The Erotic Highway

Thoughts about the current state of SA
sweetman 93 Reviews 2135 reads
posted
1 / 26

Many of us here have noticed and commented on what appears to be a widespread degradation in the sugar bowl.  SA seems populated by so many more unworthy profiles: scammers, GPS, content sellers, online onlies, geographically remote,etc.  Especially in the smaller markets where there's never been a huge abundance of SBs, even in the best of times, it's become exceedingly difficult to find any who actually want what we here would recognize as a worthwhile arrangement.

I think there's a change in SA's policy that explains it all.  If you recall, back before the pandemic, it was strictly against SA policy to offer or request an online only arrangement. Indeed, an online arrangement is a contradiction in terms. You could get banned from the site for suggesting it.  There was clear language forbidding online only requests plus an admonition to report anyone offering online only. The understanding was that a genuine sugar arrangement involved a SD and a SB enjoying meetings and getting together, the details and terms of which were up to the people involved.

Unfortunately when the pandemic appeared, meeting irl suddenly became a death defying stunt.  SA was faced with a dilemma.  Continuing the ban on online arrangements would have pretty much killed the site.  So quietly, and without any fanfare, they stopped banning online arrangement requests and offers.

The result was predictable.  A huge influx of wanna be SBs who offer to sell content, offer online only arrangements, want to start off by selling pics and vids before possibly moving to meetups later on, etc.  It has emboldened many more unsolicited contacts from women out of the area or out of the country, because they honestly think men are here to give them money for pictures.  

Those of us on this board are the canaries in the coal mine.  We are among the first to actually notice the deteriorating atmosphere on SA. If the situation persists long enough, I think SA will lose its value as a workable place to meet honest, potential sugar babies.  Perhaps other sites will pick up the slack.  But I think the only way for SA to regain its previous status and value is to once again ban any offer or request for online only arrangements.

bassrat51 4 Reviews 74 reads
posted
2 / 26

Jeez sweet, what you want to kill off the competition (other elderly men, not in the best of health) by subjecting them to young nubile ladies that are just carriers of COVID? LOL Of course they allowed online only and the Only Fans crowd.  They needed to keep their income!  LOL

herbtcat 6 Reviews 67 reads
posted
3 / 26

Or at least become a user-selected filter.  

 
As the pandemic subsides and life returns towards (but may not ever actually arrive at ) "normal," SA will need to re-evaluate this policy under the light of revenue impact, loss impact (from SD's who demand refunds), reputation loss, and legal exposure if so-called pros more openly use the site to connect with SD's then do bait and switch to straight up prostitution "off site" though vehicles like Only Fans, Snapchat, Twitter, etc.  

 
I'd also keep an eye on federal and local state legislation and policy changes over the next 3-8 years. FOSTA/SETSA opponents are only just starting to see cracks in BS conflation between trafficking and consensual sex work worlds. And we now are seeing major metro areas moving closer to decriminalizing, or at least no prosecuting prostitution.  

 
NOT looking for a political debate here - there's a different board for that. I'm just saying that SA is going to be continuously monitoring (perhaps even lobbying?) the changes in legislation, and policies across all jurisdictions.  Their policies and practices will change over time to ensure they stay alive and grow revenue and profit - just like any other company.  

 
Now whether any of us old fuckers will still be alive to see these changes take place... that's a different question! LOL  

 
Life is good

 
The Cat  

lester_prairie 12 Reviews 69 reads
posted
4 / 26

Ashley Madison is a complete sausage fest and it remains in business, so I am not as convinced SA will turn around.  It is more important for them to have the appearance of a wide selection of women.  Whether any hook ups occur has a lot less impact on subscriptions.  Ashley Madison runs robots to fool guys into thinking there are any women.  SA can allow scammers, online only, etc, because it increases the number of apparent available women.  

sweetman 93 Reviews 59 reads
posted
5 / 26

What, you mean they're motivated by money???  Who knew!

