This is my story, of why I transitioned from seeing professional escorts (“pros”) to exclusively seeing the “sugar babies” of SA.  

I should start by saying that I had or was supposed to have 32 pro encounters. Of these only 6, or 19% were good; while more than twice as many, 13, a full 41% were awful; 7 or 22% were OK/so-so; while I was stood up 6 times (19%), the latter all by TER reviewed ladies.

Overall, I was never at ease in the scene from the get go, given the legal implications. For me, this always seemed to hang over everything like a dark shadow – the pervasive air of mistrust, the time consuming reference checks, the LEO checks, the cloak and dagger assignations.  A second general consideration is that many providers are just not the sort of people I can easily connect with. It is just a fact that many are not from my usual educational or social level. It is hard to try and connect with women when they ask where you have been, and they have no idea what/where the countries are that I mention, or don’t know what a bishop or colonel are, to use some actual examples.  

What were some of the awful experiences? There was the pretty, fashion-house black girl who put me in hospital with a communicable disease, which – it turns out – she knew she recently had. There were the two women who emitted vile smells when my Wee Willie was introduced. One of these was rated as no less than a “courtesan” on a local board; her incall was also disgusting.  There were two bait and switches, despite having reviews – fake reviews? Then there was the very highly ranked TER girl who was down to relieve me of my anal virginity. She greeted me by sticking her tongue down my throat. Some folks like that, but she had the worst breath of anyone I have ever met. I gagged and nearly threw up. I was unable to get hard enough to put it in her ass, and just wanted to escape. Then there was my introduction to the “hobby” – an upseller. The last one I want to mention in this category is a very popular TER lady with stellar reviews. In person, she turned out to be at least 20 years older than listed on per profiles, and is literally a granny.  

In the so-so category I include several DT and Greek “specialists” who failed to deliver on their claimed specialties when confronted by my Wee Willie. Also in this category were several women who took advantage of my easy-going nature to spend much to almost all the time I was paying for to talk about their crazy business schemes, personal problems or psychoanalyzing me.  

By contrast, it is interesting to me that two of my best experiences, with women who actually delivered DT and Greek services, turned out to be tiny, flat-chested 100 lb girls, so it is not a question of the woman’s size. Finally, my two all time favorite girls, who I repeated with several times, each managed to get rid of me. One by casually alluding to suffering from herpes, the other by providing dramatically declining levels of service on each repeat.  

In summary, over 40% of my pro experiences were what I consider awful, while only 19% were what I think of as good.  I think that is shocking when you consider the rates I was paying. Many of these were in the 500-750 range, and none were under 300.  Given these numbers, I had pretty much given up on the scene.  

Compare that now with the SA scene. It is night and day. The most important differences from my perspective are the differences in the legal and social situations, and the “reality” of the girls and the experiences they offer.  The SB/SD scene does not have the same legal issues as the escort scene, which transforms the whole situation. It does not have the all-pervasive suspicion that escorts labor under. Then there is the completely different social aspect. While there are SBs from all backgrounds, there are many “ideal” SBs – real college/university students, many from elite institutions. These women are my educational and social equals, and I can talk to them easily for sustained periods. They know what I am talking about, and can respond in kind. Then there is the reality aspect – the photos are more accurate and realistic. Most importantly, the personal interactions – the sex – is infinitely more real. It is not a scripted scenario such as providers tend to go through by jaded rote, but a spontaneous thing. And the SBs are really “GFE”. My measly three SBs all appeared genuinely happy to be with me. Two of the three were as picky as I was, and we all freely chose each other. BCD, they all really got into it, and I believe everyone left very happy from all our sessions – so far a 100% success rate. In summary, the girls are better, the overall experience is better, the stress and worry are removed, the sex is better and longer, and all for way less outlay. I am kicking myself for not signing up years ago.

Let me say I'm new to the sugar bowl. But, the 2 ladies I've been with so far are both around 8 and 9 in looks..Haven't paid more then 200 p.p.m. per sessions. This doesn't include dinner/drinks. Both could host at nice condos. We'd spend anywhere from 2 to 4 hrs together. These girls could've easily been the 300 to 400 hr.range babes you see on p411. Great value for the cash" so yea I agree that it's a better gfe..but, what has me stumped, is how could you have such bad luck with the pro's?  I've done 26 reviews and only 2 were what I'd say would fall below the 7 performance mark, and 7 in looks.. it takes due diligence, research on your part to really make sure the money you're about to spend, IS well spent..lol  angies list quote..

I dont go with pros much anymore. Thr SB chase is too fun.  
However I  have found that the performance of a lot of SBs is lacking. Especially for oral. With no reviews you are rolling the dice but every now and then you find a keeper.

I have seen hundreds of them and most of my encounters are from good to great. They range from K-girls to 1k-hour TER top 10 providers. Other than K-girls and some other foreign girls who don't speak English well, I have had interesting conversations with most of them. Many are students working their way through college and many have college degrees; a few even have graduate degrees. Emma Dupree went to the Law School; not sure if she got her law degree. I saw her several times and she just "unretired". Quite a few have good day jobs and just do this to supplement their incomes.

SBs definitely provide much better values and that's why I am seeing them almost exclusively these days. But I didn't turn to them because of bad experiences with escorts.

and I haven't only seen women from dozens of countries, I have seen women from at least a couple of dozen countries in their home country. lol

I don't know just what the OP is doing wrong, but judging from his posts here so far, i think it might stem from his wanting the system to change to suit him, rather than him learning how to get the most out of the system as it is.

