I just had my first lunch date with a POT. She was stunning, really gorgeous, great conversationalist, sweet and very friendly. I can tell that was very into me but, she was like 20 pounds heavier (curvy) Without those pounds she could easily be a 10, she was that beautiful. When we ended our date we made out for a while and told me that I was the guy she was looking for. Right now I don't know how to proceed, she is almost perfect but her body is not my type. Any thoughts?
I've been there myself and it sucks. I truly don't want to hurt a girl's feelings by telling her she's not my type or not attractive enough. But like you, I really am not attracted to chubby or heavier women. I assume that whatever pictures she posted or sent to you revealed her pretty face, but did not properly display her figure. That's a mistake on her part, It's actually deceitful, and it usually backfires. I mean, if I lie about my age and then show up looking very much as I do I wouldn't be surprised if a girls runs away! Might as well be really upfront about who and what you are before you waste time/emotions/money and get into an awkward situation. The simple fact is that she misrepresented herself to you. the fault is hers, not yours. My current practice is to ask for more pictures, and if they are not really clear, I'll ask for a full body, well lighted photo, wearing tight fitting clothing, no loose or baggy clothing. I never ask for lingerie or nudes, but we all know that chemistry is important. If a girl won't show you her figure, well, I pass. As for what you can do right now, that's a tough one since you are already in that situation. But I think you should find a kind way to end things and give her some really well meaning advice. I believe there's someone out there for everyone. She will find someone who likes her for who she is, as she is. But she needs to post or share some pictures that are accurate representations of her figure.
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Two approaches:
1 - What I usually do: Don't contact her... let her wait for days/weeks and see if she contacts you. If she doesn't, she already knows why. If she does, you can let her know that you were a bit surprised when you met her that her "pics turned out to be ... (and I mean take a long pause here)... somewhat old." Then see where she goes with it. Then it's up to you. You can steer her to BCD (perhaps with a lower allowance?), or let her off the hook by saying you don't think you two are a good match. Actually, I do this after any M&G where some significant aspect of the POT comes to light during the meeting.
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2 - What I did only once: She was a 24 year old porn star. I verified this by finding her scenes on the internet. But when I met her, she was at least 35 lbs heavier than her weight when she was shooting porn at 19-21 years old. Her pics did not show her full body. My bad for not asking for additional pics. We had dinner, got along, discussed some specific kinks I'd always wanted to try and she enthusiastically agreed. I discounted the extra weight at the time in the hope that her BCD techniques and the kink request would override any size issues. I was wrong. After I dropped a load in her open mouth, I toweled off, handed over her allowance as I guided her out my front door, and never contacted her again. So, plus one to my official "Porn Stars Fucked" score, but minus 300 to my "Passed on the Chubby Chick" score.
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I drove 50 miles to meet a POT. She was not what I had visioned. Pictures were deceiving and she looked heavy a little in the photos but in person a whole lotta woman. Very big girl.
So I did what comes naturally. I needed a bj. Drove her out to
The middle of nowhere. Pulled my pants down and told her to suck it. She did and what a great job she did because she was rewarded With a protein shake. Creamy white.
We talked for a minute and she asked me to fuck her. I’m like “oh baby somehow my back got all twisted I can barely move.” She’s tried to contact me since,I’ve ghosted her.
Not my type but got a bj. You could do that.
If she contacts you, just tell her that after having dinner with her, you're just not feeling that "special connection". You don't need to go into the whole misrepresentation thing. She knows that she doesn't look like her former self.
If you're not attracted to her, then move on. Why waste time and money?
Exactly. You were fishing when you met her, but she turned out to be catch and release. No need to be rude or crude, just say that you don't feel the connection you're looking for, and good luck with their search. I tend to be wary of the profiles with head shots only, or the almost always deceiving camera angle of over the head looking down the body.
But others of course are free to disagree, fat broads need love and money too. lol
My advice is fuck her if you want to and don't fuck her if you don't. If you do the answer is easy of course, just do it. If you don't want to fuck her the answer is also pretty easy, just "don't" do it (Sorry Nike. lol) You can either lose her number, IOW ghost on her like most SB's do to guys that they aren't interested in, OR you could take the mature way out and as has been suggested just drop her a quick text saying that you don't think you two are a match, for BOTH your sakes don't go into a lot of detail, it won't end well. The less said when rejecting someone the better, do you REALLY want to get into a conversation about WHY you aren't a fit?
Only YOU know if you can get past the weight issue, personally it's an issue I can't get past, I have three rules that almost everyone on TER knows. "no viejas, no feas y no gordas" words to live by lol
This will come across as a little crass, but just being honest. In the bowl, the SD (or a SM) is a buyer. We know what we want, what we may consider and want we don’t want. If you want a 20-24 year old thin blonde with a large chest you may consider a 25 year old thin brunette with a large chest, but you will not consider a 33 year old average blond with an average chest.
Something to consider #1: In the next two months she could lose the extra 20 lbs or a fair portion of it. If you blow her off now, she’ll likely not reply to you later when you really want her because she’s your 10. So, be open and honest with her. Maybe she’ll ask you to help with her exercises!?!
Something to consider #2: Where is the extra 20 lbs? If it’s all in the butt – it’s going to stay. If it’s in the stomach, it will likely take longer to go away – patience is needed but if successful patience could be rewarded. If it’s evenly spread over her whole body so that she’s still proportional – is it a problem? If it’s all in her chest – is it a problem?
If you really want to see her if she loses the extra 20 or are willing to meet time to time if she mentions she’s working to drop the extra weight, would suggest saying something like: “…the vibe just did not feel right. Maybe in a week we can try again? Maybe it was just nervousness or …” This way if she drops the weight you’re still there ahead of anyone else.
Once you ghost or otherwise piss her off, if she remembers you the chance of meeting her if she becomes your 10 are likely 0% unless you go WAY over budget. Worse she could play you to make you waste your time.
You could do what I did after I had dinner with a girl, who obviously texted me photochopped pics, and I could tell when I saw her walk in the door that she was born with a dick -- and had it cut off -- so I told her my ex-girlfriend texted me on the way to meet her and while I was committed to do the polite thing and follow-through with our date, but I decided to get back together with with my ex as we have a lot of history.
How do you know she had a dickectomy? She might still have her dick....
