I have a date Wednesday with my ATF. I'm in my 50's with ED. Levitra usually works for me. I'm wondering if it would be better to jerk off the day before my hot date in order last longer or abstain all together a few days before in order to have a full "load" and maybe even get 2 pops.

Somebody on the Atlanta board said that love goddess said to quit masturbating all together if you suffer from ED...is that true ?

Egads, Traveling Salesman,

The rumor mill, the rumor mill! What I do recommend is no masturbation for 30 days if people suffer from RE, not ED - RE being retarded ejaculation.

As to your specifics, I think the second option you are pondering may be a nice plan - saving yourself completely for a couple of days to get a nice "full" load. Then again, every body is different, literally.

I'm sorta advocating being as "natural" as possible, meaning that if your body "wants" to come when it does, don't stop it. Many a times, men masturbate in order to "last longer," with the result that they go and go and go and never orgasm OR ejaculate..and that's difficult for both parties in the end. Not to mention that Rosy Palm becomes your friend to such an extent that when you're faced with a RG (real girl,) it's such a different behavioral pattern that it does flummox the penis and puts it "on hold."

So, if you're comfortable with abstaining from playing with yourself for a few days before the event, with the possibility that you may blow a nice big one...then do that. But hey, I'm not in your body...and ultimately, you'll need to go with what feels best FOR YOU.

Enjoy it when it happens,
the Love Goddess

I abstain for two days before a date.  I am 50 and take Viagra. I am very happy with the results of doing things this way. Last night I produced waaaaay more than a full load. My ATF's exact words were "what a mess!" as she gleefully cleaned me up!

I can't speak to the issue of a second pop as I'm really way too relaxed during a two hour session to think about a second pop. I can't see how abstinence would hurt your chances at a second pop.

I abstain several days, the number varies, before meeting a prdovider.  I'm not looking for a full load, but rather increased sensitivity, since the one-eyed trouser snake has not been handled for a while.

Since I have trouble popping in a party hat, it seems to work better for me to do it this way.  I think anticipation of the pop makes a difference too.

Swim

Regarding guys who masturbate before a date.

We don't try to do your job - so why are you trying to do ours?  Giggle.

Seriously, I think you deny yourself AND your provider from pleasure when you do.  As providers we get our pleasure from your satisfaction.

So relax and enjoy the ride baby!

Have fun, play safe.
TS Jamie

Addemdum:  If you have issues with either slow release or pre-mature ejaculation, the best thing is to discuss it with your provider in advance and make appropriate arrangements.  That way she can perhaps offer multiples or be prepared to spend the time required to achieve results.  It can be a very pleasurable experience either way when everyone knows what to expect.

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So far i'm at 10+ days of refraining. I started right at the end of Jan. Then the end of this month or early March it's pounding time! Wish me luck

I too tread in that 5th decade.  While I don't have ED, I have played with the Big 3 ED meds in conjunction with various combinations of abstaining in terms of a hands-off policy beforehand.  My experimentation (for which I received a well deserved virtual spanking from LG for playing with these drugs w/o a doc's care and script) was all based on my search for that elusive second pop.

My lessons learned:

- ED drugs are made for erectile problems and not second pops.  Oh yes indeed they produce wood from which you can hang a hat on it and sometimes they pop back much more quickly.  But that has nothing to do with a reload of the cannons.

- Recovery time between rounds when measured as second pops and not second erections, is clearly a product of age, health and genetics and frequency of ejaculation is going to be a factor of some individualized time parameter based on these three things.  If your particular ejaculation recovery time is let's say 5 hours then ED drugs and/or previous days masturbation abstinence are not likely going to shorten that cycle.

-  Intensity of orgasms likely ebb and flow without deference to frequency of my prior ejaculations.  I find sometimes that the more often I fire the guns the better each succeding shot is.  Other times the most rousing shots occur after a 2 or 3 day lay-off period.  This to me is a very inconsistent biological observation for me of myself as I age.  My guess is that as my testosterone levels change within a given month then I notice such differences in parallel with these current levels.

So track your own body reactions in conjunction with your medically supervised use of Levitra.  You might find that a couple of days off increases your O intensity and possibly your ability to pop twice in a shorter amount of time than usual.  However I tend to think that if you normally need X amount of time before you can shoot again then you will need X amount of time regardless of the ED drugs and prolonged hold-off from masturbation. The most likely sure benefit of holding off is that you will probably go to your appointment in a very horny state.

...and then you'll worry about firing the guns a bit too quickly and perhaps find yourself with natures cruel joke on me, i.e with a new and beutiful strange woman I can fire as fast as any 14-year old at times if I'm not careful but for the life of me I can't put my finger on how long it takes before another complete round.  And craziest of all is the fact that I am 100% satisfied after my single shot but my freaking mind tells me that I am with a beautiful woman and I should be diving in again simply because she is willing and Lord knows that's what I would have done in the not too distant past.

As Mick and the boys sang, 'What a drag it is getting old'.  However I count my lucky stars as often as I can remember because somewhere there is a guy who would love to only have my issues...              

         



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will absorb much better than meat protein which requires the break down and reassembling in a absorbable state..when you plan alot of sex, take 2 zinc in the a.m. and two at noon, and also take a extra e 4 hrs before sex. and drink and extra protein drink 2 hrs before..see what happens.. and order the products from Shaklee.net website .. you can use ch10411 as the member code and get a nice discount..