Either way, even though he is a bit of a douche I am happy he has finally found a place to get laid that appeals to him. Personally I am like you and I have enjoyed a nice mix of hookers, SBs, slutty bar chicks. secretaries, waitresses, strippers, you name the type of woman and I have probably fucked at least one of them. lol

500-750?  Maybe that's what was wrong?

By way of contrast, I seem to have been highly lucky.  

I have never yet paid as much as 300 for an hour of sex (marriage not included) in SF Bay area.  In four dozen encounters with just over two dozen women, not one has been awful and a strong majority have been good, excellent, or spectacular.  No flakes, no stinky pussies, no B&S that mattered to me, no diseases, no refusal of services I expected and requested, only occasional mistrust, no intrusive LE checks.  I do not seek fancy-dress socialite-pattern women, so none of their issues.  

I have been cautious, I think, about reviews and recommendations, but not extremely.  

Sometimes I wonder how I came to be so blessed.  

Thank you for the extended discussion of your history and situation.  It's valuable to see the truth of other lives.

I thought you might say this. But two points in return.  

First, I think personally meeting SBs face-to-face for tea/coffee is worth more than any number of TER reviews. That way, **I** get to directly judge how well **I** get a long with the girl. I can assure myself in advance that I will feel comfortable spending hours alone with her in private without wanting to run for the hills screaming. By contrast, I could not wait to get to the end of all too many of my pro sessions.

Second, I will admit that the SBs may not have all the techniques that a pro might have, but so far their genuineness has trumped my desire to indulge in more naughty activities.  I will even go so far as to confess that my new grad student SB has yet to put her lips to Wee Willie, but I forgive her as
- She is a phenomenal kisser,
- She moans and groans in the Asian style (cultural conditioning!),
- She has the prettiest pussy I have ever seen,
- She lets me go to town on said pretty pussy, and
- She is phenomenal for intercourse. She is single finger tight, and I can feel strong muscle contractions throughout, with spasms at the end.
In any case, my other keeper SB excels in the oral department, being a "I want to taste you" kind of girl...

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Used mostly agency's and good reviewed ladies.   Students sometimes in both escort and SB.    Sugar baby's have mostly been good too.   Don't always do BBBJ.   Treat a girl with respect and she usually does a good job.      Cost to me is the same.    A good sb loves you if you take care of her and provides  dates, trips, and what ever you request.      You do get a lot of drama from their kids and mama.      Had to pay on line for a son's pizza in Fort Walton one time.    Straight talk phone service.   etc    The good part is you own her and you don't worry about LE.   Pussy anytime you want it with no extra allowance.      No service no allowance.     On new SB you have to be careful when you make arrangements.     They will run away if you pay bills in advance.       They have flim flamed me 3 times so far.   Mostly when I get careless and take a chance.    

"I should start by saying that I had or was supposed to have 32 pro encounters. Of these only 6, or 19% were good; while more than twice as many, 13, a full 41% were awful; 7 or 22% were OK/so-so; while I was stood up 6 times (19%), the latter all by TER reviewed ladies."

My escort experience is about half k-girls and have pee four indies. The k-girls were the economical, reliable, short notice backstop. I -never- had a bad experience; they ranged from good to great, and the only lacking thing is that conversation was limited by time and language. But, oh, I miss living in a town with 4 great k-girl agencies! The only problem was more choices than I had wallet.

The p4 indies are about 50% great, 40% very good, 10% disappointing. Mostly, these women are smart (they've had to set up web sites, get pictures, manage scheduling, and essentially, learn to run a successful small business), the best of them are VERY customer focussed and the smallest degree of politeness and repeat business is strongly rewarded. In about 5% of the cases, my repeat business has bordered on an SA arrangement, with OTC time, lunches, etc.

In fact, in the SA world I am still trying to replicate that 5% experience, from the other side, as it were. No luck so far, but I live in a small town. Despite a couple of acceptable one offs with SBs, I'm still looking for the unicorn, and I've found unicorns a couple of times via TER and pee four.

Thought I should respond to all those who commented on how different their experience has been.  I too wonder why my experiences have been so poor!  My thoughts:
- First, I miscounted. "Good" was actually 8 out of 34 trys, bringing the percentage up a bit, to 23.5%
- Simply statistics? Has to happen to some poor slob, could just be me.
- I have a very sensitive sense of smell. From the other thread I discovered that many/most of you are not so blessed, so perhaps others would not even have noticed my rancid pussy odor or foul breath encounters?
- I did spend a LOT of time doing background research on TER and a local board. I went for many a well reviewed/highly ranked girl, to come away disappointed. I think there is rampant "grade inflation", and that a dead horse would be rated a "solid 7, maybe an 8..."  
- Maybe I am too nice. Seriously. Lots of girls commented on this and focused on chatting me up. One wanted me to get rid of my wife and take her instead (to be fair, I had said I wanted to live in her throat..), others wanted me to go on dates off the clock, or get involved in business ventures (bespoke nipple cups...), another spent 110 of 120 min weirding me out with astonishingly accurate psychoanalysis. She read me like a book, while I just wanted to be shagged.
- My Wee Willie is not so wee. They invariably comment, and being (very) well endowed is not actually the best thing in the world when you are seeking Greek and DT pleasures...