I had a civvie friend and as as a joke I told her to call me daddy (I forget why) and I gave her a nickname. Nothing to do with DDLG. I thought she wouldn't go for calling me daddy. But, she did with some reservation. After that day, she continued to call me daddy whenever spoke or hung out and I have to say that I liked it. Maybe this DDLG thing is something I should look into more.
I have an opening on my A list to replace the 23-year old brunette I met last October.
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So as an experiment I decided to add this line in the middle of my "seeking" section:
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"I'd like to learn more about DDLG and explore submissives as well."
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Too soon to know if it's having any effect: It's only been there for 2 days, and none of the favorites or messages I have received have been from POT's who mention being subs in their profile or a message (if sent). But I do seem to be getting views and Favorites at about 2x what I "normally" get.
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I'll report back if I see any definitive (negative or positive) results.
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Life is good.
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The Cat
I've never advertised for it, but it has happened and it's truly fun. My date this afternoon is really into it, calling me her Daddy and me calling her my Little girl and lots of much more cutesy/dirty talk while we are doing cutesy/dirty things to each other.
I had a civvie friend and as as a joke I told her to call me daddy (I forget why) and I gave her a nickname. Nothing to do with DDLG. I thought she wouldn't go for calling me daddy. But, she did with some reservation. After that day, she continued to call me daddy whenever spoke or hung out and I have to say that I liked it. Maybe this DDLG thing is something I should look into more.
I've discussed it with some (I'm not really into it per se) but there are little girls and there are little girls ... meaning they want to be treated as a little girl -- without any sex. So that was the end of that discussion. I want the sex, not the little girl.
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What is DDLG?
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Loggia-T-Cat: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/T.H.E._Cat

Acronym for a lifestyle/fetish:
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Dear Daddy / Little Girl
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Life is good
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The (Real) Cat
herbtcat, I dont know how you do it. Just trying to a get a decent SB/FWB seems to be tough enough in NY!
I've been on SA for 15 days with no meaningful even coffee dates!
@tarheelsf,
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Patience, Padawan. Spend an hour reading past pots here about setting up 1st time meet & greets (M&G) and you will see that 15 days is just the warm up period. Do try to treat these women as escorts (though there are escorts on SA). Finding a POT who you like and who likes you is more like interviewing them for a job then ordering from a menu.
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And, just to set expectations, you will generally always be in recruitment/hiring mode, even after you find a SB to take BCD. SB's and SD's drift in and out of the game often. You may find one that stays with you for months or even years. But you will also find (lol- I originally wrote "fund" instead of "find". Freudian?) SB's who only see you once or a few times before they fade away. A wise SD has 2 or 3 POT's on deck. An experienced (and well funded) SD has multiple (3 to 6?) SB's in a rotation, and works through the roster throughout the month.
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You are just starting... once you have mastered the Sugar Force, you will be ready to build your own lightsaber.
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(With apologies to George Lucas... I just saw Star Wars-The Rise of Skywalker.)
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Life is good.
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The Cat
Thank you for the advice. It was quick contacting an escort either through their booker or after looking them up here. I think I will have to keep seeing escorts till I patiently try to develop even my first SB!
Appreciate the advice!
Earlier in this thread I mentioned a current SB who likes to talk dirty, is into DD/lg and likes it rough. It's worth noting that it took me nearly a year to get BCD with her! We exchanged msgs on SA, we met for a lunch date and I felt a strong mutual connection, then she never agreed to meet up again. Fast forward 10 months when she contacted me once again and said she'd like to meet me . Another lovely coffee date ensued, followed shortly after by our first BCD date. She's truly stunning, tall, slim, sexual as hell, amazingly responsive, loves getting fucked hard. She's now one of my top regulars. Any yes, I've had some SBs hop into bed with me immediately. But more often it takes time. This is an extreme example, but it does usually take weeks between first online contact and first fuck. Keep developing multiple leads, wait till the sugar begins to flow in your direction, and enjoy life as never before!
In science, they say that all results have value, even (perhaps especially) failures.
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After almost two weeks of flying my "submissive SB's wanted" language on my profile, I have failed to attract any POT's that have mentioned this, or whose profile indicates they are "submissive" or prefer "dominant" men.
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I'll keep it there for a while longer, just to get more data.
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So I guess these results are a success in that I have been able to test a theory and get useful feedback.... but it sure as fuck didn't get me laid.
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Life is good
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The Cat
Since my "fail" update, things have started to happen, sort of...
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I've received 5 new messages from local POT's, and 2 have specifically mentioned DDLG. The 1st one turned out to be BSC: We scheduled a M&G 5 days out. But three days before that I was spammed at around 11:30 pm with multiple texts over a 30 minute period asking me to bang her that night. Comments like "Freebie", "take my ass bare", and "NSA" were repeated. I passed, as my Spidey senses were clanging at full volume. On the day scheduled for the M&G, ghosted.
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The 2nd one was a blond, MILFY type claiming to be 36. I looked at her pics, and I'm pretty sure she's closer to 46. No hits form reverse image search. She says she's a "BDSM switch and enjoys DDLG play." If she was 26, I'd set up a M&G. Honestly, even though I've yet to try a DDLG role play scenario, I just can't see myself getting into it with someone who looks like a soccer mom's older aunt. Since I received 3 other messages in the same couple of days from 20-ish spinner hotties, I'm leaving the MILF behind.
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The Cat
So the other 3 from my last post fizzled out and I circled back to the MILF who says she's into DDLG. Exchanged texts and she repeated her age as 36. We agreed to general terms and a M&G this Saturday.
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I'll see how this plays out... if I go in with low expectations I probably won't end up disappointed.
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The Cat
And she cancelled. Offered to reschedule... no reply after a week.
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The Cat
You post lots of helpful info and advice here. And you post about many of your successes here. Posting about the failures might be boring and irrelevant to some, but it also keeps it real. It isn't always easy.
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And it makes me less jealous.
And she cancelled. Offered to reschedule... no reply after a week.
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The Cat
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