It used to be when I got in this hobby that it didnt take much stimulation ie. oral, position sex etc. to get me off. I do however, masturbate inbetween sessions at least 5-6 times per week. Now the only time I can cum with a SP if if I masturbate. Oral doesnt work, sex doesnt etc. Is too much masturbation ruining my sex life???

Why not give it a rest and see if you then enjoy sex with women again after that.

Thirty years ago, I had the same problem of coming very soon when I was with a provider, so I decided to masturbate a few hours before the meeting and then everything worked out great.

Now a days, it's just the opposite.  I need to refrain from masturbating for at least three days prior to a date in order to make sure I have enough mojo left for her.

Just the inevitability of the aging process.

Well, ddform,

It certainly is putting a crimp in your sexual style! Now, it would stand to reason that if you masturbate daily AND you're not 20 anymore, then yes, you may have an issue with your refractory period...since you are adding another sexual encounter on top of what you already are engaged in.

Another issue is that masturbation can become a sort of "psychologically conditioned response" to sexual stimuli. So when you're supposed to react "organically," the big head starts conflicting with the little one and WHAMMMO - it's like running into a wall. Of frustration, it seems.

How about this one: you could perform an experiment - no masturbation for a whole 60 days, and see what happens. Just let your entire organism decide on its own natural course. This means no self-stimulating thoughts, no girlie magazines or movies, and keeping both hands on top of the blankie like a good boy - until you meet up with a real, live female. There may be some initial delay the first couple of times, but once your body recovers its potential for ejaculating au naturel, you should be spurting all over the place again.

Let's hope it wurx,
the Love Goddess

The poor guy will explode so bad it will make the 6 PM news.

If there's a guy in the world, excepting those with medical conditions, who's lasted 60 days, I'd be surprised.

How about 6 days?

But perhaps I should have been clearer in my instructions. He should not masturbate for 60 days, but meet with as many females as possible during that time to get out from under the training wheels. What...me? Encourage hobbying?

LOL,
the Love Goddess

Being an oral specialist, I meet many guys who comes to me to make them cum orally, because they can't.

Some cannot even cum having sex, like you...and, most of the time, is due to too much manual handling.

Let's face it, no one knows your body better than yourself and the way you hold, pressure and manipulate your cock cannot be substituted after you develop a dependency on Rosie Palm.

You need to let Rosie go for a while and you need a patient lady (aware of your problem) to help you to break the cycle.

60 days? lol Love Goddess, that's plain torture for guys who masturbate more than once a day!

What about if he start to lay off Rosie for couple days, then go for four, then six and so on until he teaches his body to hold back?

When guys asked me how they can achieve multiple orgasms, I always tell them not to cum for few days before having sex, to get their balls full...and it works!

Yesterday, I had a guy who didn't have an oral orgasm in...20 years! All due to his dear Rosie.

Also, I can see that you are frustrated and probably get tense during sex because, in your head, you already have that "I can't cum" statement and it doesn't help you much either.

When you have sex, instead of worrying about "cumming", clear your mind and enjoy the foreplay, no matter if you cum or not. Explain to the girl that you might not finish, so she doesn't feel bad for not getting you off.

I hope this helps

The Virgin Islands.

He'll get a hero's welcome.  

If he makes it to 60 days, Jerry, George, Elaine and Kramer will all owe him $100 :o )

I used to never be able to cum during oral and could pretty much control when I would cum during sex.  Now, I can't cum during sex and can only cum when a certain lady gives me oral!!  OH, that damned Kennedy curse!!

this - (assuming you cannot go the Love Goddess suggested 60 cooling off period)-- switch hands. If you're like most of us, you probably use the same hand every time you feel the need to self administer resulting in your body expecting the exact same stimulation each time. By switching hands your johnson will experience a different sensation than it is used to, thus helping to break the cycle of dependency you've created using the same hand, same pressures, same stroking.

I have been down this road when I was a bit younger and found this worked out pretty well. First couple of times you'll be surprised how different it feels. I remember it taking longer than it usually did-- but the end result worked out just fine...but that's just me.

When I need to hold the computer mouse, I switch to the left to. . . you know. . . pleasure myself.

Between Betty and Love Goddess, these women have a store house of knowledge that could be a best seller book. They are both very intelligent and informative. I am fortunate that I live near Betty and I will not pass through this lifetime until I have seen her!!

actually I too like to masterbate now. I was offer a toy by a client and we picked one out online "the amthyst clit kisser" because I told him I never really got off on toys and prefferd the real thing. he exclaimed sometimes when you want, what you want, right then what do I do? wait for a call? I thought about it then we orderd the toy. now I find myself becoming lazy not wanting to have sex! I just want to cum again and again with my toy then fall fast asleep. Bad for business but now I feel I cant go with out it!!! what I did also notice is that the orgasms are coming slower and slower to achieve and sex is no longer making me cum without extra stimulation. Will I be able to get back in sync if I just throw away the toy or am I screwed?okay let me be honest I wont throw away the toy how can I fit them both in?