I have had several encounters with "Top," "Dominant," etc. that have been anything but...  Since I am a first-timer with some oral reservations, I want a provider that will not give me an option, but will ensure that I service her and take her load.  I may not like it or ever do it again, but I won't know unless it happens.

I want a passable TS, who is gentle but firm.  Am I expecting a fantasy, or is there someone out there???