sweetman 93 Reviews 65 reads
posted
6 / 26

I hope you're right and things do change organically. As to whether we'll be around to see it, my personal plan is to live forever.  So far so good!

sweetman 93 Reviews 84 reads
posted
7 / 26

I hate rational well thought out arguments that contradict my fantasies. Quit that Lester!

sweetman 93 Reviews 94 reads
posted
8 / 26

Don't forget that on SA we, the men, are the paying customers.  Not the women.  Allowing lots of unworthy profiles from women onto the site degrades the experience for us. I know of at least one SD friend of mine who has become so disenchanted with the unproductive nature of SA these days that he's decided to not renew his paid membership.  And I can't imagine he's the only one.  Surely at some point SA would have to notice that men are not renewing and that their income was falling.  What good does it do SA if they post zillions of free profiles for women and nearly none for men?  At some point SA should realize they need to make their policies more likely to attract paying memberships, ie us men.  And the first change I'd suggest is disallowing any mention of online arrangements, selling content, only fans, etc.  

lester_prairie 12 Reviews 94 reads
posted
9 / 26
mthomas620 61 Reviews 86 reads
posted
10 / 26

TBH, over the last few weeks (at least in my region), I’m seeing less of the “online only” girls.   I’m typically a one girl person, so I have my current “regular” SB.  I still however browse because you never know when things will end. Although finding an SB is still alot of work, but I doubt I’ll go back to pros again. I just like the extra time and connection that a SB provides....

benwabbles 17 Reviews 78 reads
posted
11 / 26

some thoughts on this:

- The Cat has a good solution: "Or at least become a user-selected filter".  This would work for me.

-  Hopefully many of the online only SBs were legitimately concerned about covid and will relax that requirement as we move further out of the pandemic. I see a number of profiles not stating "fully vaxxed".

- The other SD sights just cannot seem to get their shit together enough to put out a product that can compete with SA. I do not know how quickly SA will readjust without some pressure.  Does SA own any particular patents that handcuffs a serious rival?

useyrhead 4 Reviews 77 reads
posted
12 / 26

Speaking of the money, has anyone noticed that expected rates in the sugar world seem to have increased significantly? Or am I just running into a string of GPS girls right now? I’m seeing lots of girls expecting $1K and up. And that seems steep to me. But maybe that’s just what it is now.

 
If I’ve missed a thread that already covers this topic, please let me know.

TLasso 5 Reviews 76 reads
posted
13 / 26
TLasso 5 Reviews 76 reads
posted
14 / 26

Apologies for the double post, but I’m also curious about the current state of PPM expectations. Lots of threads from four years ago seemed to indicate that $500 PM would get you all but most golden of GPS. More recent threads suggest $300-$500 may be more of the norm. I’ve been lurking and recently joined SA and am trying to line up my first couple of POTs and I want to start in reasonable territory.  

Thanks in advance.

useyrhead 4 Reviews 80 reads
posted
15 / 26

I’m just getting restarted, too. Though I had a good experience with a SB a few years back. We were at $250 per meet back then. A lovely former high school track star and young single mom trying to get back into college.

 
I’m in the San Francisco Bay Area or Silicon Valley.

herbtcat 6 Reviews 101 reads
posted
16 / 26

There have always been $1k+ SB's on the site.  Just like there have always been $200 SB's as well.  It's up to each of us to find the SB's in the range we are most comfortable paying. It should be part of your vetting process and, more importantly, part of your negotiating skills.  

 
There are too many past posts here to count on how to negotiate an allowance, and almost all of them start with the idea that what SHE asks for is never the focus of your negotiations. The key is what YOU will offer.  

