Love Goddess there's this ATF escort I've been seeing for the past year or so, she's now calling to inform me about her "work" hours for the upcoming week. Her introduction of the word, "work" into the conversation just started recently.

I hate that she uses the word "work" I wish she would use some some other word like meeting, date, get together, etc. I know it's "work" for her, but I hate it, because it makes me feel like a "John" even though I'm paying for her time.

LG, should I talk to her about my feelings on this or just let it slide.

Un/fortunately, newbiepcs,

These are the rules of the game. You are paying a commercial sex worker for obtaining sex acts. She is a prostitute, and yes, you ARE a client/john.

Personally, I find it very healthy that she is setting boundaries and referring to it as "work," since having sex for money is her job, whether full-time or part-time. At least she is not lying to herself and you. Now, this doesn't mean that she's not enjoying her job - on the contrary. She may enjoy providing very much, but she has the sanity and the boundaries in place to call it "work." It's no different than having any other service-oriented job.

If this intrudes on your fantasy, then you may have a problem with paid sex in general and/or her role as a sex worker in particular. Should you talk about it to her? Well yes, you can tell her that you feel sensitive about it and ask her to call it "dates" or whatever else you like when you are together. Just know that she may be taken aback by your request and perceive it as some kind of attempt to transcend those precious boundaries. If my hunch proves me right, she's already trying to lessen the bonds of being your ATF. Maybe she is experiencing your feelings toward her as invasive? Dunno. Final note: begin to examine your feelings about the entire endeavor.

Another once-a-week statistic,
The Love Goddess

Let's hope so.  Because readers of this board all know where this road leads, and it only pulls you further from reality.  Then next thing you know, you're telling LG that you've fallen in love and can't get up.  

My strictly non-professional opinion is the fact that this bothered you enough to post it shows you were teetering on the brink of the slippery slope and were about to become a statistic.

You're far better off to be exploring and understanding the true meaning of these feelings now, rather than let yourself get sucked into the trap of thinking you're in love with a provider.  

By all means, enjoy your time with the ladies you choose to see, just remember to never lose your perspective as to the true nature of the escort/client relationship.  Escorts provide a wonderful world of fantasy for our pleasure, just like the theatre.  But when the lights go back on, everybody needs to go home and return to reality.  If you can't do that, then you really shouldn't indulge in this activity.

Consider your sense of reality like a thin condom (OK, a simile if you will.)

Keep it thin enough to be able to enjoy the encounter, but strong enough to prevent any germs from corrupting your inner mind's workings.

You folks misread my post. I'm well aware of the set boundaries between escorts and hobbyists. All I'm suggesting is that for the fantasy "time" we spend together, she not make me feel like it's work for her. What's wrong with that? It's no different from a guy asking their escort date, to dress like a street hooker, nurse, teacher, doctor etc.

I would never ever consider dating an escort. Paying a woman to satisfy my sexual desires and then going out on a date with her, makes absolutely Zero sense to me. It's rare, but I've been asked by a few escorts, to go out on dates, movies, trips etc and have discretely turned them down.

Well, you are talking about two different issues now. Sending you her "work" schedule so that you can book an appointment with her is really not the same thing as her using terms like "it's my job" when you are in bed with her. The fantasy, such as it is, starts when you are alone in a room together.  Outside of the bedroom it is, and should be, all business unless you are both comfortable with it being otherwise.

The fact that it is a new occurrence says to me that she may be starting to have issues with clients, possibly even you, regarding boundaries. The fantasy element of this is clearly coming from your side, not hers.  You may have to just learn to live with it or move on.

You both know why you meet.  No need to rub your nose in it.
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I have a whole collection of them in the bedroom.

8o)

and I will attest to the fact that sometimes, it makes for sticky situations.  (And not the good kind of sticky either!)

But still, I would consider continuing to do so on a case by case basis.

Overall I think I've had more good results than bad, and I'm at the point in life now where I can accept breaking up with someone if that's what has to happen.