LG, for the last couple of years, I've found it difficult to reach orgasm with a condom on, because of the decreased sensation. This isn't a problem when having sex with my girlfriend (since I don't wear a condom), but with providers, it is. As a result, I usually ask them to finish me off by hand (unless they do BBBJ).

I think my unit might have lost sensitivity due to all of the years of jerking off

OTOH, maybe it could be psychological, or just lack of chemistry with the provider, and I'm not turned on enough.

I'd love to get your opinion on this. Thanks.

Dear mark755,
It is so refreshing to see that Socrates' adage "gnothi se auton" [know thyself] is still a valid one! Yep, you're right on all counts...except I don't think your unit has become less sensitized due to jerking off. Some have speculated that age is another factor.

We've talked about this in other threads here. Try polyurethane condoms (beware, they can break easier) or Crown thin latex (the boys here seem to like'm) or switch to BBBJTCIM for the home run - or find a provider that totally blows your mind and your load!

Be good to your weewee, you've only got one,
the Love Goddess

I've had the exact same experience (except I know for sure that it has nothing to with my gorgeous provider). I take 50 mg of Viagra before our sessions, and I have heard reports that Viagra can make achieving orgasm more difficult. Should I try "holding out" for up to a week (instead of the usual two days), as you suggested in a previous post? God, that hasn't happened since I was 12!

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I'm in the same exact situation. Plus, I take 50 mg Viagra before seeing my provider. I've heard that Viagra can make orgasm more difficult. Should I "hold out" for a week before seeing her (as the LG suggested in a previous post) instead of my usual two days? God, that hasn't happened since I was 12!

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In this thread, you suggest the gentleman get a lady to finish him off with a BBBJTCCIM...but in the thread below: "Sucking cock", you say to that gentleman,

"Now, I just have one caveat - if you do decide to go through with this phantasy, PLEASE use a condom and DON'T suck up his semen. Here's my thought: can we guarantee that this man [who is willing to get his cock sucked] is a vanilla-type person, who isn't otherwise putting himself in risky sexual situations?".

My question; why is it ok, in your mind, for the providers who see this gentleman, who we do not know how "vanilla" he is (note he also willing to get his cock sucked *smirk*), and who freely admits he goes bareback with his GF (who we also don't know the "vanilla" status of) [quick aside...if G-d forbid the unthinkable happened and he caught something in the Hobby, he is assuring he will give it to his GF by going bareback with her], not only give BBBJ but TC and CIM...but for the gentleman in the thread below, you caution against doing the same, and suggest if he does do it he has the man wear a condom?

Why is ok for providers to do CIM and to your thinking safe in doing so (I assume you think it safe), but for another gentleman even if not to completion it is too risky a behavior?

Seems to me your statement,

"can we guarantee that this man is a vanilla-type person, who isn't otherwise putting himself in risky sexual situations?"
applies to clients as well. Providers don't know what a client does when he isn't with her,  but your advice seems to be that the ladies should just beleive the clients are clean and safe...or that if the clients aren't...it's OK for the providers to be at some kind of risk, but not for a client that is seeing a provider and thinking of doing a BBBJ?

Sorry, had to ask.

This is what "adambede" says in his posting:
"In my senario, I would not see the other guys face, nor he mine, would not hear him, and I dont have any interest at all in his pleasure, its more about her reaction."

This man (the cocksuckee) could have a visible chancroid sore from syphilis (unfortunately now prevalent in the homosexually active community) and adambede would be completely ignorant of that fact. Or, he could have a herpes blister and adambede wouldn't see it. I may be prejudiced and biased, but this is because I have seen the consequences of the behavior that goes on in bath houses, at group sex parties and other venues where sex between men is promoted. If the provider in question would ask such a man to get his cock sucked by adambede, then he is definitely at risk. Again, these are just my assumptions, but unless this particular dominatrix has several heterosexual, vanilla clients who would like to participate in the same game, WITH THEIR EYES OPEN, thank you, then I might not become so alarmed.

As for providers, they do take risks and there are no guarantees of course. But I would hope that any provider at least conducts a visual inspection of the area she's about to bone! And there are many providers who don't do BBBJs or TCIMs. But the risk factors for syphilis are way higher within the homosexual community than among heterosexual providers and their clients. Perhaps I should have been clearer and more specific about my concerns. Thank you for pointing this out though, so that I was able to clarify my thoughts.

Risk assessment always applies,
the Love Goddess

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I too have had problems reaching climax while under the cover.  When I was younger, my problem was the exact opposite; I basically defined myself as a "two pump chump".  In the last few years, however, I find myself lasting as long as 2-3 hours without losing my erection, but also without coming.

I am under 30, so I don't think age or physical agility is the issue and after reading several different articles on the issue, the only thing that I can reason is that the medication I am on, Paxil (an anti-depressant), is at least partially to blame.  And while it is rather nice to outlast the girl I am with, it is also embarrassing and difficult to explain this to the girl, and I often feel as though she thinks that there is something wrong with her.

eom

Try female condoms. I am 50 and think they're awesome. might take a bit to get used to the noise but they are not constricting and give you really good feel. Wish more ladies would bring them.