Does that make me an addict?

I have problems with some of their questions because they relate to phenomena without questioning the motivation underneath.

I still feel that the best answer to whether or not you are addicted is to ask whether the behaviour is a problem for you personally, as opposed to the rest of society.

Or as some wags (me included) would put it:  An addiction is a hobby you can't afford.

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Interesting website, LG, but I'm a little amazed at the criteria it suggests for its desired 'sobriety': "We have found through our experience that sobriety includes freedom from masturbation and sex outside a mutually-committed relationship."

Don't you agree that hardly any male in America would meet that standard?

As you suggest, the true criterion may not be the website's simple list, but rather whether or not the individual feels his/her sexual behavior is a personal problem, interfering with the rest of his/her life.  

For most people, thinking about sex a lot, masturbating and having occasional sex outside of a 'committed relationship' is *not* really a problem.

If no one ever had sex outside a committed relatinship, few committed relationships would ever have formed.  Isn't that's the way we're built? Sometimes (particularly for men) it's sex first, love second.

I'm sure this organization has been very helpful to many people.  But its website reads, at least to me, as  a little moralistic and unsophisticated. It could actually make some normal people feel guilty, when they shouldn't.

back then it wasn't called hobbing. But I got into the hobby about 7 years ago after divorce and I enjoy it. I'm not interested in a long term relationship, so hobbying takes care of my needs for now and I love it.