I just had my first two TS experiences this past weekend during an out-of-town trip.  They about as opposite as can be.  One was really into it, very vocal, and even came for me, but had no breasts to speak of.  Still pretty.  The other was more feminine, had great breasts, did get hard, however, was distinctly not really into it.  Her conversation was sort of "technical".  I had orgasms with both, but the experience of the first was by far the better.  I know for a lot of guys, especially older men like me, the mental aspects play a larger role.  I wonder what everyone else's thoughts are.  Hopefully we can hear some provider input as well.

I know we are more visual* when it comes to pleasure. Most people will argue that they can get romance and passion at home. If they are gonna pay for it, they pretty much just want a hot fuck. That's the mindset at first... Until you realize that someone can be hot as hell, just if she has attitude issues, or if she too medhanic. That can ruin a hot session.  

Same goes for clients imo. If I have two clients trying to book at the same time. I will always choose the one with the sweeter personality. Of course that's not the only decisive factor, but it always takes part in it.  

I would say to try to compartmentalise it. When the girl is there but she isn't there. Just try to enjoy the physical aspect of the session. Not all sessions will be great. When the girl is pretty and great attitude. Enjoy that as well.  

Just my 0.02C

Once again, Sasha hit the nail on the head.  
Poor, distant, or lackadaisical attitude is the easiest way to turn a great encounter to a poor one. And this goes for TS, GG or any combo one can think of. For the hobbyist, "good" looks should be a given, though "Model" looks a bonus..dynamic attitude is a must, unfortunately that's not always the case. my $0.02.

Like you, I had experiences with a couple of TS ladies that couldn't be more opposite. One of them was beautiful, even model-like, but she had a detached, clinical air that made the experience a complete bust (she definitely was not into it, which didn't jibe with the reviews I'd read; being a heavyset guy, my self-image is already a bit shaky, and an experience like this doesn't help). The other was a TV, flat chested, but like your experience, she was nice looking, very vocal, very much into the experience, and a total sweetheart (and didn't once make me feel like I was some "fat dude she had to tolerate"). So, yes, for me, looks are nice, but a great attitude will always make up for any "shortcomings" in the visual department, because more often than not, as the Robert Palmer song goes, "a pretty face don't make no pretty heart."

Of course, a lady with both looks *and* a great attitude is the best of both worlds! I've been privileged enough to have been with several (including the amazing TS Daisy from San Antonio), and my current ATF has the trifecta: looks, attitude, and intelligence (time passes too quickly when we get together, it's that good of an experience).

every time as long as she is not a bow wow

I've had some of my worst sessions with beautiful girls and some of my best with plain Janes. Looks are great, and I love a pretty girl, but you really can't tell the difference when her cock is all the way down your throat! Lol.  
A girl who treats me right will always get the call over the pretty girl. Enjoying a girl's beauty is part of the fun of the session, but the action is a bigger part. If a girl is stuck up or boring or prude or rushing, the session sucks. If a girl is into it and nasty and willing and fun, the session is awesome. Of course it's better when a girl is both beautiful and has the right attitude, but if I have to choose, attitude always comes first. Always.

I think that attitude plays a huge role in the success of both seeker and provider. Both for different reasons, but I also believe at the end of the day, this contributes much more to each person ultimately getting much more of what they want, out of this exchange.  

As you described yourself - a more mature person as it were, and in my experience, more mature gentlemen and couples often deeply value maturity and genuine warmth, just as much if not more, and the ability to connect on many levels - socially, culturally, intellectually, and of course, emotionally as well as being hot/attractive and stimulating physically.  

in the absence of providing genuine passions (which I have heard many times may be an issue "at home" for a whole variety of reasons - often with more mature people whose partners for example may have lost their drive and so forth) not only eroticism and good looks, but even if someone is truly hot attractive,  but yet, not be willing, nor able, to provide genuine warmth or sincere passions,, or any motivation to be truly engaged and engaging, then....  

...in the process of making what can often be very personal, private, and sometimes deeply fulfilling emotional and intimate connections & explorations for people, then,, as you have said in this particular case, looks did not matter ultimately as much - in terms of you having had a much more well rounded (so to speak...lol) experience, that you apparently found to be much more fulfilling on some very personally important levels for yourself....  

...so conversely, the young lady you saw, in time,, may also benefit doubly, especially if you would wish to see her again at some time, for exactly that very same reason, and therefore become a repeat visitor which (hopefully) more fully then continues to fulfill both of your needs...  

 
....if her good attitude still holds up in that next visit, and was not just a "one time thing" to make a good impression or other motivations,  then you both also might have an opportunity to build trust.... trust in continuing, potentially expanding, and having more than one mutually beneficial exploration, and even possibly on many occasions thereafter....  

....which, in my experience over time, can often lead to more and more passionate and personally fulfilling shared erotic and intellectually stimulating experiences, and even some beautiful and long-term friendships, that because of the trust being built and shared, continue to benefit each other greatly, as long as it continues.  

In the absence of genuine sharing, genuine warmth, genuine enthusiasm, genuine shared passions, it seems to me it would be very difficult to ever establish any real trust with a provider, (and absolutely vice versa for me  as a woman and a deeply passionate provider that also looks for the same qualities - warmth, openness, maturity, humor, genuine kindness) nor a good contemporary emotional and intellectual connection of any kind that would lead to a deeply positive and very memorably excellent experience for both, and especially yourself as the seeker of such an ideally positive connection.  

Yes! attitude matters, in almost anything we can apply ourselves to. It's the difference between any of us doing something every day that we ultimately either truly don't feel passionate about, or have real love and/or respect for, that really does makes the difference to everyone involved in that moment.  

As I deeply *love* sharing real passion for many types of erotic explorations, genuine warmth of self, real sharing, and building trust thru being genuine - has allowed me to not only keep my passions for my arts very much alive over the span of many years, it has also helped *me* to grow, understand others much better, stretch myself in ways I had never imagined, build some amazing friendships, shared many deeply personal and amazingly intimate experiences, and frankly, has supported me physically, mentally, emotionally, and spiritually, in ways that almost no other forms of vocation, arts, or entertainment have done so prior in my own life.  

Just my thoughts from personal experience and many sad stories I have heard over time from many, many, people that have struggled to find genuinely passionate experiences out there sometimes for weeks, months, even years.....  

Not to say I don't sometimes also wish to share in nothing but absolutely naughty, wild, abandoned raw passionate erotic stimulations, but I also don't wish to be with anyone that is unresponsive, lacking openness or warmth, or the willingness or ability to connect with me as much as I am always striving to do the same.

Thanks for asking for provider input. Glad to share, love.

Wishing you well and many more passionate and genuine explorations,

Safe Travels always,

Namaste'

 
TheAngelaGirl

...and as always.... Sasha, you Rock.

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