I originally got into trans women because I had one come onto to me that was  completely passable and smoking hot. I fantasized that she was just like any other woman. We dated and it worked for awhile, until it didn’t.  

 
But then I missed it. I was with a few others over the years and enjoyed it each time. As time went on, I got more curious and tried different things. Eventually, I realized that I’m definitely a top, but also like sucking dick. So this is my type.

 
Since entering the escort world, I have found TS providers the hardest to navigate. They are leas reviewed. There are so many scam type profiles. Many bottoms struggle to get hard.  Those who say they’re versatile aren’t always as versatile as they claim. I have been with ones who can’t really get hard and ones who really want to top me. I find it’s hard to find a good bottom who can stay hard for a good suck off. Sometimes, I don’t even want to top. I just want a session where we can suck each other off. I have even considered a male escort, but I’m even more nervous about that because it might be more of the same issues. Being in the LA area, I would think this wouldn’t be so hard.

 
Anyway, I was curious. Anyone else find these challenges? Anyone have tips?

There are a few reasons why TS escorts are different from CIS escorts. Many guys that get with trans women don't want other people to know that they get with trans women. As a result guys are less likely to write reviews. Most guys are straight, so there are more guys seeing more cis escorts and writing more reviews. Trans women are also rarer. The decreased supply means they have a higher relative demand. They can get away with more crap. It also creates better conditions for scammers.
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The other issue you talk about is an issue trans women just deal with. The hormones most of them take makes it harder for some trans women to get erections. Not many bottoms are going to get hard as a result. If you want mutual BJs you might be better off going with a top and just telling them you don't want anal. The tops are the ones that get hard. I know you don't want to bottom but I got a feeling you'll end up doing it one day. You seem to be on the slippery slope.
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If you want to get with a dude, I'd recommend downloading an app like Grindr or Sniffies. Just be careful about STDs, lots of dogs on those sites. Male escorts aren't great and tend to be worse than the trans ones. You might just be better off finding another dude on an app. However the apps are easier if you are younger, fitter, and hotter than average.

Your points all make sense. You are right, I am on the slippery slope. I have tried to bottom 3 times. It never worked out and they weren't the best experiences. I didn't get what I wanted and the top in these situations was mad and/or frustrated. I honestly do not see myself giving it a try again. I was open to trying it, but lost interest.  

 
I did find one trans who was more CD type who was into mutual BJs. But she wanted to keep most of her clothes on the whole time so she can still look like a she. It was okay, but not exactly what I am looking for.

 
I thought about those apps, but they are way too public for me. I got into the escort world for discretion. Those apps typically require pictures to get more traction, and I'm not looking for my picture to be out there for anyone to see. Back in the day, I used to be able to post on Craigslist/Backpage or get in on a AOL chat for those seeking trans. I only had to exchange pictures with the person interested. But those days are long gone, as are my younger, fitter and hotter than average days lol.

Your experiences kind of sound like mine, it took me a few tries to get the bottoming thing down. TBH it was cis women with strapons that did the best jobs breaking me in. The thing is a lot of trans providers are not great tops for beginners. The tops tend to be very rough, dominating and aggressive. While some guys seek that experience out it is not safe for beginners. They're not always into the foreplay needed to warm someone up properly. They can have boner issues because of hormones, so sometimes you get a gal trying to forcibly jam some half hard dick up your ass. I am very selective when it comes to TS girls that top.

I can see how that may work for some men. Never thought of it this way. Despite my interest in trans women, I have always preferred to be in a more equal or dominant role. I couldn’t imagine letting a woman, despite her ability to be more gentle, top me. In fact, even though I enjoy sucking cock, I don’t like it when I’m with a more dominant provider who tries to face fuck me. FWIW, the few times I tried to bottom were not because I wanted the experience as much as it was because I was trying to please my partner who seemed to want it.

 
Mind you, I’m not full blown take charge dominant myself either. Hence the equal or dominant. I would say I lean more in the middle. I don’t look for someone who is too submissive either. I like a little push and pull between us both, with nothing ever getting too rough on either side.

 
If I do mutual oral, it’s about remaining more equal. Just as much as I don’t like being face fucked, I’m also not one to want to do the face fucking. If I top her, even though I’m far from dom or rough, I see myself taking over a little more.  

 
Yeah, I know, I’m a bit particular. But that’s the point of my post. It’s not always easy finding what I’m looking for with trans women.

Have you considered a cross dresser? They stay pretty hard and can cum if you’re looking for just a blow job.  
It’s my experience that you can get best mutual oral.  
It’s a slippery slope too. I’m one of those that said that I’ve never bottom them you meet an aggressive top. And then you are the bottom all of a sudden! It wasn’t that much more of a shock since I’ve been pegged by cis women before.

