How near to you does a SB need to be to  seem like a reasonable distance to travel?  Actually, distance is not the limiting factor, it's time.  For me, driving 15 miles is only an easy 15 minute cruise on a highway.  But as Herb and others have often said, driving 15 miles in LA is a huge, annoying expedition, possibly not worth the trouble.  So how far afield do you search and how long are you willing to drive to see a regular? I browse my location plus 100 miles which lets me see the nearby city with colleges.  But the great majority of my dates are about 50 miles away, which is under an hour of easy freeway driving.  Does an hour, each way, seem like a little or a lot to you?

For those of us in cities or metro areas, we need to consider the time it takes for the initial M&G. Given that we still don't know if the M&G will result in anything, I try to limit this to 30 minutes driving.. and need to consider traffic and the dreaded Beltway. I don't like driving long distances, and I can take public transit to meet someone if she's downtown.
My SBs will generally come to my place for the act. In some cases I need to consider the Uber fare, and it's more than a $40 average each way it can add up (considering tips and surge pricing). My latest SB had a car and was fine with driving, and I gave her some extra $$ for gas and parking.
The DC area is fairly unique in that you have a good idea about the SB based on the neighborhood. I like the gals who live close to the center since they tend to be well educated and aware of what's going on in the world. You can always find gems elsewhere, but it gets a bit trashier as you go further away.

I might very well drive an hour for a knockout SB who treats me like a king, but otherwise 30 mins is about max for me. I just met a POT who will be a new SB and she lives 40 mins away with no traffic. She is willing to drive to me if I pay for gas. I think the difference is I don't enjoy driving much anymore and it doesn't bother her.

'Mouche shares my philosophy on this, as you pointed out, Papa Sweet.  

 
I will double down on one more logistics problem with driving into a metro area; parking.  

 
Parking is, well, awful in far too many places across Los Angeles. So after a 45-minute (but 17 mile) drive you may end up taking 20 minutes to find a parking space. Or you may have to pay $20+ per hour for parking. Or you may have to walk 20 minutes to the M&G or BCD when there is no parking available nearby.  

 
True story - sadly: I once ended up driving an hour, then when I could not find a place to park nearby, called an Uber to take me from a supermarket parking lot to the strip mall coffee shop location of a M&G.  That was a one-time experience because - fuck that! Now I carefully scrutinize M&G locations for nearby parking before I suggest a location to a POT. And of course, I won't pay for an Uber to take her to the M&G, though I may and have done so for subsequent BCD dates.  

 
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I will drive an hour for a M&G, but I try to schedule them on days I'm already driving to the city for a BCD date with an established SB.  That way it's not an extra trip. As for SBs coming to my place, I currently have 3 who will do so on occasion.  And it's an hour trip for them, each way.  When that happens, I always consider myself extremely fortunate to have choice grade-A pussy special delivered right to my door!  Life doesn't get much better!

It's just not an issue here.  I guess that's a benefit of living in Siberia!

I hear ya! I really love driving, but if I didn't, I'd be in big trouble.  If I only drive 30 minutes all I'll have are lizards and prarie dogs!

Normally, if I'm driving an hour, in LA, in ok with it.  But many girls here don't drive.  So I'm either driving an hour each way to take her to my place, then back, or getting a hotel.  I'm clear that if I'm driving close to 4 hours I expect lots of time together and sex.  If she's driving to me a long distance, I und wanting a higher allowance.

Current main SB lives in Tijuana.  She crosses to see me in San Diego.  2 hours each way.  I get a cheap hotel.  But we spend the full day together.  Great sex.  She doesn't need to be wined and dined.  Some dinners are literally Jack in the Box.  I bring flowers, $15 worth each date.  She texts me everyday.  We do video dates each week.  She knows I'm not rich but I'm wealthy enough to take care of her while she's back in school.  