 
Some context: I've been on SA for over 10 years, while living in two cities (one in Nor Cal, one in So Cal), and across a dozen or more US cities on business travel. I have consistently paid between $250 and $400 during that time, with a handful of outliers in the $500 range while on travel. And probably 75% of those have been, and still are in LA, around $300-$350.  This includes ages between 19 and 35, white, black, Asian, Latina, Persian, and east Euro women. My body type preference is slim and natural, with a few bikini-model (i.e.: Stripper) types along the way.  

 
Many POT's will tell you something like "my last SD gave me $2,000 a month and also paid my rent for me. And he always gave me $300 before each date so I could get may hair and nails done and I could dress up for him."   Now, that may actually be true! But it's not relevant to what YOU are willing to offer. You are not obligated to pay what the last guy supposedly paid. When I've had POT's who tell me something like this, I usually say something like: "Well that sounds wonderful. Unfortunately, that's just way over my budget."    

 
So, as I've said many times before, I suggest you think of your success rate much more like a batting average, than a golf score. Once you get to messaging off the site (text, snap, etc.), if you can get on base (i.e.: go BCD) 3 times out of 10, you're batting .300! That's a major league multi-million dollar contract as a DH on any MLB team.  

 
The $1k POT's are just trying to optimize their revenue. That's expected and appropriate for a site where members are transparently chasing specific goals and objectives. You are trying to optimize the value (and not necessarily minimize the cost) of your experiences. So negotiate for what you want, not what she says she is "worth."   And if you can't reach an agreement, wish her well (never burn bridges) and move on. There's another "at bat" waiting for you...  

 
Life is good

 
The Cat

Daddyhasneeds 93 reads
posted
17 / 26

Talking about money, I was just messaging back and forth with a 25 yo gorgeous SB with a ripped body. All was going well until we got to the “how can daddy help you” stage. I usually start at $300, and will go up to $400 for something special. This young lady answers that her last sd gave her 800 each time they met. I’m in South Florida. We have plenty of hi quality escorts and SB’s down here, but we also have lots of SD’s with very deep pockets, so I don’t doubt her. I gave her my 3-400 number...and I’m sure that’s the last I’ll hear from this little hottie. That’s okay, I met up with a knockout last night for $350. She was a little older than the few I’ve met, but I enjoyed being spoiled. So far the young girls are great at having their pussies played with, but they have lacked on the taking care of daddy skills.

TheGentlemanLover 147 reads
posted
18 / 26

My last SB, a 20-year old bisexual Latina, had "Platonic" in her profile preferences, but after taking the conversation offline and after a few texts during our first conversation of offering $300 for "quality time" that she was "down to get a hotel on our first meet."  

I asked her about the "Platonic" in her listing, and she told me she just listed it "to see if I made any other connections."

We shared recent Covid and STI test results and met in public a couple times since she was on her period and treated her to snacks and Food Truck food. The third time we met, after her birth control kicked-in, I brought her to my place BCD and I was balls-deep BBFS in this little 4'11" 90-pound hottie who took home a "cream pie" as a badge of honor to her roommates. LOL!  

The bliss lasted a few months, meeting a few times a month.

My point is, don't be afraid to discuss what you want offline, even if their profile says something else.

AlicinWunderland 79 reads
posted
19 / 26

There are a couple of ladies in Connecticut working the same way.  

  One is a tall, creamy white redhead who goes by [email protected]
  She is into at least two guys that I know of. Mark has given her part of his business at the rate of about $45K a year, and Red takes Mark to "see" her lesbian lover, Miss "K" (neither are on TER Boards...) . "K" then proceeds to provide the desired outcome... and she gets her donation too!

  The other guy has been supporting Sexy Corona for 7 years. She's into him for about $10K a year. She meets up with him for a "night" about every month to month and a half. She's got him convinced that she can't accommodate him so they just snuggle. Sexy Corona was introduced to Mr. by Miss "K" - convoluted I know. So, they hook up for threesomes on a regular basis.

