Something has frustrated me for years when having sex with my SO.

Typically she has already had a clitoris organism before I enter.  Either from my hand or tongue.  When I enter she acts like she feels little or nothing.

Sometimes she says I took too long to enter (2 - 5 seconds?) Other times she has commented that the clit was for her and the penetration is for me.

Even after an O shouldn't the ride still feel good for her?  At least mildly enjoyable? She typically is very wet from the org and/or astroglide, the intercourse isn't painful for her.

Clearly I'm not a stud, but isn't the penetration supposed to feel good for the woman?

I have some news for you, Spadeaspade,

Your SO is as normal as they come. Only about 25% of all women reach orgasm through exclusive vaginal penetration. And that's because it feels good in the first 3rd of the vaginal canal. The rest can only orgasm through clitoral stimulation. Some have theorized that it's the distance between clitoris and vaginal opening that is the culprit; others have stated that the clitoral system with all its far-reaching nerve endings, much like a penis, is where it's at, and that the vagina itself largely lacks the moxie that the clit is famous for.

Should the ride feel good for her after an O? Does it for you? I'd venture to say that most guys don't feel much after an O, unless you count extra sensitivity that veers toward unpleasant rather than awesome. Well, many women are pretty much the same. After they're done orgasming, they don't necessarily want to dig around in their genital area - they need a break.

If you want your SO to feel better about penetration, then maybe go look for her G-spot. You can do it manually (see instructions), or you can try to hit it if she's in cowgirl position.

Now if that is not what she wants, then you may wish to play with her clit just a little, hold it before orgasm, penetrate, get your rocks off and go back to her clit for a rousing finale. You could also penetrate doggie style while playing with her clit. Get a vibrator and experiment. Clit and vagina can be stimulated concurrently, it just takes a little finagling.

Have fun trying it all out,
The Love Goddess

I thought one of the big plusses of being a gal was the opportunity to experience these.

Now you seem to imply that MOs are not very common.

Many of the gals I see sure do an excellent impression of them, that's for sure.

FWIW....it takes a lot of hard work to get a woman to orgasm vaginally. It's damn near impossible, but it can happen, if the gal is in the correct frame of mind and only after a lot of oral and sexual foreplay. Once you've been able to accomplish this fete with a woman, she'll never let you go.
 

My SO has never had a vaginal orgasm and, believe me, I've spent a lot of time with oral and sexual foreplay. A former ATF sometimes could be in double digits by the time we were finished. Two ends of the spectrum.

And, no, they weren't faked. Unless lots of squirting can be faked easily, too.

...it must be said again, every single woman is different. i have never had an orgasm from direct clitoral stimulation...in fact i find merely having my clitoris touched or fussed with in any way to be quite irritating and sometimes painful. and for reasons both psychological and physical, i loathe receiving oral sex. i repeat, LOATHE.

but good old-fashioned PIV intercourse i absolutely love, and though i orgasm rarely (just no desire to frankly), that is the only way for it to happen. orgasm or no, i don't care. but happily thrust and pound away, leave my poor little clit alone, and i'm a very happy girl.

My wife is one of those rare cases who almost always orgasms vaginally.  I know where her spot is so it's easy for me to hit over and over again.  I have been able to make her cum from clitoral stimulation, but she generally gets off on the penetration.

With woman I've had experiences with it would seem that the mental aspect of sex is just as important as the physical when it comes to orgasms.  For instance, a woman who holds a grudge or feels neglected in other parts of her life by her SO may have a very hard time having an orgasm if at all.  For some women, that exact circumstance can also be seen as a turn on in a strange twisted way (see: grudge fuck).  Reading your partner is one of the most important things.  If she seems unresponsive try being tender and affectionate rather than mechanically pounding the crap out of her.  It increases the hormones that are responsible for that "loving feeling" which will help pique her sexual side.

My ATF averages three or four orgasms during an appointment but none are achieved vaginally.  Pacing is very important.  She can have a couple in a row but then she needs a bit of recovery time before I can stimulate her clit again. Sometimes we don't even bother with penetration at all since I can't really finish wearing a condom.

I have been with a few providers who had multiple orgasms but they have always been achieved with oral stimulation.

Most Women are great actors when it comes to faking orgasms. The only way, I know of, to tell if her vaginal orgasm is real or fake is if she has strong pulsating vaginal contractions.

Okay, so maybe I haven't been with a lot of women, but they were all capable of vaginal orgasms. I thought that was how it worked.

Have I somehow been unusually lucky?

Out of around twenty or so women I've had somewhat regular sex with in the past ten years or so, Only two seem to have had vaginal orgasms (If indeed they were real and not fakes, which is a possibility.) versus most of the others who came from clitoral stimulation (almost always as a result of cunilingus.)

In fact, I've know three gals who come from anal penetration.

What does this tell us?