The Erotic Highway

thanks.
Claudius42310 13 Reviews 6469 reads
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but i think that the flighty and unstable thing is not implied by the idea that there might be a correlation.

remember that correlation is not the same as causation. folks who are not bi or bi-curious can certainly be adventurous and highly motivated. the question of correlation does not contradict your experience. i am not prone to making that sort of error in statistical inference (at least not without much wine or beer).

my question was simply out of personal observation. it could be that bi and bi-curious women give me more of a chance because run against stereotype a bit? i don't know.

in a message above i noted LUG and BUG where the UG stands for until graduation. i dimly recall a post or two in the past about bi as a fad.

i've never experienced it directly. the bi, bi-curious and lesbian ladies i know have all been past the school fad stage.

with only one exception (a multi decadal FWB when we are otherwise unattached) all of my civy SO LTRs have been either quite bi or bi curious. my short term flings in between, not so much and also also less passionate and adventurous sexually.

most of the providers i have met are quite bi, passionate about sex and adventure seems a prerequisite. (the one who claims to not be so bi i think is understating her bi-ness. she has a profile on a swinger dating site looking for girls only. but i digress.)

is sexual interest and adventure correlated with being bi or bi-curious?

TheLoveGoddess6828 reads

Dear texcat,

From a social science purpose, I think it would be unwise to seek grants to determine if "sexual interest and adventure" is "correlated with being bi or bi-curious. Whenever you imply that a sexual orientation is this or that, you run the risk of making statements that do not sit well with one group or another. In addition, that kind of hypothesis would be fairly difficult to prove, since we're dealing with so many individual differences.

Now, it would stand to reason that if someone is bi-sexual, he or she is exposed to far more potential targets of attraction, since both genders are of interest. So it could be that bisexual women, say 18-59, are voluntarily exposing themselves to the POSSIBILITY of sexual encounters with more people than would heterosexual women. This in turn could lead to a more open and liberal stance on sexual issues in general, but....it's not a good idea to generalize. And openness to having more sexual partners doesn't necessarily translate to more passion once in bed.

As for providers, well, it's their job to be passionate, although one could very well make the assumption that sexually passionate women would feel more comfortable with voluntary sex work than women who are less passionate. But since many aspects of being a provider involve "professional behavior" [by some construed as "acting], it's difficult to tell how the person behaves when she is engaging in unpaid sex. Please remember that many providers are sexual artists and can provide exquisite performances that include dramatic personalities often tailored to the needs of the client. Off the clock, however, the same provider can be quiet, calm and not particularly adventurous at all. Sort of like Meryl Streep and her many roles - a great actor, but in real life not at all like the people she portrays.

If you are truly interested in bisexuality, you might want to check out the Journal of Bisexuality. It's very good, scientific and has lots of information.

Or maybe it's you attracting fiery women?
The Love Goddess

acronyms that had escaped my notice: LUG, BUG and GUG. i will look for the journal at local university libraries. thanks.

thanks for the causal analysis of hypotheses underlying such a correlation. i can understand how some hypotheses might be politically difficult. but it was a surprise to this hard scientist that this topic might be difficult!

i blush at your compliment. rather than being especially attractive to fiery ladies, perhaps it is fairer to say they are more inclined to permit the favor of an initial audition. afterwards some report being pleasantly surprised..... no more. i shall have to do a more thorough study,

mille grazie....

Maybe its something in the water where I have lived, but I have never had a civvy  BI GF...
I have had GFs  in the past ask me to do her and another girl that she picked,but they only played with me, and not with each other...So what happened ...I couldn't satisfy both of them,and my GFs always got jealous thinking I was giving her friend more attention ..
I did have a GF I quit seeing, and when I called her a few years later she said don't bother I am lesbian now..
I know I got off topic quite a bit but I felt the need to vent..TYVM

but i have never had the pleasure. time and circumstances always seem to get in the way.

there is a particular duo that i think of as my "dream team": a physical incarnation of physical and emotional characters that have graced my erotic dreams (together and separately)for decades.