  All that being said, Sexy Corona has yet to be reported to actually engage in any intercourse with these gentlemen that I know of... and that makes her the smartest and best little provider of all!
Hahahahahahahaha!

herbtcat 6 Reviews 78 reads
posted
20 / 26

... we do not post specific identifiable info on SB's on this board. Nor do we post named reviews of Sugar Babies.  Please consider editing or removing your post. Posters generally keep any names, or contact info within DM's when it's appropriate to do so.  

 
We do not think of SB's as "providers."  If the people you mention are providers, then perhaps you can move this post to the General Discussion board?  

 
I don't want to discourage you from posting here. All discussion and points of views are welcome. But we make a point of not labeling SB's as providers. And not labeling providers as SB - unless they choose to identify themselves as such.  

 
Life is good

 
The Cat

benwabbles 17 Reviews 110 reads
posted
21 / 26
useyrhead 4 Reviews 115 reads
posted
22 / 26

All of the responses are very helpful.

 
Thanks so much for your thoughtful replies.

AlicinWunderland 75 reads
posted
23 / 26

Nope,

  You're right... I tried to edit it, but ... it's not taking for some reason.

  I will keep your recommendation in mind.

Thank you,
~A

IronRooster 13 Reviews 73 reads
posted
24 / 26

Similar findings to The Cat. In the Twin Cities, most PPM is 200-450. Sure you can easily find asks for $500-800 but most guys laugh at them. $300 will get you GFE with an attractive but imperfect woman. $400 for newer ones if you want to be first. Add $ or $$ if you want to go multiple rounds/hours or want anal/kink. $200 will get you attractive enough and some of the best actual experiences as they feel so cherished for once. I then add some small gifts and it's sploosh time.

So yeah, there are far more BS profiles but I just hide/block relentlessly and pretty soon it's like the good old days.

I put **no online, platonic, non-locals** and I work in 'will not send $ in advance or just to meet, only interested in meeting and actual in person activities' within first few messages. Weeds out a lot of time wasters.

AlicinWunderland 84 reads
posted
25 / 26

okay.... so I have another question - if you would be so kind as to remit...

You said:
Posted By: herbtcat

 We do not think of SB's as "providers."  ...
  I don't want to discourage you from posting here. All discussion and points of view are welcome. But we make a point of not labeling SB's as providers. And not labeling providers as SB - unless they choose to identify themselves as such.  
   
  Life is good  
  The Cat
Then IronRooster said:
Re: Rates are just a number...  
Similar findings to The Cat. In the Twin Cities, most PPM is 200-450. Sure you can easily find asks for $500-800 but most guys laugh at them. $300 will get you GFE with an attractive but imperfect woman. $400 for newer ones if you want to be first. Add $ or $$ if you want to go multiple rounds/hours or want anal/kink. $200 will get you attractive enough and some of the best actual experiences as they feel so cherished for once. I then add some small gifts and it's sploosh time.  
   
 So yeah, there are far more BS profiles but I just hide/block relentlessly and pretty soon it's like the good old days.  
   
 I put **no online, platonic, non-locals** and I work in 'will not send $ in advance or just to meet, only interested in meeting and actual in person activities' within first few messages. Weeds out a lot of time wasters.

  Sounds kinda like he's quoting provider "donations" to me...
Maybe it's just the thrill of the chase...
I mean, since when do SB's provide anal/kink? I could get way out of bounds with the kink on a ..."gentleman" like that, but... I digress...

What's PPM? Parts per million?? Like in Chemistry class???
$300 for a GFE - sounds like a provider,
"an imperfect woman", "Newer ones" - sounds like.... well.... misogynistic at the least.... also like a monger....
"Multiple rounds" - definitely sounds like a sesh,
" $200 will get you attractive enough and some of the best actual experiences as they feel so cherished for once. I then add some small gifts and it's sploosh time. " - Well, give me these girls' numbers, I need to talk to them.

Enquiring minds wanna' know!
~A

AlicinWunderland 80 reads
posted
26 / 26

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