Had 4 dates scheduled.  2 with returning SBs 2 first dates.

Friday night, my 32 y/o Korean living in DTLA.  She doesn't drive but hosts.  We dated a while back and hooked back up.  3rd date back.  She texts, let's just order a pizza and stay in tonight.  It's a Friday so pizza took over an hour.  She asked once I get there if I wanted sex now or later?  We stayed naked through two movies.  She said she considered me her boyfriend.  Later this week texted me that she didn't feel that way.  I think she's getting feelings and getting nervous.  So we will see.

Saturday, first date with another Korean.  24 and trying to get into law school.  She said she doesn't have sex on the first date.  I told her no expectations other than dinner and conversation for both of us is fine.  Great dinner, walk around, dessert, and a kiss goodnight.  She said she was close to coming over.  She's ghosted since.  So, maybe busy, maybe expected a gift for dinner.

Sunday. GCG, green card girl.  Drove to San Diego and picked her up at the border.  Got a Day Use hotel on downtown.  We had lunch, drinks and sex.  She agreed to bare on a second date because she only wants to see me.  I told her when she deletes her seeking account in front of me I'll believe it.  She said one or two more dates of us being consistent and she will.  She's making it very clear she wants a boyfriend and a monthly allowance.  Which her needs are far lower than American women.  

Monday was supposed to be a first date.  23 y/o latina with an amazing body, huge natural rack.  She had to cancel.  So we rebooked for Friday lunch.  I have to be in DTLA near her Friday morning so we can meet for lunch.  She's already agreed to my place after.  She promised me some cute pics to make up for it which haven't happened yet.

So far GCG is hitting all the right notes.  She's fluent in English and wants a career that works in the US.  So, not giving off the gold digger vibes.  But definitely giving off the using a guy as a launch pad for a few years vibes.  Which, let's be honest, we wish more SBs would get their shit together.

Seems like despite all our challenges with scammers, catfishes, and absurd site rules there is still gold in them thar hills!  

 
Thanks for sharing the play by play. For those who may be new here, this is a useful view into how the sausage is made (or sucked? LOL) in the Sugar Bowl.  For those who have been in the 'Bowl for a while, it's also a good reminder that hard work to contact, negotiate, meet, and charm POT's pays off at some point.  

 
A few questions, please:  
1. For the dates set up as lunch with an option, were you offering some or full allowance if BCD did not happen?  
2. Sounds like you have serious chops finding day-use rooms. Are you pre-selecting these or using an app as the need arises?  

 
Also, I've had SB's who want to call us real life BF/GF, and I don't mind that at all. But I've always known that if I suggested that "real" couples don't need allowance, she'd bail. And I've also known that being a real couple means monogamy (unless you have cracked the ENM or Poly code) with them.  Are you getting that "monogamy" vibe from your Korean and/or GCG SB's?

 
Life is good

 
The Cat

Here's an answer to your question, I do not offer anything other than to pay for the meal.  If we 'start the arrangement ' she will get full allowance.  I have. Several times, given something for gas, time, etc if we hit it off and I felt like she has potential for a second date.  But I am not obligated.  

On Day Use, I have only booked them in advance when it's someone consistent.  So, my GCG and I really like the Margheritaville hotel so we will try that one for now.  But may go over to Coronado for a day trip.

K Girl acts like a gf.  She wants to be but I think is afraid to.  She told me a long time ago she had her heartbroken once and is afraid to fall for someone again.  Seems to be very common in younger women.

GCG is very clear she wants a boyfriend who supports her.  She's open to monogamy but still logs into seeking.  I was very clear, if she wants a commitment she will delete her account in front of me.  I want to see it because she could just block me where I can't see her account and have her lie about it being deleted.