(let's not get too Jungian about this OK?)

but it is never going to happen. so i thikn i'll die a doubles virgin. ;-)

Tex One of the things I like about you is the vocabulary you share...Jungian ..I had to look it up ..I like that word and I even took a jungian test..http://webspace.ship.edu/cgboer/jungiantypestest.html
Back to the duos ...I have tried twice with, two different sets of providers, but other than some nipple kissing it wasn't what I expected..
and just like the civvies I couldn't give them as much as they desired..lol but I tried

the two girl dream team has a Jungian interpretation that isn't related to the personality type test. i think that a particular duo would be highly amusing and efective because of my peculiaritues. but it's not going to happen and i'll be fine with that.

with regard to the test, what did you find? i've usually turned out infp. which i guess explains my preference to hobby with a few ladies as a repeat client. ;-)

texcat with regard to the test, what did you find?

ESTJ...not sure what it means but I always seem to back off a bit if I begin to feel too comfortable  with someone I am paying..
Maybe I am afraid she will get me hooked and raise her rates..lol

i didn't take the test you suggested because i have taken the test many times over decades.  as i said in an earlier post i am an INFP. perhaps you missed it because i lower cased it?

so i am outwardly calm, inwardly having a very vivid emotional life, devoted to others emotional well being and desirous of harmony, good with language, tolerant and accepting, all nice things. BUT if the INFP's values are challenged or threatened he/she can be a royal pain in the ass.

i have been known to be rather obnoxious when i see clarity and harmony under attack. so stereotyping can get me riled. being treated as a type can be annoying to me.

ESTJ... practical, realistic with a good head for business and running things. maybe you're right. i think you would perhaps be immune to falling in love with a provider? the topic of most common concern here? it would make no business sense.

you can find your type by Googling on the ' ESTJ wiki '

OTOH if a provider ever met my need for harmony and clarity about a relationship i think i would be in deep trouble. especially if i thought it clear i could be good for her emotionally... but also OTOH i think that my concern about the emotional well being of others has enabled me to be able to let go of relationships easily when it was clearly good for the other's emotional well being.

transform a clear relationship into a vague one and i am driven to restore clarity. clarity and harmony are the easy ways into and out of my life.

texcat..."you can find your type by Googling on the ' ESTJ wiki "

I should have tried to google it but I must have had brain freeze..I hear a lot of questions that I don't know the answer and my typical response is, "I will google it and let you know"..

lilli4450 reads

"is sexual interest and adventure correlated with being bi or bi-curious?"

in my humble opinion, no, because that would imply that something that rather than one's sexuality being innate and a core trait, it is something flighty and unstable, something that can change based on external influences. personally, i do not believe this.

LG is also correct when she states that many providers and women in the sex industry in general are good actors and often their true sexual self is something entirely contrary to their "professional" persona.

while i would consider myself and my sexuality to be quite "adventurous," in and out of escorting, i am not bisexual and have never been bi-curious. i believe that bisexuality is a legitimate sexual identity just as much as heterosexuality and homosexuality, and therefore is an innate part of who you are and not a fad, trend or something that has anything to do with one's personality (i.e. being "adventurous"), character, etc. unfortunately for the last 12-15 years or so bisexuality among women has become trendy and fashionable, and in such an atmosphere you have many women who feign bisexuality or bi-curiousness in order to either fit in among their peers or seem more appealing to males. you also have many false assumptions about female sexuality in general spreading about like wildfire. hopefully this fad will soon come to an end, and women will finally be free to be who they are and express their true sexuality.

but i think that the flighty and unstable thing is not implied by the idea that there might be a correlation.

remember that correlation is not the same as causation. folks who are not bi or bi-curious can certainly be adventurous and highly motivated. the question of correlation does not contradict your experience. i am not prone to making that sort of error in statistical inference (at least not without much wine or beer).

my question was simply out of personal observation. it could be that bi and bi-curious women give me more of a chance because run against stereotype a bit? i don't know.

in a message above i noted LUG and BUG where the UG stands for until graduation. i dimly recall a post or two in the past about bi as a fad.

i've never experienced it directly. the bi, bi-curious and lesbian ladies i know have all been past the school fad stage.

lilli4147 reads

texcat, unfortunately the fad is not limited to those of school age. but i am certainly not questioning your own personal relationship experiences. more than likely there is something about your personality and nature that attracts women who are both bisexual and sexually adventurous.

and of course correlation and causation are not the same, my response was poorly worded. my intent was only to emphasize that one's sexuality is in no way related to one's personality or character. a bisexual isn't any more likely to be sexually adventurous and open-minded than someone born with brown eyes.

so yes, in this girl's opinion, you (and all the unique and interesting qualities that make up who you are) are the determining factor in your experiences here. and if you happen to like sexually "free" women who happen to be bisexual...lucky you. ;)

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