Other SB wants $600.  She drives to me an hour each way.  Always wants a pricey dinner and she drinks a lot. 1-2 rounds of sex, fun conversation.  But then bounces.  

Part time SB, 10/10  in looks.  Doesn't drive so I have to drive to her and back to me twice.  Wants $800 now.  Will spend the entire day and let me fuck her as much as I can get it up.  So we hang out maybe once a month.

Beginning of Rant:  

You pinged a real issue with SB's in the greater LA county area. Unlike metros like New York, Chicago, or even San Francisco, you just cannot be successful here without a car.  As you point out, and I have suggested as well in the past, if your SB does not have a car, you can expect your time-spend and cash-spend to increase from 30-60% over the negotiated allowance. And that's before your spend on non-BCD stuff like dinners.  

 
People who move here from other cities/states just don't understand, or even believe, how important it is to have a car.  Not having a car has many adverse effects. It limits your ability to find and keep a job. It actually costs more once you factor in daily Uber/Lyft costs, or the time and uncertainty of using a bus or relying on friends for rides.  Inevitably, those 20-ish fresh off the bus/plane/boat haven't researched transportation issues in city that has one of the worst public transit systems of most metros. Add to make things worse, they all seem to think they can find a cheap AND SAFE apartment anywhere. Instead, they end up renting in really bad areas downtown ("I live in Hollywood" is not a flex!) with no easy access to fresh food, health care, and other critical services.  

 
Imagine if getting you to her, or getting her to you, costs 50% of her total allowance. That makes a $400 PPM cost $600 when you end up paying $85+tip for an Uber both ways.  

 
I know I sound like I'm whining. I am.  But I'm, also practicing good budget (as well as good dick) discipline.  

 
In some ways, Papa Sweet has an ADVANTAGE living in Pussy Siberia. He may need to drive an hour each way, but his SB's understand the significance of that and he carefully optimizes his time by planning M&G's with BCD sessions, and other multi-tasking ideas. And honestly, I'll speculate that every one of us would prefer that one-hour drive on the open highway over that one-hour slog through bumper-to-bumper traffic jams.

 
Ok! End of Rant.  

 
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The Cat

I'm in San Diego and it's like a junior LA re traffic and parking. Now that we are broke as a city the city decided to stick parking meters on just about every street with businesses. Add to that limited parking lots and it's getting ridiculous. Hence, I take the bus when going to certain parts of the city with crap parking. I even went to a M&G on the bus. It's just so much easier and I have zero resistance to using them as I was raised in the UK and used busses all the time everywhere then. I don't tell people I do it because they are so judgy about it.

This is me not judging you.  

 
The bus and by extension the Metro/train system have improved the status quo in some parts of LA, but certainly not all. The reality here is that taking the bus still takes 2x-3x longer than driving, even in heavy traffic. I had a B-List SB offer to take a bus to me from Korea Town (definitely NOT a good area).  The 21-mile trip took her 4 hours on a Sunday. She had to take 4 different buses, requiring walking a half mile between #1 and #2, and 3 and 4 were 30-40 minutes late. Driving to her and coming back would have been 45-minutes each way, which is still longer than I'm willing to do.  

 
One of my SB's is happy to take the bus from Hollywood to the stop a block from my house. But:  
1. I agreed to pay $105 for her monthly bus pass (still better than $90x2 per BCD for Uber)
2. The weekend schedules are lighter than weekdays and the "on-time" rates are around 65%. So if we are meeting on a weekend, I'll cover the Uber rather than wait an extra 2-hours for her arrival.  

 
I'm pretty sure the only reason she readily agrees to this is she grew up in South Africa and then lived in NY before moving to LA. So taking the bus is not stigmatized for her.  

 
An SB who grew up in the US, and especially in a city like LA, would find the idea insulting: .  
"WTF Im not taking a bus 2 u from bev hills. send a town car or ur 2 cheap to be my daddy"  
And then she blocks you before you reply. LOL  

 
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The Cat