I have been wrestling with the idea of seeing a TS for some time. I am looking for someone slender and very femanine.

My questions is...does this mean that I am gay. I am not remotely attracted to men. Never have, Never will. I guess i am just entrigued by the entire TS experience and was thinking about giving it a try.  I go back and forth with the idea but I am concerned about "crossing the line."

Thanks for listening

What line are you concerned asbout crossing? everyone's sexuality is different. I see gg's and tg's and enjoy both for their merits. I'm also not attracted to men, but i don't worry about labels. If you want to call me bi, so what? I don't care. If you want to call me gay, i don't care. My sexuality is my business, and i do what makes me happy. I suggest you do the same.

Yes you are gay does that make you feel better.

But this same question gets very tiresome...It seems like it comes up at least once a month and the same discussion ensues...maybe it is a good thing - gets new posters/activity on the board...I know I don't have to read the posts and I usually don't...just venting a bit...

No you're right Dazed.  Anyways "Am I gay if I like transsexuals?"  Beats the crap out of me.  Don't care anyway.  Nothing's more fun than treating a transsexual girl nice.

Well, those of us who've been at this awhile may feel that it's deja vu all over again in summer reruns brought to us by the Redundancy Dept of Redundancy, but for those just venturing into these waters, it's a new and valid question. A great many guys are strongly attracted to Tgirls yet deathly afraid of discovering that they are gay, hence the conflict. So long as society defines orientation purely on whether you and your partner(s) have the same genitals or not, this will persist (never mind the intersexed!), but we know things aren't that simple.

To recap: there's a definite distinction between gender identification (e.g., do you--regardless of your birth sex--identify as male or female?) and sexual orientation (e.g., are you sexually and emotionally oriented to the opposite sex or the same sex or both?). A pre-op M2F transsexual may be sexually oriented towards men while identifying as a woman; if you as a man make love with that woman, the physical aspect of the sexual encounter (the fact that you and she both have a penis) is not, in my eyes, the qualifing factor; her gender identification is.

Fortunately, I never asked myself this question, as I discovered that I'm bisexual (or pansexual) over 30 years ago. That was a little shocking at first: I wasn't attracted to guys--never have been--but I discovered that sex with a guy can be incredibly exciting. Fast forward to several years ago and my first TS experience, and I discovered a vastly more exciting way to enjoy those physical pleasures (giving head, being bottom--since getting head and being top are not dependent on your partner's genitalia) since they can be combined with a beautiful, sexy, smooth-skinned, feminine woman. Needless to say, I have no interest in guys now!

So to answer your question: unless you're attracted to men, you're probably not gay. You may be bisexual (pansexual), or you may be straight--only attracted to women--but open enough about your sexuality to not let a woman's genitals define the nature of your relations.

Or, in simple terms: If it feels good, do it; if it doesn't, move on.

Ron White (of blue collar comedy tour fame) does an interesting routine based on the premise that everyone is gay, it's just a matter of degree.  He asks his friend if he likes porn (hell yes), then asks if he likes just girl on girl or hetero porn.  (yes to hetero).  Then he asks if he likes to see some guy up there with some limp little weiner or if he wants to see the guy with w a bighard,  throbbing cock.  Conveniently the friend replies, "I want a big, hard, throbbing cock ohmygawd... I'M GAY!!!"

My point being that just because you're turned on by a big hard throbbing cock doesn't mean you're gay.  It just means that a virile male physique can be erotic to you.  If you want to settle down with the guy attached to it, then that's a higher degree of being gay.

I know a few lesbians that really turn me on, but that doesn't make me a lesbian, no matter how much I might enjoy that.  I am attracted to a few transexuals but that doesn't mean I was born as a female in a male body.  I'm wearing a black shirt and white socks.  That doesn't mean there aren't shades of grey and even colors in my wardrobe.

I wouldn't even go so far as to say I'm bisexual, as I like my bisexuality wrapped up in one package (preferably a large one with some large breasts).

Can I be easily categorized as 100% heterosexual male?  No.  Does that mean my only alternatives are bisexual or homosexual?  No.  Omnisexual?  No.  Agorasexual?  Getting closer, I suppose.  Trysexual?  Absolutely - I'll try most things at least once, and having had sex with a woman and a transexual that would mean there was some trisexual activity as well.

Absolutes are the pathway to ridicule, scorn, hate, violence, etc.  When you realize that there are shades of grey in everything, you will become more accepting of those around you and yourself.

Concerns dealt with by most of us on this board.  When you are ready and feel you can deal with it, it's time to fulfill your fantasy. The fact that you don't act upon your urges will not change what's on your mind...

Referring to one of the previous emails, I don't like labels, but they are hard to avoid, especially among Trans folk. For me, it was a great relief to find, through the Internet, that I was not alone and my sexuality is not unusual. I am a TG and Bi.  Still, there are variations on sexuality since for my entire life I kept to the Straight side of the street and kept my fantasis for fun. Those were often about sex with a man.  From what I have learned I am not the only "straight" guy who finds himself thinking about how hot it would be to get one of those big things in his mouth, just like the women are able to do. With our current society busy respressing sexuality, it is no wonder men and women think outside the box as a result.  So for myself, the labels TG, TV, CD, Bi all had something for me. At least I could sort of identify myself as to sexual preferences.  

At this time I am questioning my sexuality and it is complcating my life even after decades of mixed up sexuality.

and stop worrying about labels... Technically, you are attracted to another man.... probably a very feminine man, maybe has long hair, tits and makeup, might have the emotional makeup of a woman, or wants to be a woman... but she is still technically a man, and so are you!  Go see a TS and have some fun.

your are gay!
tv & ts or men no matter what they say they feel like

I am not gay I am a freek. men do not do it for me however a feminine TS with a stick is one hot MF. I have no problem admitting it if I was but the truth is I am not. Sorry to disappoint all you armchair shrinks. I is a form of personal identification. Most TS don't think they are gay either. What a concept.

I am sitting across from a guy... I have nothing for him... the same guy dons a wig, makeup and stockings and I am on my knees... put him back in pants and I am instant soft-on... call it what you will... it's still gay.

You just don't get it,do you. The fact is the only persons opinion that counts in this discussion is MINE.

It means you are you. Asking this question however means you're an idiot.