So, I'm wondering how is the best way to tactfully follow up on a seemingly bad review I have.  It was my first one, and it was apparently left by someone that we didn't have a good service agreement with each other on.  I've found out, regrettably, that I would only have 4 months from the time the review was listed to dispute it.  I swear I've never come across that in the FAQ or anywhere, and was just recently told this by the moderators here on TER.  They've suggested both contacting the reviewer ( but he's unresponsive) or take to the forums for what could only be some form or ersatz damage control. But, I don't want to come off whiney or pleading, I would merely like to say my side of things ad hope people come to their own conclusions.  How about it?  Do I politely talk about it, and if so, what's the best forum for it?  

Thanks for taking the time to read this!

TS Cara

Is re-branding a fair suggestion?  

Your profile has no ad. You have only two reviews. You could simply rebrand if the reviewer is non responsive. TER is known to not take down reviews unless the reviewer responds or admits to have written a bad review just to hurt you.  

Do you have communication exchanges with the reviewer that may prove he was trying to ruin your rep? Ask admin for clear criteria of what can you use to have be review taken down. I have heard from people who had a hard time taking a bad review down, while other girls was fairly easy. I think if the reviewer doesn't log in they may finally side with you and take it down. But without clear rules stating a process on how to address your specific concern... This one may prove to be a doozy.  

I think that "telling your side of the story" is basically a waste of time. Because the review system is designed for us to not have a saying at all. This site is made by hobbyists, for hobbyists. While they are fair to providers in so many ways, the reviews is not one of them.  

In conclusion lol. Re - brand 😘

PS: the guy have a lot of reviews so he seems legit. I also noticed he's a poor reviewer. I doubt the review will be taken down. He's reviewed other girls after you so he's active.

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I applaund you trying to do some damage control about your reviews, but I think that damage control needs to be done in the bedroom, not the forums. I've seen your ads here in Chicago lately and I think you are gorgeous and I would normally be all up in you, but I stayed away because of your reviews. Let me explain why...

First, both of your reviews are bad, not just the first. The first is from a respectable reviewer and he pans you. One bad review isn't so bad but the second reviewer says some things that actually support the first reviewer. He mentions that your location is a mess like the first one did. As a client, I expect a girl to provide a clean place for our session. Part of what I'm paying for is housekeeping, whether it's done by a hotel staff or the girl herself. It shows that you're professional and have respect for your client. The second reviewer mentions that you only get semi hard whereas the first mentions you don't get hard at all. If I'm gonna pay for a girl who doesn't get hard, why would I not just see a GG? Part of the fun of seeing a TS is playing with her hard on. The second reviewer mentions that you are his favorite TS he's seen but you're his only review. That doesn't give him a lot of credibility. Also, when I read it, the session sounded *totally* lame. Now, maybe he's got low standards or he's a bad writer, but it does you no favors. The first reviewer mentions that you upsell and that you give preferential treatment to black guys. As a white guy, that makes me not want to see you at all. I work hard for my money and I spend a lot of it on tgirls. I will NEVER spend it on someone who feels that HER preferences are what matter in our business transaction. If I feel I will not get a girl's best effort, I will NEVER see her. Upselling is also an instant session killer. Pick a price and stick to it. It's unbearably ghetto and low class to upsell during a session.  

Hopefully this helps you. Your best bet might be to change your phone number and name and look enough so that no one remembers you and can dig those reviews up. Then start over and do right by your clients in the bedroom by cleaning up, providing good service, and cutting the discrimination and upselling. Maybe if you do that enough times in a row you won't need to do any damage control on the forums, but will instead enjoy a good reputation. Then maybe guys like myself, who look at reviews and spend a lot of money on tgirl escorts, will see you based on your reviews instead of shaking their heads and saying... "She's hot, but nope".

I would take the advice of the first poster here, but most of the issues you bring up, I feel should be addressed.

At the time of those reviews I was new to the industry, mistakes were made, and those mistakes have been corrected.  Only way to tell is to come and see me.

I did not attempt to upsell him:  We had agreed on the phone before he arrived, and then in person after his arrival what services would be delivered for the agreed upon price.  Nearing the end of his session time he told me he needed a condom so we could engage in actual sex, when the agreed to acts were merely for oral, and not the mutual oral we did engage in.  This is where he claimed I tried to upsell him.  He negotiated for a clearly defined half our of oral only, and though I'm not a clock watcher, with less than 5 minutes to go, he asked for a condom for sex, explaining, "I didn't know your ass was going to be this good...." etc. ad nauseum.  I politely reminded him of what we had already agreed to, and that if that's what he wanted, we needed to re-contract at the full hour's rate, though he would only be paying for his addition half hour, totaling the normal hour's rate.  