I have. There are so few reviewed though, which is part of my challenge. I don’t want to show up and get mugged by a man in a wig who took me for a sucker. I want some assurance lol.

 
But yeah, one of my recent hook ups was a CD who had some reviews and seemed clearly in this ballpark. She’s was okay. One of the turn offs for me was she wanted to keep most of her clothes on the whole time. I got dick access but not naked body access. I think she felt she needed her clothes to maintain her female appearance.

Im between Boston and NYC, and have worn many sets of tires driving up to Boston. Bunch of colleges there = bunch of overthinking eggheads = always looking for something extra = hot spot for trans. Pages and pages of providers on TS4rent.eu and TSEscorts (about 150 listings). I see several regulars  who travel there again, and again, and again...maybe they know somethiing. Never been ripped off. Only minor issue is certain providers place ads to promote their OnlyFans 19.95/month page. They dont respond to appointment replies, fine. Otherwise wonderful gals.

It shouldn't be as hard as it seems for you to find what you're after in LA. I'd say kiss a few more frogs and eventually you'll find a princess...

There really are so many options. Just wished the reviews came close to the options. I hate having to play the pay to find out game. It can be anything from a bullseye to a crazy scary story.

Same as with regular escorts. Only go with ones reviewed here on TER.

But reviews are hard to come by. A few reviewed well have been difficult to book. Not because they’re booked, but they’re not really responsive and can be flaky. Then there are a couple who say LA, but they’re actually the Valley or OC, which is too far in LA traffic.

 
There are a couple good bottoms I have seen. They can’t stay hard though. There are maybe a couple of well reviewed tops, but they’re seem aggressive. I don’t want to bottom for them. Looking at ts4rent and tsescorts, the two busiest sites, like 90% are not reviewed. The ones who are mostly are reviewed low, or have 1-2 reviews. I have literally scouted them all. I have numerous ones out of state who travel some that I am really hoping pass through LA sometime in the near future.

To get the feel of the Lady, first try going the middle road, by telling the T-Ladies to simulate.  I had a super foxy T-Lady that wanted my tail end.  I decided to play it safe and to see how her style was.  She and the others who wanted the tail, showed how aggressive they were.  One beauty queen took me standing up and showed me some good moves.  That was Miss Chanel in Buenos Aries, Argentina.  I did hear lately that Argentina is doing better!  Though you still need to watch your out.  One of the best and maybe most aggressive was the first one, that I called "super foxy".  Her name was Miss Vanessa Santillan!!!  It was a good thing I was sucking her and simulating first!  Because Miss Vanessa was very aggressive!  She was face fucking me so hard core, that she had me choking & gagging!!!  And she ended up coming twice in one hour!

My favorite ladies were down in South America!  Or when in Europe, there wa s a lot of the S.A. movies stars showing-off in Europe.  However, in South America you can see maybe 5 or 10 for the price of 1 in Europe or America.  In the country of Colombia you can be a millionaire for $300!  Though you might spend 10 or 20,000 C.P. for breakfast.  I had an advantage that some folks don't have.  I got paid to go to all those countries!    

   The magic word that most of the ladies understand is "No penetration", then they will simulate.  The translation for "simulate' can be harder to figure out.  Saying "no penetration" seemed to work in South America, Asia and Europe.  So if you're unsure about the bottoming, that would be a good first step!  Some that are like Miss Jessika Ketlen you would want to first simulate!  Couldn't even fit her in my mouth!  And she seemed to have that problem with other prospective boy friends.  Though she was always very loving, even with a huge cock!  And not to mention, she's an extremely beauty queen and foxy!  You would have to hurry up and dive in and take her cock in your mouth, before she gets too big!!!  

Miss Bianca Souza of Brazil, at Barcelona, Spain taught me about simulating.  She made me her boy-friend while I was in Barcelona!  And Miss Ruby Ferrer was also a really good one there!  Well, I'd better get sending this, before it times out and I lose all this work!  Sorry about getting off subject and being so long.  

I know an Asian who prefers to bottom, But can top. I always see her late. and she doesn't get very hard later in the day.

I did ask her when she tops, is she better in the mornings? (for obvious reasons)

She said yes

So schedule for the first appt of the day, your chances of success are higher if you want to be topped

With my favorite local lady, I've often aimed for mornings.  "So ... how early can I call you?" and usually the earliest date was 7 AM, which was a great little side trip on the commute to work.

Not only did I usually get a nice cumshot on the face for morning dates, she had zero difficulty getting/staying hard.  Sometimes on the afternoon or evening dates, getting/staying hard seemed a bit challenging for her, and it would rarely culminate in a cumshot.

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Meanwhile, The War on bad tags at the porn sites continues Guerrilla style.  It seems hopeless.  One very prolific uploader is flooding the "Shemale Fucks Guy" tag with solo masturbation videos.  SMH!  It's a tough life for a total bottom.  (lol)