Greetings, I hope I am posting this in the proper area. I am interested in pursuing a fantasy but don't know where to start. I am new to this world and am not completely familiar with the terminology, so please forgive me if I say something inappropriate.
I am looking to spend some time with a tv/ts but can't seem to find anything in my area (toledo, oh) other than bp and I am skeptical of bp. Where should I look? I would prefer a more established tv/ts that has a good reputation with first timers.

Any help is appreciated,
Marty

I have had a hard time myself for various reasons. I do look at backpages but some of it is a scam and a lot of it is gross. Only a few of the girls seem genuine.
I looked at your town and they weren't pretty at all.
I have only recently become interested. I saw an article and googled it and looked around and saw one naked that just grabbed me and I was hooked. Still, only a few are attractive and erotic and sexy at least to me.
I will be a first timer too. I can't wait to meet one but  can't do it just now.
So good to talk about this - we are the very, very few.  Which we could get in touch.
Anyway, go on bg and look up Jessie in Atlanta - she comes up on April 6, I think. She is hormone free meaning (I think) no boob job and so she is really a gay guy who lives totally as a women. Fantastic pictures! Never would have thought since I've always been with women, but she really turns me on. Bing her phone number for even older and sexier photos. Beautiful and exotic.

Eros.com was my starting place. You're close enough to  Detroit if Toledo's offerings are slim. http://www.eros-ohio.com/sections/toledo_ohio_shemale_escorts.htm

Been playing with a provider and strap on and enjoying the fantasy while I do research, and look for a real opportunity to spend some time with a true TS provider.  Can't travel to other cities so I keep looking on this board and Eros while scanning BP.  BP scares the crap out of me.
I have to learn how to use the Google or Tineye it appears since there are so few reviews on TS providers.  I have not taken chances with a female provider and will not with a TS provider either.
Too much to lose imho.

New to all of this.....

From what i can tell, you posted in the right place, and although i am not in your area, of course you are welcome to reach me, if ever you get into the DC/Md area, love...

A few things i can offer.... Some people are very specific about either TS or TV companions... the two are different degrees of gender expression, and only TS women will usually fully "transition" - legally, medically, socially, and live the rest of our entire lives in every aspect as the women we are, forever.

The term "lifestyle" may be regarded by some of us as socially inappropriate, as real TS women make the changes we do, based on a deeply aware core gender identity issue, originating in most cases, years before sexuality, or "lifestyle", were ever factors, for most of us...  


Some of us are natural transtitioners (natural features, extreme training in fitness and yoga, and only hormones), others that can, or wish to, will get everything possible from facial reconstructs and body contouring, hip, buttock augmentation, breast implants, and many genuinely female identified TS women - will go all the way - thru full "gender reassignment", down below the waist to complete (the physical) part of our "transitions"...  


Some will remain "non-op", (no gender reassignment surgery) but, will still fully live the rest of their lives in their 100% 24/7/365 female gender, legally, socially, and professionally forever...  


TV's often have many of the same characteristics, but less often "transition", may sometimes begin hormones, even get implants & some reconstructions, & some may even switch between "normal" male modes, and their female persona, depending on life, other professional interests, social strata, demographic, and may often also have a very erotically/fetishistic underpinning to their gender expression, as TV women...


Some TV's, and even very advanced CD's, & even some drag performers (often gay males) may also decide to fully transition in gender, if their core gender identity is strong enough to motivate that. As a general rule, TV's, p/t CD's, and/or drag artists are NOT TS females, although there may be some that market themselves as such, in erotic arts and escorting.


As far as providers go - the TER is a good forum that seems to provide some mature and reasonably good oversight, and helps the "industry", as it were, to police itself by using reviews & ratings systems. It is not always accurate, as both providers and reviewers may sometimes engage in more personally motivated, or even competitive means, that may not 100% serve either the genuine seeker, or the genuine provider to the best interest....  but that is not the rule and the mods here seem very diligent about keeping a good civilized forum running with good etiquette...


My own example of a couple of years ago - was listed as fake here by others that did not know me, but as i had worked with certain types of clients for years, that did not ever post on the TER, so i had no review data, and lost a few good contacts as a result of that tiff (it was all eventually removed from the forums by admin) - so i have to say it is not always a 100% reliable information source, but is nonetheless, as close to it as they can manage, given the mass of information they must process, and clearly, one of the very best erotic information resources available in the world.  


When seeking a good connection, whether it be EROS, or BP, or other site, i would personally suggest to make sure you find the ads that are the least crude, the least vulgar, the most well written, forthright, and mature, and that seem more down to earth (if that sort of thing appeals to you), especially as you are new to this.


Some providers will not wish to see New or First time seekers at all. Others that may be fakes or hooligans will wish to only take advantage of your lack of knowledge to simply use and abuse you for the short time they are willing to spend with you, and what they can get $$$, and be totally "transactional" about the whole entire process before kicking you out the door...  


Those that list as "GFE" providers will not always be so "transactional", and may be willing to spend real quality time with you in a much more relaxed, warmly human, and more openly sharing manner, love...

Use the TER to cross check review value and validity of the provider, if you run across something that you think interests you, but want to do more due diligence before contacting them.


Use caution, always... If you talk to girls that are rude, short, only focus on the gift, or change amounts prior to meeting, are unwilling to be warm, open, down to earth with you, help you have a better understanding, or allow you to express the things you look to find, or answer even basic questions, and do not ask you some important screening questions in a relaxed, friendly, and unhurried manner, i'd simply advise moving on to the next, until you find someone that is willing to give you more than 1 minute of rushing you to make an appointment with them, and that ideally has been well reviewed in some form or another..


Always check the areas where providers are located in terms of residential demographics.... There are clearly areas in every city, that all of us would wish to avoid as both providers, and seekers...