Yes, my room was messy. I was young and foolish, and also working from my home at that time.

I've had an orchiectomy ( me testes have ben removed and therefore no resulting Testosterone - The Boner Maker ), though I do now take lil helpers so my guests can experience their preferred play dates.

I don't advertise that I have any preferences. More than likely he has seen some of my life on Fetlife or a random casual ad on craigslist (not trolling for work mind you, I *do* have some standards after all lol) when I was younger and looking for some casual play times, with anyone, no discrimination their either .   When it comes to work, I'm all "business" in the sense that I don't want to offend anyone in any manner.   I'm serious about this.  I try and not be rude or condescending in any manner.

In short, I was young and inexperienced when I started out, and like most girls in a certain financial hole at the time, so perhaps without proper guidance or mentoring I tripped over a few cracks and made some errs.  

I want to keep working as a service provider, and offer great service.  I have some established regulars in Chicago and the Metro Detroit area, they just don't seem to be the types of gentlemen that either use TER or use TER to review service providers.  

Thank you for your honest critique, I'm going to take your advice to heart and attempt to do better.

-Cara

It is invaluable to deciding on who to hook up with, and those to avoid.  Full disclosure is always best in any transaction.

This provider seems like a waste of time on several counts.  Actually I hope she does not 're-brand'.  It would only create more victims.

Great post, mate!

A couple thoughts...
1) Great dialogue. Very insightful and helpful.
2) In my local market, I often see providers post casual encounter ads where they request blacks only, other races need not apply. While this is only indicative of a preference (and sometimes only a preference for that specific ad), the optics & conclusions for the non-black client are "I'm probably not going to connect with her and I will be wasting my money if I choose this girl". I don't think these girls consider how easy it is to find all sorts of online info through a simple phone search/image search. If you are selling burgers and they are the tastiest in town and you want to market your product to Everyone, probably not a good idea to publicly state that you prefer to service one race only.    
3) I googled your phone #... dang! you is a hot lil pepper

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Thank you very much sir!  I have gone to great lengths the utilize the gifts I was already born with. A girl always enjoys being told she's pretty.

There's nothing wrong from rebranding if she took note of her previous mistakes and she is determined to provide a better service. Why would she have to be haunted by old reviews that wouldn't represent her change in attitude and services?

I think if she's serious about becoming a better provider and make the necessary changes. We all deserve a second chance.

Just do your best now and then honey, the guys will start posting new reviews and soon no one will pay attention to that review.
No one is perfect and so we learn from our mistakes
Good luck.
India Fox.

I'd advise to make sure to keep your TER profile up to date, especially the links to your ad. For me at least, the first thing I always look at is the book cover. Right or not, the game you are in rewards the hottest chicas, and a profile with out pics is a losing bet. As far as you trying to change you bad old review, forget about it and move on. Focus on future reviews, getting them and making them stand out, not the one that is history. IMHO.  
Good luck!

Cara we all learn from the mistakes we make, I would not hesitate to see you if you came to San Diego. You seem to be an honest girl. This business can turn you into a bitch, get out before then. Have fun and don't take to much advise from us perverted fucks.

I think the post by timotl wins the best post of the year.  Hopefully Cara and other girls can learn from your post.  For me I hate number 1 the fake pics and number 2 girls not knowing what they want on price.  I tried to meet a girl and she  asked what I had to offer.  For me I just get a feeling that I'm gonna get up sold when I meet, which is a real deal breaker.  Thanks for an in detail report.  

Cara,

I don't think that you'd be able to follow up with or correct the bad review. You've taken what I think is the best possible course of action which is to come here and say what you did: You made early stage mistakes (room cleanliness for example) and you're working on those.  

Since your service has improved, you'll get better reviews and unfortunately, like most things, it takes time. There's some good advice from people that clearly see TS providers (linking to an updated informational website).  

One more thing to consider: If you rebrand yourself and someone ties the "old" you to the "new" you, it looks bad.

I'd bet this post gets more visits on your next Chicago trip. Good luck.
 

i tried to hook up with her  and kinda just blew me off  

i wanted to stop by but you kinda acted like you were not interested  i wanted to be topped and you said you dont top and i said thats OK  id still like to stop by

Hi Cara...  I spent a session with you, probably about that same time period.  I could have sworn that I wrote a review, but I don't see it.  (I might have waited too long and missed the "within X number of months" rule.  I had truly enjoyed our session together.  You're very cute and very sexy!  AND, I remember at the time that you advertised that you don't get hard... so no surprises there!

You're actually kind of hard to find lately...  I happened upon this thread while doing a google search for you.

So, I agree with some of the other responses that you should update your TER profile, have a some good sessions, and don't be afraid to ASK for a TER review.  I, for one, would be happy to provide one when we get a chance to meet again.