I'm finding myself having to go at it twice during a one hour session as a good blowjob or handjob can get me to cum pretty damn fast right off the bat. Obviously the second go around doesn't feel as good as the first so the sex isn't as good after that. Does anyone have any tips on how to last longer with your initial load?

(Don't suggest jacking off right before the session because that defeats the purpose, I'd do that with a SO I'm trying to pleasure but not for a service I'm paying for to feel pleasure myself)

Dear james2389,

Very interesting. Generally, I would not suggest for someone to masturbate before a session - that just defeats the purpose altogether. Remember, we are following an evolutionary approach to sex here. Hence, live females is what we want - at all times if possible, haha.

Now your issue: First of all, if you know that you ejaculate with a handjob or a blowjob, then abstain from those for the first time. IMHO, those should go second. So the sequence would be:

1. You stimulate her as much as possible, eat her out, etc.
2. You stick it in and go at it. If you find yourself nearing the point of inevitability, STOP, pull out your penis, think of your bank balance [ha!] and then enter again. If you find the interruption in sexy mood too distracting, then just slow down and lie there with your penis inside her for a while, then start up again.
3. Barnstorm to finish, then relax.

For the SECOND time, then do a handjob or a blowjob. You may also mention this issue to the provider. If she is a pro, she'll understand and refrain from too much initial stimulation.

Now I know that some believe that you should masturbate, stop-start, stop-start and learn to last longer that way. I'm generally not a fan of this method, as it can truly create situational delayed ejaculation when the time really comes with a woman. I'd rather suggest to do "other things" with the woman before penetration, and then enlist her as a source of help. If you find that you come almost immediately upon entering her, then take it really slow and do the stop-start WITH the woman. That's how Masters and Johnson worked it with the preemies and it does work if both parties are dedicated to it. The Seamans squeeze can work too. Pull out, hold your penis right under the glans and squeeze it with your thumb and index finger.

Your issue may just be that you're eating dessert before the main course. The second time around can be just as much fun as the first - sometimes even more explosive and draining - you just have to make sure that you get enough of the old in-and-out the first time around.

Enjoy experimenting,
The Love Goddess

you've got be clear about the nature of this sport.

The lady is there to please *you*. You have compensated her for her time and effort.

You are not there to be a stud or to prove anything.

Leave your ego, and thus your performance anxiety at the door, and just let yourself enjoy the experience.

Ladies *like* it when they don't have to work too hard to make you cum or worry about whether you will nor not....

And if you cum "early" in the session, enjoy a fresh round of foreplay and a build up to a second go-round.

Two pops in a visit is a way to get your "moneys worth" in my view lol.....

I'm looking for the opposite. I'm trying to find a way to climax as quick as possible after penetration so that I don't lose my erection! Oh, to be young again.

I'm with someone for the first time, especially if they are very different from the usual gals I see.

There's something about novelty that titilates.

what happened to what ever happens between 2 people is ther choice?? Ive paid my money to her if I want to eat,talk,or maybe not have sex ?? is that wrong ?? maybe my pleasure is holding it a long !!

... many years ago, I trained myself using the masturbation technique in a book by a lady sex expert. And it certainly worked -- I could screw for hours without having an orgasm.

But real women in the real world don't usually want to be screwed for hours. (*chuckle*)

It took me a couple of years to be able to reliably orgasm within a reasonable time-frame; and even that time frame may be a bit much for some.

So, based on my experience, you are giving darned good advice on this one!

Your statement contradicts itself. You didn't rent a rubber fuck doll for an hour you booked time with another human being.  Believe it or not, most women DON'T consider an hour of relentless pounding of their pussy to be a good time. So what you are actually saying is that it's what YOU want, not what both parties want.

Oh, you will most likely get what you want from the lady...once.

This thought had never occurred to me, but my experience backs up your observation. Yesterday I saw a new lady, and time-to-completion was appropriate and effortless. My two previous encounters had been with regulars, and I had problems closing the deal with both of them. In both cases, they had to take a break and re-group before getting me to the finish line. I felt badly for them, and that probably didn't help the situation.

awe heck, you fellows have broken the code ..... lol   .... as a provider ... i'm relieved if to get thru that first nut quickly ... especially if its a first date.  as long as they dont pack up and leave immediately .... then it makes me think i got cooties or something.  seriously, i ont know that all the gals feel like i do, but I'm an entertainer and i want to know that the fellow had a good time.  that is usually demonstrated by the fellow having an orgasm.  the sooner thats out of the way, the more relaxed i am actually, and seconds are always on my menu ... just my style

I'll agree with that. First time with someone is almost always quick for the first one. Also happens with a lady I don't get a real connection with. A good GFE that I connect with, I will last longer, probably because there is more of other kinds of stimulation going on as well. My favs usually end up as one pop because we naturally do what LG was suggesting- stop and start while with her. I made sure my ATF knew that if I don't cum right away, or by chance at all it was not a failing on her part, but more a compliment in a way, because it meant we where more compatible.

Fitness is always the best bet:

It's the sure-fire way to go:

http://health.discovery.com/centers/sex/exercise/exercise_02.html

http://www.askmen.com/dating/love_tip_60/67_love_tip.html

http://exercise.about.com/cs/exercisehealth/a/sexandexercise.htm

http://www.webmd.com/video/better-sex-exercises

http://fitness.suite101.com/article.cfm/how_exercise_improves_sex

http://www.bodybuilding.com/fun/bbinfo.php?page=SexAndRelationships

http://www.mothernature.com/Library/Bookshelf/Books/43/36.cfm

http://www.bodybuilding.com/fun/bbinfo.php?page=SexAndRelationships

So, does it mean the ones who are bored to death unless being pounded really ARE nymphos?
When I find a handsome specimen I always think, "I could suck your cock for the whole damn hour"

I even had a young guy ask me if the ladies were giving him too much head so he would come to fast when he had sex with them.
I said, "no, honey we don't do it like that" rotflmao
I explained that we don't give bbbj out of dislike or to trick him in some sinister way.
I told him to just tell her he prefers penetration.

For me, it's hard to balance the fear that the guy isn't coming because I am doing something wrong with making him come sooner than he wanted ( over stimulating him). I hope that makes sense.

Why do men think we don't want to have sex for an hour. To me it's like , ONLY one hour.
I try to tell clients that an hour goes by faster than you think and we should concentrate on fitting in everything we wanted to try instead of chatting ( gossiping).
You don't ever know if you will ever see that person again the rest of your life so you have to take that opportunity to see what you can get into or see the amount of energy you can raise through sexual sensation in that particular amount of time.