I tend to shy away from really graphic sex talk on the telephone, but there are ways for two people to discreetly discuss what you want and what we can give or what we will or won't do, in a good mannered and respectful fashion...


Many good ads will list kinds of services, or be clearly obvious what kind of woman - top - bottom, versatile, etc, and if not, is the provider willing to tell you honestly if you should ask them. I also do not ever list my rates on my ads, but that is just me - many providers do, and i would rather create a nice ad, well written, and not detract from it by listing rates on that page because i think it can take away from a good listing, or make it too businesslike & impersonal - but that is ONLY my personal taste & style of doing things, not a judgement call on anyone else...


There are providers like TS Rachel for example (see her reviews and links) that have their own sites, and will openly list some or all of their services and rates, and yet do so in a very elegant and up front manner...  


EROS, BP, possibly some Verified Playmates Sites, Geisha Affair, and here at the TER are your best bets as far as i know, (there are more but that's what i know) and even if you have to sift through dozens of ads, to find one that appeals to yuour tastes personally, isn't fake or rude or rushed, then hopefully you will find a good one, if you are patient and diligent, and treat the providers with warmth or gentlemanly kindness, when you establish first contact.


There are many reasons why people conduct themselves in the erotic arts, and in the manner they do... Many are deep survival motivated, & have to turn numbers to keep off the streets, and have any hope of surviving "transition". Others may have a combination of love and respect for their arts and clients, and deeply care about return visits, special friendships, or getting good reviews.


That's my .02 worth... there is so much more, but this has been long enough, and i can only hope it may be even remotely helpful to some... feel free to PM me if you, or any of the others here, wish more open dialogue, or this has raised more questions that you want simply and directly answered...


Best of Luck, & Safe Travels Always,


LoveRespectForever, and....


Namaste'





TheAngelaGirl
(TSAngelaMarie)

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Re: New to all of this.....

Thanks Angela Marie. How thoughtful of you to take the time and write and post. I scanned but will read again soon.
I'm wary of the Atlanta scene - the whole scene really. So much seems like scams, some are creepy, ugly dudes, but some of the women such as yourself are stunning and that is what is worth it. I looked at you photos in Washington - I think that is you - and they are beautiful.
BTW, what do you think of the link I posted in the other thread of Jessie? In the later photos do you think she has had any work done or does she have cups of something? I don't know, but maybe she is just a very fem CD guy?
And you're .02's is worth its weight in gold.
Do you ever travel?
Thanks,

Re: New to all of this.....

awww.... wow....

That was a really sweet and thoughtful response yourself, love.... Very nice, and thank you sincerely for the kind compliments, in every way....

I looked at the links, but i do not know her and will not judge anyone, but with features like hers, she could easily be transitioning TS, and i think less likely, but still possible, that she is at very least a passable TV, or more advanced and really quite pretty CD if that is the case...

The pics seem to show she has had no implants, and again, the pics don't show enough to be sure.

Clearly she has a good enough grasp of language to write at least a decent, non-vulgar, and what seems a pretty straightforward and very simple ad, but, if you can find correlation from anyone at all that has actually seen, or met her, that might serve to give you much more of the comfort you truly seem to need, at this uncertain moment in your explorations...

maybe even just give the initial call, see what your gut instinct says about her manner, voice, and general demeanor - i get a lot from people's voices in phone manner, and i think the same goes for your side of the line as well...

I cannot say more, lest she be for real, and worthwhile looking into further...

....and yes, love, i do travel ....usually on request only, though.... not much into touring, as most of my interests are deeply centered around the DC/MD/VA areas.... i was actually in Atlanta briefly last year, while on other travels - but we hadn't talked then...

Sorry if this was not as helpful as it could have been.... and again, thank you for the very thoughful compliments and the time you took as well, to write and ask in reply...

PM or email me anytime if you wish, love... quite happy to be more open, or helpful, or find a way to connect, if i can...

Most Warmly, and...

Hugz!

Very Best,



TheAngelaGirl

TS women are female not gay guys dressing as women. The TS escorts i have meet are just as feminine a genetic women. They also dress sexier than most genetic female escorts. Do your research and you will find the right one for you.

Re: New to all of this.....

Electra -

After i found the second set of links you had mentioned for "Jessie", and all i can say is - wow. Total reversal of anything i said in the prior posting.

Clearly in my mind, not a CD or TV of any kind i have ever seen or known. Her features are far too pretty and purely female for it to ever "just come off at the end of the day", and her choice of clothing shows total comfort in herself as a woman, and those are not fake front shots by any measure, as far as my eye can tell...  

Amazing eyes, really nice & very sexy smile, and i think for certain she has to be a TS in transition, and looks to be doing well with all of her changes.... and she is clearly smart and knows how to write an agressively straightforward, & very simple and clear posting. I would play with her anyday just based on appearance alone (but i have always also loved other girls, too)....

In any case.... i wish you very very best of luck in your searches, and never hesitate to post honest questions - you will find some good answers here, and it seems, many people willing to help...

LoveRespectAlways,

Hugz & Very Best Luck Always,



TheAngelaGirl

Re: New to all of this.....

Thanks for the second look and confirmation of my opinion.
She is stunning - wow, just, wow!
You are, too, btw. I love your black lingerie and you are as good looking as it gets and smart as hell to boot!
Man, if I won the lottery......

Re: New to all of this.....

btw. you totally rock. Thank you.

Maybe (love to!) we will connect at sometime. your smarts and striaghtforward sweetness are also wonderful, appealing, in excellent taste, and well, you posted a great thread and thank you for tasking the time to engage.

i hope that you find the very best of what you can, and of course, always reach me whenever you get up this a' way, for sure...

Hugz!

Most Warmly, always,



TheAngelaGirl