all the other qualities to the table it's just to protect yourself. When you expose yourself to the fullest on every session, you're just making it tougher when they decide to write a bad review. I never expose myself specially on the first visit. Yes I'm nice and open... To a degree. Only if they eventually become regulars I'll open up more."
Many parts of that last statement i actually agree with, and i definitely have limits, boundaries, internal and external barriers, none of which i let down 100% the first time i see people as well. Trust comes with time, as do continued awesome explorations and adventures and real sharing and deeper rewards, as we see someone more than once, more than twice, and so on. To Fog - i say - you could have done better by me, especially as kind and fair and completely non-transactional as i was to you. ...and, conversely, it seems, you feel i could have done better by you... nonetheless... To Everyone else, this was partially about me, but also about everyone else here too - to just stop, to think, to take a second longer before making a self-motivated or self serving keystroke, that can actually have a real impact on the life of another very real human being, that might have much more at stake in it than you could ever imagine, and not just the next best, or next worse, piece of ass by the "numbers". To the Hobbyists, it is that and sometimes much more. To any decent woman that either gives her all, or stakes everything in her life on what she does and how she does it, one single keystroke can change a life, for better or worse.
Safe Travels Always, Namaste'
TheAngelaGirl
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